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Edgy, Rebellious? Welcome to the New Age!

Dear Ones,

Have you been tired even though there are no specific indicators of why you should be? Have you been edgy, angry – perhaps even rebellious? Welcome to the New Age!

You wonder how we can celebrate your behaviors when you are worried that a few more days of such behaviors might force you to live the remainder of your life in some isolated area where you can no longer offend yourself or others!

You probably are not finding these last few weeks, and particularly last few days,  amusing. Yet, we find your behavior delightful.

You have decades of “rule following” to shed and as predicted you are doing so on a daily basis. Despite our predictions, you never expected to do so in such a raw format. You expected your shedding of societal rules to occur in a gentle fashion that would not be noticed by most people in your life. Instead, you are finding that your rages are happening frequently and often without cause.

Does your behavior remind you of a 2 year old? It should. That is how you are acting. If your dinner is late, you are angry not because you are starving, but because your body is telling you to eat – NOW. If you are tired, you are angry. Not because you are sleep deprived, but because you are not following your bodies indicators. A 2 year old acts in much the same fashion – but you make allowances for such behavior because the child is two.

Allow yourself that same freedom. Think of it as the “terrible 55s” or the” terrible 62s” or whatever age you are. Your anger, your surprising behaviors and your interactions with others are no different from what was true for you when you were two. The only difference is that your society does not allow for such behaviors once you have reached adulthood – or in many cases, once you started school.

You have much to release, just as is true for a 2 year old. Suppose you ignore your inner needs and continue to listen to the dictates of society of how you should behave? Will you cease to exist as a person? No. Will your future be more difficult? Yes.

Perhaps you are familiar with child development stages such as the terrible twos or  the teen’s need to separate from parents or the other milestones that you, as a society, accept as truisms and use to modify your reactions to those particular age groups.

Child development is a relatively new science. Past generations did not make allowances for “childish” behaviors. A child was expected to follow the dictates of that culture whether he was 3 years old or 15 years old. In past cultures, seven years of age was considered the first year of adulthood.

Neither today’s child development principles, nor past principles are right or wrong. Merely different. Today, children are allowed to be children for a longer period than has been the case in most past civilizations. That freedom allows and has allowed most of you to work on issues that were merely dreamed of in past generations. You had the freedom to sleep, eat and play when your body told you that such activities were correct for you. Pre-school age children of previous times often worked in factories. Or were married at the age of four and sent to the home of their bride or groom. Today, such actions would be considered child abuse.

A new science of adult development is being created. Of course, you currently allow for a mid-life crises, pregnancy and the inconsistencies of menopause, but beyond these three factors there is little deviation from the rules for adult behavior.

Your society is accepting and even starting to expect shifts in adult behavior that were not noted or accepted previously. You, as a society, are finally allowing yourself the freedom to be as an adult, just as you allow children the freedom to be.

This is an amazing and confusing time for you and for all adults. You are feeling new feelings – not the least of which is rage – and you are allowing yourself to express those feelings to the surprise of those who expect you to act in a particular fashion because that is how you have acted for your most of your adult life. You are even shocking yourself with your thoughts and behaviors.

Just as is true for many of you who have completed child development research; or have been forced to skip stages such as the “terrible twos” only to have to work through those stages as an adult with a trained professional, it is beyond time for your society to note and allow adult stages that have consequences far beyond current expectations.

The term “teen-ager” was coined in the mid 1900s. Are teens not are expected to act erratically? That was not necessarily the case one hundred years ago. The term “teen-ager” was not even widely used prior to 1940.

Before the creation of child development stages, society expected everyone to behave in a similar fashion throughout childhood – childhood was merely an extension of adulthood.  Once childhood was an accepted phase of life, children were allowed to behave according to their inner being, rather than societal dictates – creating the study of child development. The same is now true for adult development.

So allow yourself to behave in a fashion you did not believe possible a mere few years ago. Listen to your inner being and act on its urges. Just as was true for the study of child development at the beginning of the 20th century, the study of adult development will not be possible until there is a large pool of adults behaving as they wish to behave.

Be yourself. Listen to your inner being and act on those thoughts. You cannot misbehave. You will not destroy yourself or others. You will merely come into your being with all of the joy and glory you wished when you elected to be born in this lifetime. Allow yourself to be and you will help advance various scientific fields. More importantly, allow yourself to be so that you can finally access the joy and fun you have wanted to access. So be it. Amen.

