Why is Receiving a Dirty Word?

December 30, 2013 at 11:54 am 30 comments

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Summary of Brenda’s December 28, 2013 free, 15-minute, channeled “Creation Energies” show at http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com/brenda-hoffman: It’s time to balance your giving and receiving equation. In new earth, you’ll love yourself as much as others. No longer will phrases like, “He’d give you the shirt off his back” be appropriate or even understandable.

The title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her free, weekly, channeled blog for  http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com: “Merry NEW Holidays to Us”

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” BlogTalkRadio.com show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

We wish to direct your attention to receiving for many of you are not comfortable with that aspect of your being. Perhaps you feel guilty for not giving more during the holiday season to family, friends or charities. As if by spending or giving more all that is not right in your life or someone else’s will be better.

But we venture to guess that few of you feel guilt about not receiving more. The thought of wanting more is what makes you feel guilty.

You have learned to give is divine.

There are few phrases encouraging you to receive. Oh once in awhile, you might read that being thankful for what someone gives you is appropriate. But asking for something is seldom correct in your society – the word selfish is most often used.

Asking for something and truly expecting it to materialize likely ended in childhood when you realized there was no Santa Claus other than yourself.

How many of you spend more than you intend for others during the holidays? Those same thought processes seldom apply to you. Even though you buy items you need or want, most often you do so with thoughts of your budget, if the item is really needed and/or similar filters.

Your media, friends, family and community constantly remind you how “right” giving is – even describing how wonderful you will feel when you do so. And perhaps you do. But receiving does not warrant a similar emphasis in your 3D world.

Giving to others – individuals or organizations – while denying yourself, is the 3D model.

Perhaps such a statement makes you angry for giving does make you joyful. If such is true, this channel is not addressed to you for you have found a source of joy.

But those who give because they should or because of guilt are neither giving nor receiving.

In new earth, all interactions are shared. You receive as well as give. Therefore, learning how to joyfully accept and expect receiving is an extremely important self-contained lesson.

As a child, did you think it was wrong for you to be fed and cared for? At what point in your earth life did receiving become wrong?

AH. Now you are understanding. Giving and not expecting anything in return is a care taker stance.

Did you not care take your children when they were young? But at the same time, did you not expect rewards such as watching your child take their first steps or those little arms wrapped around your neck in love and joy? You and your child experienced a sharing relationship.

But if that same child continues the need to be cared for as an adult despite responding to that care taking with little more than, “Is that all there is?” the relationship is not a sharing relationship. It has become a care taking/victim relationship.

Perhaps you believe you will receive in the future or it is a pay it forward type process. Such is well and good if it is true. But the reality most often is that you are giving or care taking with little expectation of receiving. And at some point, that care taking becomes victimization.

Now you are concerned that we are shifting your thoughts to a selfish mode. So we are.

Selfish is a bad word in your current vocabulary – and giving is a word that is so right. But right for whom? Right for you to give all you have to someone who could create what they need? Right for you to take away their innate powers by constantly showing them you are wiser and better?

Have you asked yourself similar questions before donating your time or money? How do you view the objects of your generosity? As poor them. Or as someone who just needs to be reminded of their powers?

Some of you have adult children or friends living in your home. Is it a sharing relationship or have they reverted to the childlike stance of, “I must be taken care of even if it means you are impoverished for I am the important person in this relationship.”

Please know that, if you have not already experienced it, an emotional shift is occurring.

Perhaps initially it was right for you to care take your adult child or friend. But some how that relationship deteriorated to the point that your life revolves around their needs.

The same has happened with charities and churches. You barely have enough to pay rent, yet you feel guilty when you do not share with those in need.

You are in need now – emotionally and physically.

For you are restructuring your inner-being including learning how to receive. And as you do so, it is likely you will be exposed to feelings of guilt for not giving enough – financial or emotional care taking.

As earth shifts to love, those who wish to remain enmeshed in fear will do whatever it takes to continue a fear-based world. The same is true for care taking. As you remove yourself from a care taking equation, those who were comfortable with or expected your care taking will attempt to return you to that life.

