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Friendship Loss?

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for LifeTapestry

Summary of Brenda’s December 18, 2020, channeled “Creation Energies” show at During this holiday season, do what you need to do, even if that means performing that which no longer interests you. For this is the last year, you’ll need to perform according to the expectations of others. Some of you moved beyond those expectations, but not all. Allow yourself to function in ways most peaceful for you. You don’t have the energy to fight yourself and/or the world now. 

“Rest” is the title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly channeled blog for LifeTapestry

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

You are discovering you do not react as you have in the past. Another difference you have perhaps yet to note is you are becoming more self-sufficient and courageous. 

Perhaps you are saying, “No,” as others try to have you meet their needs. Perhaps you are not bothering with former niceties. Or perhaps you are no longer interested in areas that used to interest you. It does not matter how you display your independence and courage, for the end-product is the same for all – the freedom to be.

This first holiday season of freedom is likely confusing. For many of you are questioning your former and current actions, as well as the actions of others. You are deciding which, if any, of your holiday traditions hold enough interest for you to continue. At the same time, others are pressuring you to be who you used to be. 

Even though this is not an easy time, you have prepared for years, perhaps decades. Part of you is fighting with yourself, and another part is fighting against the traditions that now mean little to you. So it continues with the December energies encouraging you to be you in all your glory. 

Maybe you are concerned that your friendship pool has become so small you are not completely comfortable with new you. Even though you have become an independent human angel, you maintain the human trait of wishing to interact with others lovingly. Such is not necessarily true for all human angels. But for many of you, friendship has become a concern. 

You will create new interactions with those of like mind and discover new friends in the most unlikely places. But such information does not appease your current feelings of loneliness, of having to start over in the friendship realm. 

We assure you that your friendship or relationship concerns will be circumvented in the coming months. For 2020 was about discovering yourself outside the social milieu. But then, not everyone self-isolated. By continuing their life as it was, those individuals missed some of the freedoms you developed.

That is not to say those not self-isolating are terrible people, merely that they were given a “get-out-of-jail-free” card they opted not to use. Does such a statement mean they are less spiritual than you? No, merely that they have opted for a more difficult road. Even though they helped create the en masse stop that was 2020, they did not take advantage of that stop. 

So it is some of your friends, or former friends are at a different place than those of you utilizing this year of solitude. And because they are at a different place, you likely do not have as much in common. Which is neither good nor bad, just different. A difference that might be difficult for some time as you flit from one interest to another. A bit like deciding at age 12 you are not interested in playing with an 8-year-old. Once you and the 8-year-old are both in your 30s. that age difference will mean little. And so it might be for those who opted not to utilize this year of solitude. They will need to double-task for a bit to catch-up to your freedom base. 

Those who did not take advantage of 2020 will expect you to be who you were, for they are mostly who they were when the year began. Such is neither good nor bad, just how they followed their path. For some of those who did not embrace this year of solitude, it was a badge of honor that they did not. Just as was true for those of you who did. So for much of 2021, it is unlikely you will have much in common. 

That last statement is not written in stone, but instead an observation of probabilities. So it is you will likely mourn what was – just as you might have when you left your childhood interests behind. At the same time, you will look forward to the possibilities of your new life and forge new friendships.

That is not to say you will never interact with those friends who did not use this year of solitude to go within, but instead that it might take a bit of time for those friends to catch-up to you. Or you may never interact with them again, for, by the time they are at a similar place as you, you might have such different interests that your interactions are never the same.

That last thought might seem depressing to many of you, for you value your friendships. But just as you are different, so are your interests and interactions. You are more confident in your being and your direction. So even if friends used this year of solitude similar to what was true for you, you still may be on such different paths as not to intersect again.

Which is no different than many of those persons with whom you attended grammar school. In all likelihood, you now have little in common with them, for your 3D adult path was different than theirs. You have the commonality of your school, but not enough other commonalities to maintain more than a passing relationship. Such did not affect your 3D life, nor your transition. So it will be for you as you move through 2021 and beyond. 

You have evolved beyond expectations – what was and who you were are no longer. So those who are not interested in similar areas or on a different time track may not hold great interest for you. But there will be others who help you sparkle with joy and laughter. You are entering a dramatic new phase of your being. A phase that has never happened en masse on the earth before.

You are new. The earth is new. And your friendships will likely shift as a result. Allow that to be. And allow yourself to know that you will not be alone – if you flow into your new being, instead of stalling the inevitable to maintain friendships that no longer – and may never again – sparkle for you. So be it. Amen. To receive Brenda’s Blog, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her “Blog & Subscribe” page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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December 21, 2020 at 9:36 am 18 comments

You’re Not a Friend Control

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Summary of Brenda’s February 22, 2019, channeled “Creation Energies” show at  Your loved ones are likely in their dark night of the soul. You can’t carry them through any more than they could carry you. Even though you wish to play, they’re stuck in fear. But such will be so for less time than was true for you because you cleared lifetimes, dimensions, and frequencies. Those you love are likely merely clearing aspects affecting this life.

