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Summary of Brenda’s May 20, 2016, channeled, 15-minute “Creation Energies” show at The next few days are about declaring who you are without regret or fear. Perhaps that means job reassignments, new friends, new actions. It doesn’t matter for you’re finally at the point where your declarations of self are loud and clear – without shame, guilt or angst. 

“You’re Not the Parent of a Sick Child” is the title of this week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly, channeled blog for

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

You are clarifying your being and direction – not always an easy task for you are used to pleasing others, doing a tap dance of society rightness, despite misgivings about how that society rightness might affect you. You are discovering it is too uncomfortable not to be you – no matter the consequences.

Until now, most of you tip-toed around your feelings and how you wished to function.

The past few days, many of you discovered personal cover-ups are no longer possible. That if you betray your inner being, you physical or emotional body creates a discomfort informing you that you have gone astray.

A discomfort you once easily hid from yourself.

You used to function within the parameters of rightness created by others with few after effects other than boredom or gossiping with others how uncomfortable you were.

Such is no longer true. You cannot tolerate moving off your path to care for others more than yourself. You are discovering the angst of doing what others expect is deeper than any angst you once felt for not being what others wanted.

New you is a transformation far beyond what you imagined. You assumed you would transition bit by bit with none other than you being the wiser. Such is no longer true.

And those who assume you are the you they were comfortable with or that you will do what they request because you always have, are as surprised as you at your new positions.

You no longer find the need to appease others at your expense. Something you were so comfortable with in 3D – yet another form of caretaking.

You are you, and others are who they are becoming. Delineations as surprising to you as much as anyone.

Perhaps you are concerned that few, if any, will wish to be with you as you continue your new path. Even though we would like to report that thousands will be enamored of your new being, you are in uncharted territory.

You are learning to love yourself despite what others think or feel. Something you have never attempted while of the earth without earning the label of egocentric.

So it is you are not pleasing to those who wish to continue the dynamics established before new you emerged. And so it is most of you are doing so which does not allow for much interweaving of group rightness at this moment.

The best description is of two pre-schoolers wanting the same sand pail. Each child is focused on the sand pail with little concern whether the other child likes them before, during or after. It is only the observing parent who attempts to negotiate a compromise between the two pre-schoolers.

Right now, you are one of those two pre-schoolers not that interested in compromise as you discover what gives you joy.

Many of you do not like that image for was it not just days ago that you were labeled new you adults? And so you are. But you are an adult in training – overcoming negotiations that you are, “to be nice, be part of the group, do what you are told.”

No longer an easy task as you divest yourself of one belief after another. Beliefs you do not necessarily realize you have until you are forced to make a decision about who you are, instead of what others need or want.

You are cutting to the core of your new you being. And as you do so, you are discovering elements of your totality that just need to say, “NO.” You are also discovering new interests and roles that did not interest you before.

You are a new being in your physical shell. The only piece that remains of 3D you is your appearance – and even that is shifting a bit.

You are a new being within causing, sometimes even forcing, you to move in directions you did not think possible or wanted to think possible a mere few months ago.

You are claiming you – just as predicted, but not necessarily as you expected. New you is much more clearly defined than was true of 3D you – or throughout this transition until now.

Not only are you uncomfortable now not being who you are, you can no longer do so. Something that both amazes and frightens you. For there is no parent to negotiate for you. There are not others patting you on your back confirming how right you are – for they are too busy discovering themselves. There is only you following inner directions not always comfortable in terms of what you have come to expect of yourself, but always true to who you have become.

That trueness to yourself is your beacon of light for those who follow.

No longer are there those hazy lines that 3D you was so comfortable with, “I will do this, so my friend will reciprocate when I need something from him.”

Your life is no longer a compromise. It is, “This is who I am. I would love to have you in my life, but I cannot be who you want me to be to remain in your life.”

Now you are perhaps frightened. Does such a change mean you will be more isolated than you have been? Not in the long-term, but perhaps in the immediate future. For some of your decisions will not please those who continue to be of 3D or even those discovering themselves.

It is not your responsibility to make others comfortable at your expense. You have done so for eons out of fear.

Now that you are learning to love yourself, you are moving to your drummer without concerns of the outcome – just as is true for pre-schoolers fighting over a sand pail before an adult intervenes. In a sense, you are now moving through the “terrible twos” of your new being as you claim what you have given away emotionally, physically and spiritually for eons to be of the earth.

You are you in all your glory. Allow that to be. And allow the same for others. You cannot live someone’s life for them, nor can they do so for you.