But as you transition to love and joy, you are removing your care taking elements. One of which is, “Giving is divine.”  Your new mantra is, “Sharing is divine.”

Sharing is a joyful win/win situation for all.

Yet those used to being taken care of will fight to maintain those 3D care taking beliefs. A bit like your toddler insisting he needs his bottle after he is capable of drinking from a glass. It is time for you to say, “No” to yourself and others.

Only with sharing will you experience the joy of your relationships. This is new earth. So be it. Amen.

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  • 1. Barb  |  December 30, 2013 at 1:33 pm

    Hi Brenda —

    Another timely post! Onward through clearing out the old!

    This is also a perfect chance to say that your presence and sharing have meant so much to me. I found your blog early this year, and it has been an immense help in navigating this sometimes-crazy ride. I’m not sure it’s equivalent, but you have my sincere gratitude for all you do. Thank you, Brenda. I hope you have a lovely New Year and all of 2014.

    Much love,
    Barb

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    • 2. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 30, 2013 at 5:04 pm

      Hi Barb,
      Thank you so much. I have to admit that I enjoy channeling both my BlogTalk show and Brenda’s Blog every week because I always learn something new or a new way of processing. I feel blessed that I can learn and provide information that others are interested in also. A sparkling 2014 and forever to you!
      Blessings, Fun and Love,
      Brenda

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    • 4. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 30, 2013 at 5:06 pm

      Sparkling new year and forever to you Lucas! Thank you for re-blogging on Lucas2012Infos.wordpress.com
      Blessings, Joy and Love,
      Brenda

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  • 5. Christine Hoeflich  |  December 30, 2013 at 3:09 pm

    I couldn’t agree more Brenda! Thanks for putting this message out there. Have a Happy New Year!

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    • 6. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 30, 2013 at 5:07 pm

      Hi Christine,
      YAY for allowing ourselves to evolve and receive!!!!
      Blessings, Sparkles and Love,
      Brenda

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  • 7. Linda  |  December 30, 2013 at 6:04 pm

    Dear Brenda,
    Thank you for this post. I have let go of the last of these type of relationships and am open to receive and share! I was really nudged to do this before 2014 commenced. It is the new way and so empowering for all.
    Thank you for all that you do. So grateful to be standing at this point on the journey, Yay for all of us!
    Blessings of love and joy,
    linda

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    • 8. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 30, 2013 at 6:37 pm

      Hi Linda,
      Haven’t we done a marvelous job of creating new earth….and personally evolving!!!! Yay for us all indeed!
      Blessings, Love and Sparkles,
      Brenda

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  • 9. YL Chin  |  December 30, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    Timely message, especially on the last day of the year in my time zone.
    Tks Brenda once again for the effort of putting up this msg despite your busy holiday timetable. Nowadays, I am frequently telling the universe that I receive the energies of whatever I want with love, honour and respect. Let it flow, let it flow, let it flow throughout my energetic and physical bodies until they become my flesh and blood. Better not think of what if I don’t get them. Still practising and perfecting this receiving skill throughout 2014.
    Happy New Year!

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    • 10. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 30, 2013 at 8:44 pm

      Hi YL Chin,
      Happy new American year to you – we still have a couple of different 2014 new years to celebrate. Let it flow applies to all of us!
      Blessings, Sparkles and Love,
      Brenda

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      • 11. YL Chin  |  December 30, 2013 at 9:51 pm

        Brenda, I love your talk show. I have just listened to it. I like the term, “immediate reward”. Ha ha ha.

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      • 12. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 30, 2013 at 10:34 pm

        Hi YL Chin,
        Even though I have a great memory for dates, people events, I seem to fog out my channels much like night dreams. So it’s great that you like the phrase “immediate reward” in this week’s BlogTalk show, but I can’t remember saying it or the context of how it was used.

        Soon after I started my BlogTalk show, a friend of mine asked what the show I had channeled 15 minutes earlier was about – I had no idea. That’s when I started writing the summary of each show that I post on my Blog Talk show archives and my Brenda’s Blog channel.
        Blessings, Love and Sparkles,
        Brenda

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  • 13. Thetawave  |  December 30, 2013 at 8:53 pm

    Reblogged this on Infinite Shift.