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February 24, 2010 at 5:21 pm 2 comments


Dear Ones,

Perhaps you have recently heard various singers perform the song Hallelujah! A song of joy and poetry. You might even find yourself humming the song as you go about your daily tasks. That is not an accident. Not that this song encompasses all that we have talked about in our blogs and e-books, but rather that it encourages you to shout to the heavens and to others your joy in being alive, your joy in discovering your new skills and new directions.

Perhaps some of you are afraid to shout hallelujah just for fun – but why? Go ahead – spread your arms and shout to yourself or anyone who cares to listen – HALLELUJAH! Was that not fun and a bit out of character? The New Age constitutes new behaviors and new beliefs – one of which is that you are a glorious being who is marking the path for others so they dare join you in your New Age fun.

Have you ever listened to children sing just for the joy of singing? Do they care about pitch or tone? Why do you? Are you not cautious about creating a scene? Are you not concerned that someone will find you silly? Or someone will be offended or irritated? So you hunker down and play by the rules, “Do not talk in elevators.” “Do not be too loud.” Do not dance too wildly.” “Control yourself.”

When and why did you feel the need to control yourself? Was it at age four? At age 21? Or was that control a progressive sense of containing yourself into an acceptable little box? One that society agreed upon was appropriate for your age, race and gender? Is it not interesting that men kissing each other is completely acceptable in some countries and not in others? Or that dancing is sedate in some countries and “wild and crazy” in others? Even humor shifts from country to country. Yet, you firmly maintain control on your behavior so that you will be acceptable to society. Which society?

Some of you have  moved to a country or locale that is more accepting of your being. But even in those locations you maintain age appropriate behaviors. When was the last time you danced as you walked along the sidewalk? Or the last time you laughed loudly and inappropriately?

Infants laugh as long and as loud as they like. Toddlers dance and sing with delight whenever they wish. They talk in church and even run with scissors if possible. Infants and toddlers do not follow  rules, nor do they want to.

Slowly but surely, your society assumes control until all adults follow similar patterns. Toning down is a key element of your society.

How can you live in joy if your joy is sifted through society’s sieve of correct behavior? Why should you behave differently on a picnic in which you might have a few drinks than at your office or in church?

Many of you are now thinking that you would not drink alcohol in your office and so you behave differently than is true on a picnic. We beg to differ. If you allowed yourself to behave as your inner being directed all day every day, you would have little need for alcohol and other drugs.

Alcohol and other drugs are necessary when you have so hidden your true self that only alcohol and drugs allow you to be free. Do you not you speak and act differently when you are imbibing than when you are not? And does society not allow that behavior based on the amount of alcohol or drugs you have used? You even have terms for your behavior shifts related to alcohol – “mean drunk” “silly drunk”  “druggie” all of which allow you to behave in a manner that society finds erratic, but acceptable given the circumstances.

What if you behaved in the same fashion whether you were drunk or sober? Better yet, what if society encouraged you to behave in a similar fashion whether you were drunk or sober? What if you are using drugs and alcohol to access your true self?

For many of you that last statement is a  frightening thought for you do not like the “you” who appears in a drug or alcohol stupor. Yet you feel the need to use either or both – why? Could it be because such a stupor is the only manner in which you allow yourself the freedom to be? And so it is.

We will add one more piece. The reason your behavior feels out of kilter when you are in a drug or alcohol induced state is that you have so  “bottled up” your true feelings that you must explode – not unlike a pressure cooker releasing steam. If you allowed yourself to sing in joy at the level that feels most fun whenever you feel like singing or whatever behavior feels the most fun at that moment, you would have little interest in drugs and alcohol.

So sing, dance and play to your heart’s content. Hallelulah! It is time for you to be who you are instead of who society dictates you should be.

Perhaps you are now thinking that if you truly allowed yourself to be who you are, you would be fired. Find another job – one that allows you to be who you are. Now that you can create whatever you want, whenever you want it, why would you opt to remain in a job, community or friendship that curtails your being?

The New Age is not about rules. It is about finding and cherishing your being. And so it is. Amen.

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February 17, 2010 at 3:48 pm Leave a comment

You Might Not Feel What You Want to Feel on Valentine’s Day

Dear Ones,

Today is a very fun post for us as we are nearing the time of your calendar year that speaks to the heart – Valentine’s Day. Of course, just as is true for your Christmas celebrations, Valentine’s Day is a societal concept designed to generate feelings of love and warmth. That is fine. It does not matter how such feelings are generated, as long as they are generated. What is different about Valentine’s Day 2010 is that it is the first to encompass both societal and Universal feelings.

