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Those Awakening Might Frustrate You

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Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Summary of Brenda’s March 22, 2014 free, 15-minute, channeled “Creation Energies” show at  http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com/brenda-hoffman: Many are now awakening. It is not your role to slow your growth so you can carry them in any way. You may be tempted to have them follow your path and pace. Such merely continues 3D victim/care taker roles. Allow yourself to know all are fully capable of transitioning in a time and way that is right for them – just as is true for you.

The title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her free, weekly, channeled blog for  www.LifeTapestryCreations.com: “Those Awakening Fear Their Heart Flickers”

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” BlogTalkRadio.com show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,
Those now awakening will project images and thoughts that are not necessarily what you expect – a bit like watching an infant learn to drink from a sippy cup. You know a cup must be grasped securely and placed to your mouth before drinking. Your infant, with unskilled hands and very little practice, might put the cup to his or her lips, eyes, hair or just throw it on the floor in fun.

Those of you who have reviewed your new earth thoughts and actions for some time will watch in wonder as those newly awakened race around in ‘helter-skelter’ fashion. One day they will be immersed in astrology and the next deny the validity of anything related to astrology. Or extremely excited about THE guru or book that will change all earth beings’ for the better.

Perhaps it is difficult to remember that you started your new earth quest in a similar fashion. Jumping from one thought or guru to another until you realized you had the knowledge within you. Your self-love, self-respect did not happen overnight. For many of you, it has been decades.

Those newly awakening do not need years of study – merely weeks or months.

In the meantime, you may be frustrated or overwhelmed by what they require of you. “Tell me about this.” “Show me that.” “You don’t know what you’re talking about.” “I have the answers.” “My traumas are so much worse than were yours” will be a large part of your interaction with the newly awakened – if you so choose.

Your newly awakened friends and relatives will seem more new earth infant than adult in the next few months. You wish to fly and the basics enthrall them.

Slow your pace to care for them if you want. But the Universes do not require you to do so, nor is it likely your role. You only need do so if doing so feels right for you.

Perhaps  such a seeming lack of concern bothers you for are you not a beacon for those following? You are indeed. But new earth is much different from the Old Age. It is no longer about believing that all or most are less wise than you. That all or most must be taught what to think and do. You are not parents of those newly awakened. Nor are you their caretakers.

Of course, if it feels right to help those just awakening to better understand what new earth is about, do so. But most of you will feel frustrated by their questions and concerns. You are in graduate school and they are just beginning to read.

To assume that your role is to care take them in any way is to revert to what was not what is. All are capable of learning what they wish to learn at the pace they wish to learn. Who held your hand as you moved through the many layers that is the new you? Perhaps a friend or a teacher here or there. But overall, it was an individual journey that you managed to do without books, handholding or a great deal of support.

Your new earth thoughts and actions are becoming part of mainstream – albeit in trickles for now – so those following have more support than was true for you. You were courageous enough to ‘go it alone’ in so many ways. Those following have access to your Internet messages, books and videos – your trail blazing paths.

You will be extremely frustrated if you attempt to maintain a guru status for them. Such a role will not feel right within your new earth being. And for your newly awakened friend, the victim role will not allow them to move beyond the familiar, Old Age victim/caretaker roles. Care taking others as they move through their ‘dark night of the soul’ reduces their capacity to clear and clean what they must to ramp up their new earth being.

Nothing that was is. And nothing that is was – including care taking those souls you feel somewhat superior to now. Do not fret. They will catch up – perhaps even surpass you at some point. As is true for the infant learning to drink from a sippy cup. Eventually that infant becomes your adult child who instructs you about finances and other areas as they increase their knowledge and your earth knowledge becomes static.

And so it is that you need not worry or slow your pace to help those just awakening.

The most appropriate assistance is expanding as it feels right and joyful for you – knowing others will do the same.

New earth is not one group pulling up the other. But instead, one group shining their light so others can follow – if they choose. So be it. Amen.

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March 25, 2014 at 11:23 am 39 comments

Let It Be

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Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Special Event: Brenda and Janet Hickox will channel and answer questions about aspects of this transition for Janet’s “Living With Astrology” show Thursday, June 20 – 4 pm PDT  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/authenticyouradio/2013/06/20/living-astrology-new-paradigm-new-age-new-astrology.

Summary of Brenda’s June 8, 2013 free, 15-minute, channeled “Creation Energies” show at http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com/brenda-hoffmanYour sensory abilities are enhanced – particularly your sight. Perhaps you will see auras or just know when others’ words do not match their feelings. Do not fret if you don’t immediately receive indicators of your new sight app. Just as some toddlers walk earlier than others, you will apply your new app in your time frame. 