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    • 14. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 30, 2013 at 10:26 pm

      Hi ThetaWave,
      Thank you so much for re-blogging on InfiniteShift.wordpress.com!
      Blessings and Sparkles,
      Brenda

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  • 15. YL Chin  |  December 31, 2013 at 12:42 am

    Hi Brenda. it’s supposed to be like this. When I was a member of a religious org, the director cum priest once said that after she had given an advice to a problem, she could not remember what she had said. She believed it was her speaking, it was god speaking through her. I am not sure in which context the term referred to but I guess it’s something like expecting immediate reward and that’s the way it is. It’s good that you have kept archives of your talk. I should check it out. .

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    • 16. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 31, 2013 at 8:22 am

      Hi YL Chin,
      Again – a sparkling American New Year and beyond to you!
      Blessings, Love and Joy,
      Brenda

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  • 17. elizabethsadhu  |  December 31, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    Again, dear Brenda, another beautiful post. Thank you a million times! Yes, yes yes…..we have all been givers givers givers and are finally learning to receive. Yay for this beautiful message about ASKING!!!! Sheesh! Aren’t we funny? AND how beautiful to have this community to share and support each other.

    Sharing is Divine!

    Sparkly, sparkly LOVE to you and all and to me, too!
    E

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    • 18. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 31, 2013 at 1:07 pm

      Dear Sweetie,
      Like you, I sometimes have to laugh at our dilemmas of learning how to love ourselves and others and move into joy. It’s like we have to almost force feed ourselves to enjoy new earth life! To a more joyful and loving 2014 and beyond for us all!
      Blessings, Sparkles and Love,
      Brenda

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  • 19. Why is Receiving a Dirty Word? | elizabethsadhu  |  December 31, 2013 at 12:51 pm

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    • 20. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 31, 2013 at 1:05 pm

      Thank you sweetie for re-blogging at ElizabethSadhu.wordpress.com!
      Love Brenda

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  • 21. Mary  |  December 31, 2013 at 1:52 pm

    I celebrate the Onedrous unfolding of The New Earth ~ and I thank you dear Brenda, for all that you “share” so lovingly.

    Wishing you & everyOne a JOYous PEACEful LOVE-filled sparkly New Year.

    Mary 🙂
    xoxoxo

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    • 22. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 31, 2013 at 2:23 pm

      Hi Mary,
      Happy, sparkly 2014 and beyond for us all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
      Blessings, Fun and Love,
      Brenda

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  • 23. Lady Pinkrose  |  December 31, 2013 at 3:35 pm

    Brenda, I speak my Truth here. But first HAPPY NEW YEAR 2014!

    I find myself in a situation where Dreams have begun to unfold. This brings such JOY and happiness to my Soul. I am sharing what I LOVE and in return, I am getting acknowledgement. That is not where I wish it to end. I visualize more, as my blog expands encompassing more of my Dreams.

    So many have come to appreciate and Love what I do over at Petals. My Heart reJOYses that I am shining my Light and basking in the attention of others, who again, Love what I present them with.

    This is the dilemma. Others now are seeing my Talent, and taking me seriously and are deeply respectful towards me. The one I am married to, though, has become jealous, and outright unbearable to live with some days. (Ah I see we are cross posting right now!) Anyways, the jealousy is terrible and the more success I embrace, the more miserable this man attempts to make my life.

    But I am standing strong and not allowing him to get me to walk away from my Dream. Just in writing this, he interrupted me to the point I had to stop, listen to him in what he had to say, got back to my “thought” and again he began to interrupt. I at that lost patience, told him “I am writing”, and I was called a name.

    I do not know if this marriage is going to make it. Brenda, I will not walk away from something that is making me so happy, and I will not walk away from MY DREAMS. Period.

    The jealousy beast is a terrible one. When you Love somone you don’t manipulate, or demand, or attempt to make someone walk away from their Dreams.

    Thank you for writing this. And for anyone else who reads my words, I respect and Love myself so much, no one, inclusive of my husband, will take away from me something I Cherish!