Is February 14, 2010 different from February 15 or February 12th? Yes and no. Astrologically, such is the case. But the feelings that you generate on the 14th will merely be an extension of those which you have delved into for some time and will continue to do so for the rest of your time on earth.

Many of you are not feeling the warmth that you think that you should given that the New Age has arrived. Perhaps you are miffed at someone. Perhaps your daily activities seem boring. Perhaps your mate feels less than what you want or also feels boring. Do not be concerned. This is a time of massive shifts within individuals and thereby, your society. Do not expect your heart to go pitter-patter at the sight of your mate just because it is Valentine’s Day. But then, do not be surprised if it does.

There are so many shifts now that the unexpected is actually the expected. Do not fret if you do not feel what you want to feel on February 14th. It is merely a day. Nothing more or nothing less.

What is most important is your inner voice. Is your inner voice telling you to leave or exit the relationship? If so, you are with the wrong person. But if your inner being does not generate such feelings, your discomfort, your lack of expected and anticipated warmth toward your mate is merely a short-term feeling generated by the changes in your world and your being –  not an indicator of your true feelings.

When you first met your mate, your energies were joined into a happy and loving twosome that generated joy in both of you. Since then, you have probably moved through many issues together, but have met somewhere in the middle reaffirming your original commitment and joy of being with one another.

This New Age transition is a bit different. Neither of you have the guide-lines provided by your society to tell you if your mate does this, your expected societal reaction should be that. You both had something to push against. For example, if she had an affair you could decide if you would play the wounded mate and continue with the relationship or if you would play the angry spouse who throws her clothes out the window. Both were accepted and expected reactions.

In the New Age, there will be hundreds, thousands of different reactions to the same scenario. And those reactions may change daily. There is no longer anyone to tell you what is the most appropriate reaction. Those of you listening to your inner being will have as many different reactions as there are inner beings.

Do you now understand your feelings of disconnect with your mate and in truth, those around you? You care – you know you care. You continue to have  feelings of love, sadness and joy but yet, there is that disconnect. Almost like the two-year-old who wishes to have that toy and only that toy for five minutes and then completely forgets about it.

You are used to mulling over issues for days, weeks and years. You are used to specific reactions to specific occurences. Now nothing is as it was. You are finding yourself crying one moment, laughing the next and in a rage yet the next. Much like a two-year-old.

Some of you fear that you have reached your second childhood. We joyfully relay that you have. It is with great pleasure that we state that it is time for children, teenagers, young adults, adults and seniors to grasp onto, to return to and to celebrate their childhood. In truth, the New Age can best be described as everyone’s childhood.

Please remember how honest you were with yourself and others as an infant. You cried when you needed something and you laughed when you felt like it. You did not ask if it was appropriate for you to laugh, to cry, to ask questions, to be angry or to be shy. You were just you.

And so it is time once again to be – including re-establishing a new and wonderful relationship with your mate. Perhaps you both have forgotten who you truly are. Perhaps you have never seen the true person that your mate is. That is the joy of this Valentine’s Day and forevermore.

It is time to throw aside the pretenses. It is time to laugh, eat, cry and question when you feel like it. And the same is true for your mate. Do not fear. Some of you may decide that you do not particularly like the true being that your mate is becoming or now is. But the vast majority will fall in love with their mate all over again.

You noted glimmers of their true beingness when you were dating – when the sparkle of joy was there to such an extent that you wanted to shout and scream and laugh with the wonder of the person you were falling in love with. But life intervened so that your sparkle shifted to a dull acceptance, with a bit of sparkle that glittered every now and again.

We are telling you in joy that it is SPARKLE TIME. You and your love will fall in love all over again. Allow yourself and your mate to shift. You will meet in the middle in a dance of joy and a giggle. Happy Valentine’s YEAR..and the remainder of your life on earth. So be it. Amen.

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February 8, 2010 at 6:07 pm 1 comment

You Will Not Fail – You Will Not Fall

Dear Ones,

You are exhausted.   In truth, you are beyond exhaustion.

You have learned to love yourself. You no longer aspire to be either a victim or a care taker. You have accepted and expected the New Age. You have done all that you can do. And yet, nothing much has changed in your life.