The title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her free, weekly, channeled blog for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com: “There are No Shirkers in This Transition”

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” BlogTalkRadio.com show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled materials.

Dear Ones,

This is a confusing time. Some of you are beginning to feel love. Others are more irritated by the suggestion than comfortable. You wish to be part of this transition, but there are those who make you so angry. How can anyone suggest that they too are an important part of this transition? You are an advance Lightworker and they continue to do and say things that emotionally, physically or spiritually harm you or others.

This is a global transition. All have unique roles that may not seem justified in your thought processes. Perhaps you feel drained thinking of how some seem intent in destroying earth’s ecological systems. Then there are those who enrage you when they physically abuse or end the earth life of innocent victims. And what about those who tell you what you should believe?

Maybe you are angry that we suggest love is in the air for you do not see, sense or feel it. But then, until you allow yourself to sense love instead of needing to advocate for what should be, you cannot be of the love frequency.

Your transition is happening in stages. The last major stage included peeking around the corner of what could be once you washed your being in love – instead of what should be according to you.

For eons, you have fought the “good fight.” You have taken it upon yourself to care take those unable – seemingly – to care take themselves. But then, for eons you have also physically, emotionally or spiritually harmed others. You are the same – angel and devil. There is no entity outside of yourself that is the devil – merely a representative of your lifetimes where you played that role for whatever reason.

Perhaps you experienced both sides of that equation so you could select which best suited your being, to end karmic connections, to prepare for this transition or to advance in your life experiences. It does not matter why or when. Merely that you know you are not an angel – or a devil. Nor is anyone else.

Many of you are pleased with your progress in this lifetime – and rightly so. But at the same time, you must realize that those you find fault with and those who seem to be a devil incarnate are merely mirroring that which you do not like/love in yourself.

This is a an extremely complicated thought process. Not that you are not intelligent enough to understand it, but that emotions tied to that thought are perhaps more than you can accept at this time. You will eventually for you cannot move into the new love energy without doing so. But you do not need to do so today or even tomorrow.

Many, if not most of you, may accept your former or even current roles in this emotional upheaval that is the transition. You understand that you are not without blemish. At the same time, you cannot understand how you can accept that person or concept. All is loving within your being – except that person or philosophy.

We are not predicting a gradient of love. You will love eventually – both what you now consider good and bad. This is not a partial experience.

We are not berating you. You have transitioned more deeply and rapidly than we thought possible. We are merely pointing out that you are clamoring for the New Age/new earth experience which means you will move beyond creating it. You will learn how to live within it – accepting others and their path, as well as love yourself.

Many of you are feeling less than loving for yourself as you cannot understand  how the person, idea or action that makes your “skin crawl” can be a loving part of your life, much less earth. You continue to be a new earth crusader even though you want to accept the loving concepts that are of the new earth.

This is not about merely expressing what you think should be of the New Age/new earth, but feeling it deep within you.

Again, many of you berate yourself for not feeling that love for yourself and others. We wish to reassure you that you will experience such love in your own time. You do not need to push yourself into that love arena. Nor do you need to berate yourself because you cannot experience it completely no matter how diligently you try. Allow yourself to be. And once you truly do that, your anger at others, your fear of others and your inability to love yourself will shift naturally.

In the Old Age, everything was work. Nothing seemed to flow. The New Age/new earth is about allowing flow. If any concept, movement or interaction feels like work, put it aside until it does not. You no longer need to work at a concept.

For many of you, this might seem counter intuitive. Letting it flow is extremely frightening. What if you never “find your groove?” How can we guarantee that all will be well?

We are of your future, present and past. We know without a doubt – as you did when your children were afraid they would never learn to read – that all is going to happen in due course.

Maybe you do not understand our concepts or thoughts today – but you will. And the most rapid way for you to do so in this new energy is to let it be. Do not fret. Do not worry. Just follow your heart/inner-being and all will happen when it is meant to for you.

Let it be is our phrase for now and forevermore in this New Age/new earth. Nothing needs to be forced. Nothing requires worry or work. Just let it flow and it will happen. You have already set your intent to move gracefully and quickly into the New Age/new earth. Nothing more is required. Let it be. So be it. Amen.

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June 18, 2013 at 9:52 am 26 comments

You Whine and Protest as You Give Away Your Power

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Dear Everyone – Somehow the paragraph breaks for this blog were removed despite numerous efforts to correct. I apologize for any confusion. Brenda

Overview of 8/1/11 my “Creation Energies” 15-minute, channeled, http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com show: Even though you are combining the slivers of who you are throughout the Universes and your cellular structure is changing, you will continue to be the physical being you are now.