    I am being called selfish for this attitude. Yet deep in my Heart, I know that what I am doing, is actually Love. Love for self.

    With all I am,
    Amy

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    • 24. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 31, 2013 at 4:05 pm

      Hi Amy,
      I know how your blog has grown in just a few months and it’s obvious that it brings you joy.

      A complex issue in this new earth is realizing (and I very often forget this piece) that those who make us angry are mirroring something to us. I’ve followed some of your personal messages online and know you had a difficult childhood. Could it be that your husband is mirroring your disbelief in your success/ that somehow he’s pointing out to you that you still don’t believe you deserve to experience joy through your efforts???? Just a thought.

      Of course, whatever feels right within you is the correct action. Maybe you’ve outgrown the relationship. There are so many options/personal points of view in relationships initiated in 3D. Listen to your heart/inner-being and you will know.
      Blessings and Love,
      Brenda

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      • 25. Lady Pinkrose  |  December 31, 2013 at 4:27 pm

        What came to me, Brenda, after I wrote what I did, was remembering my husband saying how brilliant his mother was, yet she lived a life “boxed in”. She did nothing but clean every day.This is complex. I think that my husband associates happiness with his wife being a “housewife” like his mother. He is also afraid that my happiness shows blatantly his unhappiness with himself.

        I really have settled matters within my heart about succeeding. I know I have. No, I think I have become a mirrror and hubs seeing himself and not liking this.

        He did the same thing when I worked as a nurse. He became a billigerant boy because “Mommy” did not have her focus on him anymore.

        Am I making sense? My husband lives in fear, a world I don’t live in. He won’t allow himself to be happy. That one photo I took of him being silly, when he saw it, he frowned and instantly said how terrible he looked. He never even saw his smile.

        My Heart for the first time in my life, is Happy.

        Hubs has major “mommy issues”. And hugely is insecure.

        I see so clearly. If he can get to acceptance with this, and just flow, things on his end, will be so much better.

        I’m glad I’m talking this out. And in so doing, I send my words to the Light, asking Angels for assistance in this matter.

        I’ve worked so hard at being honest with myself and cleaning me up inside. And that work is paying off. I reJOYse. And am so glad.

        Love, Amy

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      • 26. lifetapestrycreations  |  December 31, 2013 at 4:32 pm

        Hi Amy,
        Yay to processing and evolving!
        Blessings, Sparkles and Love,
        Brenda

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      • 27. Lady Pinkrose  |  December 31, 2013 at 4:37 pm

        (blushing) Thank you, Brenda! For the first time in my life, I am putting myself first. YAY is truly right!

        Love and BIG (((HUGS))), Amy

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  • 28. YL Chin  |  January 1, 2014 at 10:05 pm

    Lady Pinkrose,
    What a brave woman you are. I wish you all the joy and happiness in 2014.

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  • 29. AligningWithTruth  |  January 2, 2014 at 1:41 am

    “Give until it hurts.” “It is better to give than to receive.”

    Whew! Boy, was I trapped in those falsehoods! And I’m so thankful that I’ve woken up and gotten myself out of such false beliefs.

    “Sharing is divine.” Indeed Brenda! I guess “Sharing is the new giving.” 😉

    Thank you for this message and thank you for sharing your gifts!

    Much Blessings…☀☀☀ A SPARKLY 2014 and beyond!!! ☀☀☀— Love that Brenda! 🙂

    Namaste…♥♥♥NadineMarie♥♥♥

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    • 30. lifetapestrycreations  |  January 2, 2014 at 9:07 am

      Hi Nadine Marie,
      Isn’t it fascinating how enmeshed we are in Old Age beliefs? Even suggesting that something like giving and not receiving needs to be reviewed makes some uncomfortable.

      But then, this entire transition is amazing – we have to rearrange our thought and emotional processes to accept love and joy. Aren’t you so pleased we’re not transitioning into fear as we did when we entered earth in this life and so many others!
      Blessings, Love and a Sparkly 2014 and Beyond Back at Ya!!!!!
      Brenda

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