What Happened to Your Heart?
March 27, 2023 at 10:42 am 33 comments
Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for Life Tapestry Creations.com.
“Fear No Longer Dominates” is the title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly channeled blog for LifeTapestryCreations.com.
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Dear Ones,
You do not always understand why your actions and words are now so different. You, a known caretaker, seem colder and more distant. Where is your heart?
Just as your new being is shifting, so are your heart’s actions, or in this case, caretaking actions.
You once assumed caretaking was an indication of how loving you were. But in truth, caretaking, loving others despite physical or emotional harm to yourself, was not love; it was what you thought love should be.
True love is not loving someone to the detriment of yourself – as displayed by abused spouses or parents. Such love is not from within; it is fear-based.
You once believed you would not be loved unless you dedicated yourself to the well-being of others.
Love has now shifted into a knowingness that you must care for yourself as well as others – often displayed with a more standoffish approach. A bit like expecting your child to pick up their toys no matter how long it takes.
You no longer feel the need to protect or save someone from themselves. Nor do you feel the need to listen to their latest fear or ailment once you know intuitively that neither is appropriate for the situation.
Your self-love awakening has created many unexpected shifts within your being – not the least of which is your need to care for yourself before others.
That last statement likely sounds cold to those of you who have not yet experienced this situation with your family, friends, or co-workers.
The first time you state that others can take care of themselves or complete a project without your assistance, you will feel mean and wrong. In 3D, you would have assumed both labels within your being and from the people with whom you interacted. In 3D, “no” was labeled as mean, tough love, selfish, cruel, and thousands of other words indicating you were wrong and society was correct.
Such labels no longer apply. Not because society has shifted that dramatically but because you have. What you once acted upon based on expectations of yourself and, more importantly, society, you are now saying “no” – not in a loud voice, but with a quiet self-love voice that others do not always understand. For where is their caretaker, their cleaner-upper, their emotional servant?
You have not become so cold you refuse to help others. But instead, your aid is now based on your inner feelings instead of social shoulds. So some family and friends will be horrified by your words and actions, for they seem so anti-social, so not what society indicates you should do.
This is an expected shift.
In 3D, you were never trained to experience or express self-love. Instead, your emphasis was caretaking others despite what you needed or wanted. Sacrifice was rewarded. Self-love was labeled anti-social. Those people who practiced self-love before this transition were labeled mean, ungrateful, selfish, and outside society.
The difference between self-love and self-aggrandizement is your inner voice. Your inner being helps you understand the difference between heartless actions – which will result in great inner pain – and heartful actions that will help you sparkle. You are currently learning to discern between the two.
A discernment that is confusing. Even though your inner voice is easily accessible, so are the social rules you are familiar with. And if you follow your inner voice, there will be times when society indicates you are wrong or a bad person.
Will you be strong enough to negate the former rules of your 3D life? Of course. That is, when you are ready to do so, for this is your progressive lesson plan in this new world.
You started with the basics and are graduating to self-love for yourself and others. For there will be times when you must allow others the freedom to be themselves, just as you allow the same for yourself.
But in doing so, some of you will feel you are no longer needed or important. That is until you realize that self-love does not require stepping back, stopping, or hindering your inner development because someone wants you to care for them.
This is a new world in which self-love and love are becoming the key elements in your life and the life of others. Allow yourself to flow into it without self-fear, self-anger, or self-debasement. Your time has come – as is true for all those of the earth who wish to evolve into a new loving being.
At the same time, those who wish to remain in 3D fear are not your concern. They are evolving as they want – as are you. So be it. Amen.
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A | March 27, 2023 at 11:42 am
Big old “yup” to all of that a hundred times over. Grateful for you Brenda.
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 27, 2023 at 4:10 pm
Dear A,
My reaction exactly. You would think I wouldn’t need a reminder, given I’ve channeled about caretaking before. But some of these key beyond 3D concepts are works in progress – for me, at least.
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Annette | March 27, 2023 at 12:57 pm
Wow, this is spot on, and timely!!!
Honestly, just a few days ago I thought, Annette, what has happened to your heart, as I’ve been dealing with an Elderly Aunt for two years now, and she has pushed all the wrong buttons with the NEW ME.
By my pulling back, I feel intuitively that I have helped her to not feel so helpless. I still help her with certain things that I can, but I do NOT allow the guilt trips that she has continuously tried her best to put me on.
This was a good one, and very helpful!!
Thank you dear Brenda, and The Universe’s, much love 💕
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 27, 2023 at 4:16 pm
Dear Annette,
I so know what you’re writing about. My husband had back surgery last week, and a sibling and spouse are slated to visit us this week – expecting to be entertained. That probably won’t happen – we’re not in an entertaining mood or can do so.
YES to self-love and knowing we’re exiting 3D shoulds.
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Annette | March 27, 2023 at 5:34 pm
Yes to self love!!
Goodness I haven’t been in an entertaining mood for a very long time, and my family finally has come to accept this.
I truly do not have the desire, nor the energy. Loving my quiet space!
Sending huge healing vibes to your husband~~~~~~~> 💖💫
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 27, 2023 at 7:19 pm
Dear Annette,
Kudos for being you, Annette!!!! And Dave thanks you for the healing vibes.
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Annette | March 28, 2023 at 5:36 am
Just wanted to let you know that I found Message Archives from as far back as 2009 at Spirit Library, thanks for the lead. 🙏🏻💞
Love, A
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 28, 2023 at 7:01 pm
Dear Annette,
Spirit Library must have imported at least one year of my channels before I was a weekly Spirit Library contributor. I can’t remember what year they picked up my channels, but it was at least a year or two after I started Brenda’s Blog in the fall of 2009.