But there is a difference is there not? You are no longer the passive, gentle soul of yesterday. You are a TIGER! Granted according to Chinese astrology, this is the year of the Tiger. But that is not what we are speaking of. We are referring to your new persona – one that you did not expect when you first became excited about the New Age. You assumed that even though others might shift, your life would continue with just a few adjustments.

You were wrong. You are finding that you become angry much more rapidly. That you are not willing “to carry” anyone who is not willing to help themselves. And that you are impatient with those who are just not “getting” the ramifications of this New Age shift.

Guess what? You have not totally understood the shift either if you are confused by your new stance.  Shifting behavior patterns in mid-stream, as you baby boomers are doing, is not an easy task – it is exhausting. What was is no longer and what will be is not totally clear. A bit like  just after you awake – are you awake or asleep?

We and others have long promised that this transition would be easy. And so it is, but not for the reasons you thought it would be. It is easy to choose to be of the New Age. It is easy to use your new tools and  beliefs. But those elements are only available if you shift your beliefs from pain to pleasure.

You have given much “lip service” to the joys of the New Age, but deep within your physical being you hold on to the fear that such dramatic changes are merely goobbledygook. You want to believe, but you have been disappointed so many times in this current lifetime that you feel the need to hold on to some  semblance of stability – the Old Age. Yet, you want to be part of and a creator of the New Age. Do you not see the strain of such a stance?

Many of you are now crying “foul” – how appropriate for the upcoming Super Bowl competition! Are you of the New Age or are you not? We ask the same questions and have done so on may occasions.

It is time for you to make that leap. It is time to jump to the New Age. You will not fall and you cannot fail. But yet………. there is that little piece of you that is afraid of the unknown, even if joy is the end-product. Where are the scientific studies that prove this? Where is your money? You want us to “show you the money” which is not possible until you take that leap.

You have leaped so often in this life. Even if you have always been rewarded for those leaps, as has been true for Brenda, the fear that you will not be rescued this time lingers. That is the belief you are working on and adjusting to.

You have completed your inner work. The New Age is here. Now you have to accept the New Age and the only way you can do so is to take that leap – a very short leap we might add. We are not speaking of quitting your job and living in the streets for a few years or even a few days. We are merely pointing your need to accept joy as a given.

The fear that we may not have told you the truth is all that is stopping you from entering the world of joy that you dream of, but dare not expect or accept because as you have long learned that anything too good to be true is exactly that.

You do not believe  that you are worthy of your dreams – you have not yet completed enough pain lessons! You have not slept on nails or worn a hair shirt, so how could you possibly expect an ongoing life of joy? And that is an overview of your exhaustion and recent militant stance. You want to live in the New Age, but you do not yet feel that you have suffered enough to do so. And with that thought process, you will never suffer enough.

Your pain is over. If you can accept that concept as your new truth, you will have moved into the New Age. The only way you can accept it is to test it. As you are now doing so on an hour-to-hour basis. You are testing your worthiness by snarling at others, by looking at the world through a grey film and by demanding that the Universe prove to you that the New Age is truly here. It is.

All you have to do to live in the New Age is to believe that the New Age has arrived. There is no need for sleeping on nails. Or antagonizing those around you. Or for jumping off a bridge to see if the Universe catches you and thereby proves that the New Age is a reality. You merely have to accept that you no longer need to live in pain. Stop growling, turn around and accept your sunshine.

Your exhaustion is your need to hold onto to the Old Age at the same time you are trying to accept the New Age. Which is better for me? A question that can be easily answered if you are feeling anger you do not understand. Of course, you will get angry at times in the New Age. But that anger will not be constant as has been true for you and many others in the last few days, anymore than a two-year-old pouts for more than a few moments.

We will close or you have much to review, the most important of which is whether your anger is a part of you that you need to explore to  move out of your past passive demeanor. Or is your anger a cover for your fears about the New Age?

We will tell you that 90% of your anger is based in your unjustified fear of the New Age.  You are  a creator – as you always have  been – and now you create more easily and more rapidly than ever  before. So of course, your last fears about this shift are more directly impacting your life than any of the other fears you have moved through.

Yes, you have worked through your issues. And yes, the New Age is yours to have and explore. Move beyond your fears and grab the hand of the Universe. You will not fail and you will not fall. So be it. Amen.

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February 3, 2010 at 5:52 pm 1 comment



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