“Your Creations: Macro to Micro” is the title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly channeled blog for

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

Perhaps it seems as if you have no true friends for those you once thought of as friends are in different transition stages. So it is you cannot understand them and them, you.

Such is so because you have completed many of the phases they are just starting to address. Which is neither good nor bad, merely different. A difference that is displayed in ways you did not anticipate.

You believed you would become more like a parent gently leading those you love to a particular arena of spirituality and belief. Instead, you are discovering that compatibility has become almost a friendship liability.

Should you continue the friendship hoping they will finally embrace your point of view or end the friendship as you have done with others?

Most of you want us to tell you to continue the friendship for you already feel lonely in your new world.

But we cannot tell you what to do or when because we do not have the knowledge you have. Perhaps your current interactions are based in difficulties you had with them in previous lifetimes, or indicate you are no longer on the same frequency and may never be again. Only you know. What does your heart tell you to do?

Some of you in long-term relationships have fallen in love with your partner several times within decades of togetherness, just as you might have fallen out of love. Your heart guided you then and your heart will guide you now.

Some of your friends are ending their evolutional development out of fear. Others are doing so because they need to review their current status, and still others because they are tired of climbing their mountain of clearings. All are appropriate actions for them. Your decision is whether they have moved so far beyond you or your frequency that you no longer have an interest in maintaining the friendship.

That decision is your fear. For your current friendship pool is smaller than you would like and yet, you feel you need to make painful friendship decisions when you wish to be in joy.

This is not a time for final decisions for so many are evolving in so many different directions that what was true for them yesterday may not be tomorrow.

At the same time, you do not have the energy to wait until they blend perfectly with you as they once did.

Your decision is to be true to yourself whatever that means to you.

Perhaps you will wish to prolong the time between connections. Or eliminate connections. Or choose different connections. All are possible – the deciding factor is you.

As a forerunner, your thoughts and beliefs are no longer of 3D fear. Even though thoughts of losing a friend might produce fear, you no longer base your decisions in fear. So it is if interacting with someone makes you upset or fearful, you know deep within you that such interactions are not what you wish.

But then, are those interactions permanent or temporary? Only your inner being can inform you of the advantages of either delaying your decision or ending the relationship.

The decisions you make now are your decisions. Not ours of the Universes nor any one of the earth. Just as we cannot force you to do anything, you cannot force yourself. And continuing the same close relationship despite great discomfort forces you into a box of denial which is no longer appropriate.

You, of course, are wondering where is the joy in loneliness?

Your forefront role created a foregone conclusion that you will be lonely at times, especially at the beginning. As you become stronger in yourself, you will discover others who better understand you or better blend with your frequency.

You cannot force someone to blend frequencies with you, nor can you allow yourself to make decisions on small tidbits as you once did. It is time to review the whole – including you. Are you more or less sensitive than you used to be? Are you accepting that those just beginning their new you transition might be a bit rough around the edges? Or are you tired of being around others who do not understand why they are shifting?

You have the power to decide how if at all, you wish to continue relationships. There is no right answer other than the one you find within you. An answer that might change from day-to-day, which will confuse you more. For you are used to having someone tell you that such a person is wrong for you or to drop a friendship based on some words of wrongness in your mind.

We will remind you that it is likely 99% of the earth’s inhabitants do not yet think or act as you do. And that the 99 % are stunned daily as they evolve, just as was true for you.  Do you remember how quickly your needs and tastes changed during your dark night of the soul? So it is now for many – including those closest to you.

Your shift encouraged those closest to you to shift also. The difference is you were almost forced to change by your pre-earth entry decisions. Those shifting now are doing so because of you.

As you radiate more, those following are picking up your light, so to speak, causing them to want to shift also. But their shift is more of the moment than was true for you so they will flounder a bit more than you did. You did so because you had to. Those following are doing so because they want to.

As your loved ones shift their beliefs and thought processes they will continuously return to 3D fears, not because they have to but because it is more comfortable for them to do so. Allow that to be. They are deciding what is best for them in this lifetime. You must honor their decisions even though you wish to jump in and carry them through, so your friend connections are as delightful as before.

You forerunners are the only ones now of the earth who had to evolve to new you. Allow others the freedom to choose just as we allowed you that freedom eons ago.

If your friends decide not to evolve to a frequency similar to yours, honor that or end the relationship. And if they decide to continue the frequency relationship that holds them dear in your heart, allow them time to do so. You are not in control of them, just as they are no longer in control of you. So be it. Amen. If you would like to receive Brenda’s Blogs when posted, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her Blog & Subscribe page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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