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Marcelo Ozorio | March 27, 2023 at 1:44 pm
as usual, your channelings are fundamentals. I have been reading your 2018 texts now. have completed 2019, 2020 2021, 2022 and now following 2023 of your forerunner transition manual. Brenda, you are cool!
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 27, 2023 at 4:17 pm
Dear Marcelo,
Thank you! You made my day.
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Ana Daksina | March 27, 2023 at 5:00 pm
Well worth your trouble. Good for you!
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Annette | March 27, 2023 at 5:27 pm
Where can I find these?
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 27, 2023 at 7:17 pm
Dear Annette,
My past channels should be on my website – LifeTapestryCreations.com, WordPress, or elsewhere on the Internet. I’ve been channeling “Brenda’s Blog” weekly since October 2009.
I believe you can also find “Brenda’s Blog” from about 2012 on Spirit Library. Or the “Federation of Light,” even though I can’t remember when I started posting on the “Federation of Light.”
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Petru Chirecut | March 27, 2023 at 2:02 pm
Thank you 🙏. I love you 🌞💎
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 27, 2023 at 4:18 pm
Dear Petru,
And I love you!
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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elizabethsadhufarwell | March 27, 2023 at 4:04 pm
Amen amen amen. Asé Asé Asé.
Thank you!
“You have not become so cold you refuse to help others. But instead, your aid is now based on your inner feelings instead of social shoulds.”
The other thing about caretaking others is that we infringe on their path. They need to be responsible for their own growth. And it’s also called codependence.
Thank you dearest Brenda! Love you!
Loving us all.
💜💜🌈🌈🌈🔥🔥🔥🔥🎉🎉🎉🎉🤓🤓🤓🤓🐬🐬🐬🦒🦒🦒📿📿📿📿
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 27, 2023 at 4:23 pm
Dear Sweetie,
And how long ago were we first exposed to codependence? Yet, many of us need reminding. This shift is amazing on so many levels – not the least of which is the reiteration of the basic principles we’ve experienced throughout this life and likely others.
The great news is that we’re internalizing those principles this time despite our fears that we’ll “never get it.”
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Ana Daksina | March 27, 2023 at 5:03 pm
Be careful not to fall into the New Age trap of blaming the victim while calling it “cocreative self determination.” Entitled totalitarianism is what it is even while being called by other names, compassion is still the lubricant by which the celestial mechanism is allowed to function, and it will continue to be so way past the 12th dimension ~ until all distinctions truly are lost in the divine Light.
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 27, 2023 at 7:11 pm
Dear Ana,
Yup! And this channel indicates that if we fall into that “trap,” our inner being will make sure we know. Not socially dictated unpleasant feelings but very personal unpleasant feelings generated from within.
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Ana Daksina | March 27, 2023 at 7:53 pm
Sounds right to this channel! 👌
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Ana Daksina | March 28, 2023 at 11:27 am
In meditation upon our exchange, the word “personal” came. It’ll be personal rather than, as you’ve said, societal.
We know that cats eat birds, and that if we save the bird a cat is sneaking up on, the cat will go find another bird. All else ~ physical, spiritual, mental, being in appropriate balance, we check in with the heart.
We find, perhaps, that the heart is much more strongly interested, in this Here Now, with the survival of the little bird than with the lunch of the cat.
We throw a pebble, and the bird is saved.
Brenda. ISN’T it fun to play with creation sparkles together?… 👩❤️👩✨
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 28, 2023 at 7:08 pm
Dear Ana,
Fun and joy are where it’s at. Add in sparkles, and you have a new world!
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Ana Daksina | March 28, 2023 at 8:26 pm
Well, you add in sparkles every single time! ✨✨✨😊
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 29, 2023 at 12:39 pm
Dear Ana,
Your comment is definitely a day brightener for me. Thank you.
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Ana Daksina | March 28, 2023 at 11:30 am
PS On the morning of your post I woke up for the first time with serious heart pain. It’s gone now. 💖
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 28, 2023 at 7:10 pm
Dear Ana,
Dang. I’m so glad it was a fleeting issue. And I hope others aren’t experiencing the same as they address their heart issues.
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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hayatkuskunu | March 28, 2023 at 5:51 am
Dear Brenda, this message enlightened me today. I’m a caretaker, gentle person regardless of respecting my own borders. I wasn’t aware that this behavior is fear based. This is so true when I analyzed the day I started to act like this. Thank you so much.
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 28, 2023 at 7:06 pm
Dear Hayatkuskunu,
I’ve had to evaluate my needs and actions throughout this transition as I’ve been a caretaker for most of my life. Interesting how our words and actions shift once we start addressing our needs – as well as those who have accepted or needed our care in the past. I love your phrase “gentle person.” I believe most caretakers are gentle people who forget or ignore their needs to address the needs of others.
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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Sanders | March 28, 2023 at 7:40 am
Thank You!
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 28, 2023 at 7:07 pm
Dear Sanders,
You’re so welcome!
Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,
Brenda
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 28, 2023 at 7:11 pm
As always, thank you so much for sharing this week’s channel with your MENSAGENSePENSAMENTOS blog readers. mensagensepensamentosblog.wordpress.com
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LifeTapestryCreations | March 29, 2023 at 12:45 pm
Thank you so much for also sharing my weekly channel with followers of ASCENSAOE ESPIRITUALIDADE. mensagensepensamentosblog.wordpress.com
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