And if you discover that others want to tame you, shift you, change you, apologize for you or any other aspect that tells you are not the glorious being that you are, you will most likely move on with or without an explanation of why. For many explanations are merely 3D you trying to fit in.

You have shifted beyond that and it is time for you to acknowledge that for yourself and others. So be it. Amen. If you would like to receive Brenda’s blogs when posted, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her Blog and Subscribe page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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You’re Not the Parent of a Sick Child Are You a Secret Dictator?

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  • 1. Gil Cleeton  |  May 23, 2016 at 10:46 am

    ‘Lest ye become like little children – – – ‘ Jesus says.
    ‘I am in a new union with Christ – – -‘ Paul says
    Note that as I pass from 3d to 5d I love myself so much I do not care any more whether my quotations are accurate!
    And I love and am totally confident in my isolation.
    Brenda this was your best!
    My website now working again.


    • 2. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 23, 2016 at 12:59 pm

      Hi Gil,
      Love it!!!!!! And love you – possible misquotes and all!!!
      Blessings, Yup, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,


  • 3. Catharina  |  May 23, 2016 at 10:57 am

    Holy cow..are you sure you are not viewing my life?:) I just recently said ‘no’ to someone who has been in my life for 35 years..with reckless behaviors, many ‘slights’ and an unawareness of how they affect. When I finally got clear on this situation and was able to vocalize how this person has affected me thru the years in a offensive way and was able to state ‘just the facts mam’to their person..well, I was just ‘done’ and clear it was so empowering. I was not attached to how they were going to respond. It was not important. I did make an effort to say how “I’ was affected by their behaviors with out blame and the like..Their response was not a total surprise..they took no responsibility for their slights and disrespect and actually became angry at be it.For years I have had relationships I just let be ..well less than…you know wanting to be the ‘good girl’, the good daughter..good wife( I got ‘done” with that too)..and just ‘pretend’ like it didn’t hurt. I felt at the time I didn’t deserve or love myself enough to ‘have it all’..but now..I am so clear who I am.This person will no longer be in my life and it was amazing how calm and almost energetic I felt after the closure..I feel free..and yes, I will be more alone,but over the last 9 years I have become used to endings ..and yet some of the new beginnings are so just within my own luminous being..right where they need to be.I am amazed as well how energetically people can actually suck the life force. It is so encouraging to go thru these major life dramas and come across some ‘insights’ such as yours to affirm that yes indeed..I will trust myself. I think the biggest hurdle in the life dance is to learn to understand and fully experience loving one’s self/soul/ is said often,but it is when life gets juicy ..that love from within..that’s when the bountiful life starts to just is so encouraging..thank you.


    • 4. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 23, 2016 at 1:04 pm

      Hi Catharina,
      YES!!!!! Dare to be. A phrase taking on an entirely different layer as we grow into ourselves. And thank you for your wonderful line for this time, “ is when life gets juicy..that love from within…that’s when bountiful life starts to just bloom….”
      Lots of Love, Blessings, and Creation Sparkles,


  • 5. elizabethsadhu  |  May 23, 2016 at 11:27 am

    What can I say but, YES!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

    Love, Elizabeth


  • 7. elizabethsadhu  |  May 23, 2016 at 11:27 am

    Reblogged this on elizabethsadhu and commented:
    Yes! ❤


    • 8. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 23, 2016 at 1:07 pm

      Thank you so much, Sweetie, for reblogging my channel on


  • 9. Nancy  |  May 23, 2016 at 11:39 am

    Holy cow is right. I, like Catharina above, three days ago told a friend of 35 years that I would no longer tolerate her slights. I didn’t care whether or not the friendship survived I just would no longer allow the subtle digs and snarkiness. This friend responded quite well. Said she wasn’t aware of doing it but would look at it and try not to do it anymore. I said I would certainly remind her if she did. We’ll see. I was so relieved to stand up for myself. Damn the torpedos, full speed ahead! ❤ ❤ ❤

    PS I was nervous about going to visit her in the first place. Thought about making an excuse. Then had a clear intuition that it would all come right.


    • 10. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 23, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      Hi Nancy & Catharina,
      I’m a board of directors member for a nonprofit middle school foundation. Yesterday, I went to the Chairperson’s house ready to resign not caring if other members or those living in my neighborhood thought I was terrible and/or selfish. He, like your friend, Nancy, said the right things so I remain on the board but I am ok with leaving if my “we’ll see” doesn’t work out. As you stated Nancy, “Damn the torpedos, full speed ahead!” We lightholders have arrived!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,


  • 11. Finn  |  May 23, 2016 at 12:09 pm

    Dearest Brenda, – thank you ever so much for putting into words the prevalent energies, – as well as putting a big smile of relief upon my face. – Thanks again, – you’re simply the best. – All my love to all of you.