Special Events:

  • Sunday August 7, 2011 at 11 am Brenda will be the guest presenter/channeler for A Class Act; 127 Cleveland Street; Greenville, SC 29601. Call 864.233.3033 for more information. 
  • Saturday August 20, 2011 noon to 1 Pacific Time; 3 pm to 4 pm Eastern Time, Brenda and Dee Wallace (actress in 125 movies including the role of mother in the movie “ET”) will be the guests of radio show host Dr. Carl Helvie on BBS Radio.com “The Holistic Health Show.” 
Dear Ones,

Many of you experienced unexpected feelings, interactions and behaviors in the last few days – maybe even the last two weeks. That is expected. For the energy shifts of July were greater than has been true for shifts of the past.

Previous shifts arrived in batches, but never to the extent you just experienced, nor in such a condensed period. With each shift, your physical being becomes stronger which allows you to accept more incoming energy. And so it happened for many of you last month.

You shifted physically and spiritually. In turn, those shifts affected you emotionally. Perhaps you lashed out at a friend or relative. Perhaps you were angry at the Universe, your employer or politicians. It does not matter. You needed to vent to stabilize your being. Were you not shocked by your rage – something you were certain you had by-passed long ago?

We have told you that fear and pain would not disappear – they would merely be painted with smaller and brighter pots of paint. And so it is. Your anger dissipated and you returned to what you think is your normal behavior. And we laugh.

For indeed, as you add slivers of your totality, as you shift and as you become more spiritual, you will also be more real.

Does that thought send a shiver of fear through you? There is no need for such fear. For indeed, more real also means more loving. The caveat is that you will love yourself more. Ah. Now you are beginning to grasp what we mean.

If you truly love yourself, you can no longer play victim or care taker roles. You will also be less interested, if not totally disinterested, in enabling others to play those roles. And if those close to you continue to play those roles or enable others to do so, do not be surprised if you remove them from your circle of special people.

This does not mean you will hide in your home. Rather, you will no longer tolerate those roles in whatever form they take. Observing others continuing those roles or enabling others to do so, will become so painful you will need to remove yourself. For as you continue to grow in loving yourself, you will feel more and more uncomfortable around those who do not.

Perhaps the analogy of someone who decides to stop smoking and finds smoky restaurants unacceptable would be an apt analogy. Even though some who have stopped smoking insist that others follow in their new-found health path, most merely stop attending those events that are in smoke filled environments.

And so shall it be for you. You will not have a need to preach the rightness of your new-found self-love, you merely will not wish to be around those who continue to take part in victim/care taker activities.

Will such new thoughts change your relationships? Most definitely for most relationships you developed in this lifetime – and for eons – have included elements of both care taking and victimization. Even your recent United States congressional anger demonstrated victimhood. “Those bad, mean congress people are taking away our rights.” – or – “Giving rights away.” You whine and you protest – all the while forgetting that you gave them their power and continue to do so every time you vote or do not vote.

Of course, you do not need to start a revolution. But at the same time, all your victim whining will not change the structure of any government. You elected or support them. Take responsibility for your actions. Which is no different from taking responsibility for smoking or not smoking. You cannot claim to have moved from the care taker/victim roles if you continue to allow your governments, churches and corporations to tell you who you are and what you need to do. You placed yourself in those prisons, it is time to release yourself.

Many of you are clamouring, “How am I supposed to change the structures that rule my life?” How indeed? We have long told you that your structures would evolve to meet your new needs. As you shift, allow, encourage and EXPECT your structures to shift also. If those structures are of the people, by the people – which they are – what type of structures best fit the new you, your new society?

Allow those structures to be created. The only way such deeply engrained structures will shift is if you, and everyone who wishes to, decide that care taking and victimhood are no longer part of your repertoire. Many of you are now thinking, “How can I possibly do that?” (victimhood) “But what about those people over there, how can I take care of them?” (care taking).

You have long proclaimed that you create your reality, that you can heal yourself and that you are the creator of your world. Expand those thoughts to realize that you are one of the millions of cells joining together to not only shift your thinking, but that of the earth and all the other entities on the earth who wish to shift. It started with you. Now expand your thoughts and your acceptance of your power to include everything and everyone you interact with daily. That is your right. That is your power. Most importantly, that is your role.

Do such thoughts seem cruel or insurmountable? They are if you are a care taker or a victim. They are not if you fully claim your inner power, inner creativity, inner skills and expect everyone else to do the same. That is the New Age/new earth – the ascension. So be it. Amen.
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August 3, 2011 at 1:52 pm 4 comments

Care Taking Remains Deeply Embedded in Your Belief System

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5/9/11 “Creation Energies” 15-minute radio show highlights: Yesterday, the Universes provided a buffer that will greatly enhance our ability to move into and expect joy and love. The complete channel is available at http://www.lifetapestrycreations.com or blogtalkradio.com.