    • 12. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 23, 2016 at 1:13 pm

      Hi Finn,
      Your messages put a big smile of joy on my face. Thank you!!!
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,


  • 13. janis´¯`·.¸ʚįɞ  |  May 23, 2016 at 1:42 pm

    Reblogged this on Lighthearted Signs 🙂 and commented:
    ❤ !!!


    • 14. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 23, 2016 at 4:39 pm

      Thank you so much, Janis, for reblogging my channel on LightHearted Signs

      Liked by 1 person

  • 15. Cristina  |  May 23, 2016 at 2:10 pm

    It’s funny, my husband told me yesterday: Cris, I not recognize you, think you’re going through the “terrible twos” !!!
    t’s a long story because the poor tells me this. And I do not want to bore you with tedious stories 3d.
    It’s nothing against him, of course.
    It has been my ways of acting in my political / social life, facing a very abusive and dense people who have already given more opportunities they deserve. My old “I” would use diplomacy, good-natured and smooth maneuvers situations. But the new, although it will continue and using those innate skills of diplomacy and conciliation does not waste time with those who do not deserve it. With these negative and unsatisfied people who always seek “sh.t” even in the most beautiful.
    And I must say, to return “to the two” feels sooooo good!!!. I did not remembers, 44 years ago that … in this incarnation. 😉
    A wonderful synchronicity between your writing and my experiences … and so I also read in the lives of other colleagues here share. It is really comforting
    Love, blesses and sparkles


    • 16. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 23, 2016 at 5:04 pm

      Hi Cristina,
      I’m so proud of you. Functioning as you do – the leader of your community – and I’m guessing surrounded by people who want you to take care of them even if they don’t feel like taking care of themselves.

      Even though what you did was extremely brave – and timely, “I’ll help you if or when you decide to help yourself.” such a stance is not the most politically astute lines in communities especially a community in which you live. But you dared, you did and it felt right. YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,


      • 17. cristina  |  May 24, 2016 at 1:17 am

        Dear Brenda,
        I had the same thought, that of this is not very clever, or is not politically correct. But something in me said: why on earth not??

        And I have to say that the result was surprising. Not only for my personal satisfaction and honesty with myself, if not the reaction of other people, from other fellow was first surprised, but after relief, applause and support.
        In the sense: enough to hold bullies and ill-mannered.

        That the “problem” was not ordinary citizens, it was with certain leaders and lobbies. Of those who you do magic and can give a million dollars every human on this earth, or are you going to solve their problems forever, and sure they will criticize and find something wrong with it … not if I explain.

        These people exhausted my patience. Actually I think the style of Socrates, who they are not bad. They are simply ignorant. Caught in the 3D density, only they know how to play the game of deception and manipulation. Of not, why not.

        Well, I think maybe start to be time to change those rules. New times demand new land and new forms of politics. I know I’m not going to change the world. It is not my intention.

        But I guess if I am where I am, is not only to take care that the streets are clean and properly lit, or that citizens have adequate bus service. That is necessary, of course. But with small actions, small and insignificant politicians as I am, we can show that there is another way and another consciousness of doing things, I fulfilled my mission.

        (Although I must confess that none of these arguments were so bombastic that led me to act the way I did. It was a purely personal matter, honesty and satisfaction to me, to say, okay, I’m going to show who has the power and will exercise it …..and feel good) 😉

        Love, blesses and sparkles


      • 18. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 24, 2016 at 10:27 am

        Hi Cristina,
        And so the global change begins – with one person at a time acting from their heart instead of their logic or mind. Thank you for being so instrumental in shifting global beliefs and patterns. Even though you think you only have a small place in the world, it appears gigantic to me.

        So we all evolve and shift from our hearts starting with those pieces that are important to us.
        Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,


    • 19. janis´¯`·.¸ʚįɞ  |  May 24, 2016 at 3:12 pm

      I always appreciate what you have to say, Christina, and you often make me smile…thanks for that! 🙂


      • 20. cristina  |  May 30, 2016 at 7:46 am

        thanks for your kind words Janis!!
        I think all we can contribute our particular view on this experience that we live, that makes us see the whole puzzle.
        I also read carefully all the answers given here is rich and comforting to see that so many people from so many parts of the world agree on many things. It’s a relief. A kind of communal therapy 😉
        Love, blesses and sparkles

        Liked by 1 person

      • 21. janis´¯`·.¸ʚįɞ  |  May 31, 2016 at 6:00 pm

        😀 ❤ ❤ ❤


  • 22. BUS  |  May 23, 2016 at 6:50 pm

    “For many explanations are merely 3D you trying to fit in.”