Dear Ones,

Care taking others is so deeply embedded in your belief system that you continue to have difficulties understanding your true role in this New Age/new earth transition.

You have been taught for eons to give is proper, but to receive is selfish or somehow wrong. Granted, you allow yourself to receive token birthday and holiday gifts, but you continue to feel it is your duty to protect others while denying yourself.

That perception needs to shift during this transition period. If you continue to put others before yourself, you will not hear that soft inner voice that directs you to your role. For indeed, is it not true that when you move to a place that is comfortable for you, someone asks you to move over so they receive the same benefits or more?

Taking care of others means denying your self-worth. Both parties are victims. You are a victim for moving away from your dream to help others fulfill theirs. And they are a victim in that they do not believe they can create for themselves. You are not teaching them to fish – you are giving them the fish.

Many parents understand this principle – it is more difficult to encourage your child pick up their blocks than to pick up those blocks for them. Just as it is easier to smooth out any wrinkles in the life of another than to teach them how to care for themselves.

This New Age does not reward victims or care takers. Everyone will know they are strong enough to create what they want when they want it.

We have used that last line over and over in our blogs and books. It remains a difficult concept for you to accept. Once you accept the concept, you will know without a doubt there is no longer a need to take care of others. And you will also understand how care taking forces you into the victim role.

Are we indicating that you should not give to others? No. What we are saying is that it is time that you consider yourself an equal in the equation. Does it feel warm and loving to help others, does it radiate from within you? Or is it merely something you think you should do?

Doing what you think you should do will give you less and less pleasure during this transition, until there is a point that you become angry with yourself and with the person who feels incapable of directing their life without your help.

In the Old Age, victims and care takers were wonderful and demanding roles that allowed many to create outer-directed power bases.

In this New Age, both roles are not only unnecessary, they are physically harmful. For the anger and rage you develop over time as you again and again help someone who refuses to learn how to take care of themselves will be internalized by you because you will know that you are allowing them to use you.

Let us explain. In the past, care taking and victim hood were honored roles. People bragged about what wonderful friends and neighbors they were as they put off their lives to care for someone else. A role that was eventually re-labeled “enabling” in your self-help dialogues. Both roles will be further degraded until no will wish to admit they are participating. “My life was on hold to put him through college.” “I gave up my dream because she needed me.” “I work 70 hours just about every week because my boss needs my specific skills and doesn’t have the money to hire another person.”

Why would anyone need to put their life on hold if everyone has the power and skill to direct their life? That is a difficult concept to absorb is it not? Do you see how deeply entrenched those care taker/victim modes are?

Yesterday, in our radio show we discussed how a buffer has been provided that will more easily allow you to move into joy and out of fear. Care taking and victim hood are not part of joy – both are offshoots of fear.

Ask yourself why you wish to take care of someone. Is it because your heart sings when you do so? Then it is right for you.

Or is it because you feel you should? If it is the latter, you are moving both yourself and the person you are care taking off the path of joy. For the person you are care taking must reciprocate with feelings of gratitude, even if their heart tells them that they wish to do this piece on their own. Who among you has the courage to tell a loving care taker to take a “flying leap?” And so it has been for ages.

The net result is that even if you feel strong enough to do it on your own, pushing the caretaker aside seems cruel. So the two of you continue a dance that neither wants to be part of. And if one partner wishes to continue in that dance and the other does not, it merely means that one has moved into the New Age and other wishes to live in the Old Age.

What are you to do if your child, parent or friend begs for help and you do not feel as if it is something you wish to do? Yes, what are you to do? Do you follow your heart or follow the dictates of society? Do you do what you need to do to move into the New Age or do you stay stuck in the Old Age because of guilt and fear?

Do you see how enmeshed you are in some of  the Old Age belief patterns? It is time – actually far beyond time – for you to stop believing you can make anyone stronger, better or healthier than they can themselves. They have access to the same tool kit that you do and always have. You are not stronger or better – just different, with a different role to play.

Your society has used both care taker and victim roles to control the masses. If someone “out there” can make whatever is bothering you all better, why would you spend time trying to work out your issues, pain or fears?

Let us return to an example with which all parents are familiar. Is it not easier to pick up your child’s blocks than to encourage them to pick up their blocks? Some parents do not have the strength to wait as the child picks up one toy, looks at it, whines and then asks why they must pick up their other toys – over and over again. Are not those parents the ongoing care takers of their adult children?

Teach them to fish and they will swim on their own. Teach them to depend on you or anyone else and they will never leave their small pool of comfort. So be it. Amen.

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May 10, 2011 at 4:20 pm 10 comments


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