    First I had to say ‘no more’ to me and then I was able to say ‘no more’ to the other. You nailed it with this one, Brenda, thank you!


    • 23. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 23, 2016 at 7:06 pm

      Hi BUS,
      Interesting thought, “First, I had to say ‘no more’ to me and then I was able to say ‘no more’ to the other.” That is how we do it, isn’t it?

      The rumblings of self-awareness and self-love start deep within us until they HAVE to be proclaimed in the outer world. Thank you for sharing that concept!!!!
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,


  • 24. Kari  |  May 25, 2016 at 6:20 am

    Dear Brenda,

    Thank you again. A few days ago I cut my ties to a person whom I have helped a lot in recent years. She has practically no one to turn to, but lately my heart was not in it anymore.
    I have no idea what my earth dream would be, but recently there have been small signs of manifestation:
    – I am bicycling and, for just the fun of it, I shout aloud the name of a great horse I once knew, “Moose”; and a couple of minutes later there is one near the road
    – I worry about how to make ends meet etc and then I meet a dog, the owner of which tells me spontaneously that his name is VICTORY
    – I am reading a book about the work of Einstein and the famous formula e=mc2; next day I see a car with a license plate EMC-2

    I am grateful !
    Good luck and blessings to everybody


    • 25. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 25, 2016 at 10:56 am

      Hi Kari,
      Isn’t it amazing how our focus is shifting from caretaking and victimization without us doing seemingly anything? Freeing us to discover ourselves as you’re obviously doing.

      I love your synchronicity reports and that you’re bicycling – and MOOSE. Kari, how wonderful that you’re loving yourself and playing. YES!!!!!!
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,


    • 26. janis´¯`·.¸ʚįɞ  |  May 25, 2016 at 1:16 pm

      Love that! 🙂


  • 27. Cristina  |  May 30, 2016 at 6:30 am

    Dear Brenda, your last blogtalk radio, is incredible.
    I feel so identified.
    I always, but especially since a few months ago have begun to experience that what you speak. Knowledge or know the thoughts or the true feelings of the people, regardless of what they say or do.
    I could not explain how that comes from. Not that you “hear” or that one “knows” or that one “DOWNLOAD information” as when channels.
    I feel it as a sense more, maybe like a smell or aroma. A delicious fragrance or a pestilential stench.
    Or maybe as a sound, not in the sense of words, but rather as a melody, which can be nice or cacophonous.
    What it is not no doubt, at least in my case, as the star of “True Blood” (the famous series of vampires and werewolves). I not “hear” literally thoughts or feelings of others, as she does. But not for this my perceptions are inaccurate. Instead, they are incredibly reliable.
    At first it surprised, and may even lead to uncomfortable situations. And some, even ugly.
    I once talking to a co-worker, “I felt” he had amorous feelings for me. The poor never said anything, or have never tried anything with me. And so I felt bad, I felt it violated his privacy. I knew his secret, I would not know.
    Again, the fishmonger, I felt a kind of queasy feeling that gave me even vomiting in the physical sense. I took this as the feelings of a pederast. It was horrible. I identified clearly who came, was a man who was before me in the purchase. I guess I did not know if it was a latent or accomplished pederast. I just know that when I see this man (is a neighbor of my city) I try to avoid it.
    It is also unpleasant when I feel someone drunk or high, is like listening to the scratching a chalkboard with her nails a thousand decibels.
    Normally what’s “Smells” people is fear or dissatisfaction.
      But I do not want to scare who reads this and has not experienced yet.
    Sometimes it’s fantastic. Recently I was at the ATM and suddenly felt a kind of mix between orange blossom fragrance, lightness and butterflies in the stomach, something wonderful. I turned and there was a young man of about 13/14 years, waiting with her mother. I knew the child was in love. So I turned and smiled with a knowing wink and thanks. He blushed. Think: Who is this crazy old woman who smiles at me ?? 😉


    • 28. LifeTapestryCreations  |  May 30, 2016 at 7:02 pm

      Hi Cristina,
      Fascinating. I sense feelings other than words. You smell feelings. Another indication that we’re shifting in ways most appropriate for our beings.

      When I was a counselor of street people years ago, sensing what my clients needed or wanted beyond their words was very effective. Followed by a move into the corporate world only to learn that not everyone wants you to know their internal beings. Both work arenas were interesting studies in human behavior and communication skills that taught me to be more discerning in communicating with others without words.
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Creation Sparkles,



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