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Are You Surprising Yourself With Your Actions?

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Overview of Brenda’s 15-minute, free, channeled show Creation Energies on http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com:Yesterday’s channeled radio show returned to the theme of  last week’s Brenda’s Blog available at http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com  titled Letting Go of a Piece of Your Heart. Relationship sharing means asking yourself what you want or need in a relationship. You’ve been trained to give without expectations for eons. It’s time to review that pattern along with your beliefs about your self-worth.

 

Dear Ones,

Even though you may understand intellectually what is happening to those relationships that no longer feel loving or valuable – whether human, animal or other entity – emotionally, you are exhausted and devastated. That person or entity might have been your touchstones of security for decades or eons. Please know that they are not bad or evil, they just do not fit within your being in a comfortable and loving fashion.

Perhaps it would be easier to understand if you think of yourself as  a round puzzle with round puzzle pieces and the other person or entity as a square puzzle with square puzzle pieces. One shape is not better than the other, merely different and not interchangeable. So it is for you now.

You do not hate the people or objects you are moving away from, you just do not feel comfortable with them any longer. You cannot understand them and they cannot understand you.

What are you to do about the void left in your heart now that they are no longer part of you – at least at the level they were before the shift? What indeed? Who or what do you want in your life and why?

You see we have returned to the basics again. Who are you? Do you wish to be with someone who makes you uncomfortable? Why? And if not, why not? What is different about you…or them? Create the relationships that fit the new you much as you did when you left home or starting dating. You are not alone. You merely have to set your personal radar to a station that matches like-minded people or entities.

The key phrase is self-worth. For eons, you have accepted without question the phrase, “To give is better than to receive.” Do you realize how many belief patterns are attached to that phrase – including gender, race, religion, age, government and economics?

Historically, women were protected by their male relatives or spouses to the extent that they were not able to vote, hold office or own property. Such beliefs seem ludicrous now given that women are voting, serving in the military, owning property and serving in office. But many belief patterns needed to shift before such dramatic societal changes occurred. Such changes required decades of dedicated work by those who believed men and women were equal intellectually and physically.

Your recent shift feels so dramatic – and exhausting – because it occurred within days instead of decades. It was not something you planned for or protested for to obtain. The shift happened without your conscious awareness. And that is how shifts will continue to occur throughout this transition process – easily and naturally, but surprising to you in terms of your reactions and actions.

There is no historical perspective for this shift. Nor are there texts or professors to help you wade through the materials. Merely you acting and reacting according to your inner-being.

Now you ask what else will be expected of you in this transition? You have already given up a great deal in the last few days by moving beyond the people or objects you once held dear. In the not-to-distant future, you will review what you gave up recently and realize the person, entity or object did not expect or accept an equal relationship. For if it were equal, you would not have given it up.

Have you dated someone wonderful until you started noting discrepancies in their words and actions and you needed to let them go? So it was for you in the last few days. But again, there were no self-help books to tell you what to do. You acted from your inner-being not societal dictates – how frightening that is to many. No rules, no guidance – just you knowing who you are and what you need.

In the past, you were inundated with correct moves and actions provided your psychologists, self-help gurus, parents and religious leaders. Even though they may have had somewhat different viewpoints, they all provided a “correct” framework for who you were and how you acted. Those few people who dared to move beyond those rules laid down by others found themselves justifying their actions by pointing out a philosophy or text that indicated a similar activity. Such safety nets no longer apply.

How can a societal safety net apply when you have transferred your power to your inner-being? And how can your moves be correct for anyone else?

Allow yourself to know that you are a powerful, self-governing entity – as is everyone else. Then allow yourself to know that what occurred in the past few days was you allowing your self-governing being to move in a direction that was and is correct for you.

Your self-governing being is not mean, vicious or self-aggrandizing. It merely wishes to help your physical being move into the place that will encompass the joy, love and peace you have long hoped for. Your self-governing being is slowly but surely waking up to the New Age.

Much of what has transpired pertaining to the New Age/new energy/new earth in the past forty years has been an intellectual discussion of the possibilities. In the last few years, your physical being began shifting – but not to the extent that you felt or acted much differently. Perhaps you visualized, had your favorite mantras or associated with others who felt similarly – but your life continued much as was before you found the materials.

Your physical being is shifting to meet the intellectual thoughts you have processed for a few decades. You are becoming the person you wanted to be, and hoped to be, in the New Age/new earth. To do that you must move away from those people and entities that force or urge you to physically act as you always have. The New Age you is physically coming into being with all the twists of your personality such changes require.

Can you remain happily involved in what you term “dysfunctional relationships?” Not if you are moving into the New Age. You cannot be an alcoholic, spouse beater, thief, murderer or any similar activity and comfortably move into the New Age/new earth. Not that any of those labels are terrible in themselves, but rather do not include love, joy and peace. New actions for the new you. Paramount of which is self-worth. And self-worth is not synonymous with a dysfunctional relationship, rage, hate and anger.

You took a major physical step into the new earth/New Age in the past few days by acting on feelings that you no longer wish to be part of a dysfunctional anything. You brave souls in a matter of months moved into a place that would normally take hundreds of years.

No wonder you are starting to surprise yourself with your actions – you continually surprise us. So be it. Amen.

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August 31, 2011 at 5:39 pm 2 comments

Letting Go of A Piece of Your Heart

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Dear Ones,

In the past few days, many of you have let go of people, objects and communities that have been a central part of your life. And so you are once again exhausted.

Perhaps you lost a favorite pair of earrings; or your perceptions of your family or community shifted. Whatever it was, that piece tugged at your heart and brought tears to your eyes. You let go of a part of your being, your heart.

If you are moving towards a heart-centered life, how is it possible you needed to let go of something that was in your heart? We have described this new earth/new age shift as that those who wish to move into the New Age will find those who do not much less interesting.

What happened in the last few days is related to this concept in a somewhat convoluted fashion. The pieces or people who you found the need to let go are those who are not interested in being part of the New Age. But you never imagined letting go would be so painful.

What you let go of this week was the last piece of the Old Age you were hoping would continue to be part of your life in a way that did not distract you from your forward moment – somewhat like leaving your home of origin. And so it is to a certain extent, but the pieces you let go in the last few days are pieces you really never wanted to lose.

An analogy would be the many families in World War I Europe who were separated because of their heritage, instead of their beings. It was not uncommon for an English family with German relatives to negate the warm and loving connection the two families had maintained for generations. After the war, those two families were never able to connect on the level that had been true in earlier years – there were too many topics they could not discuss or share.

So it will be with you and that piece or pieces that you let go in the last few days. Perhaps the earrings were an important part of your memory bank that you used as a reminder of loving activities when you looked at yourself in a mirror. Or perhaps it is a family structure you no longer preceive in  the same way. The image/life you wanted to maintain can no longer be maintained by you.

You are exhausted because you are in a period of mourning. To create new structures, the former structures need to be destroyed, shifted or changed. And so it is with you.

Those of you who have long hoped for the new earth/New Age always assumed, or at least hoped, that the transition would be relatively easy emotionally. And so it has been and will be. It just does not feel like that at this moment. It most likely feels as if your heart has been ripped apart and loosely stitched together as a temporary measure.

Please know that such is not the case. You will not be and are not alone. You indeed can reconnect with those people, communities and objects that have so damaged your emotions in the past few days. It is just that you will reconnect on a different level – or not reconnect at all.

Even though you perhaps have not labeled this transition as such, this transition is a revolution of the greatest magnitude. Revolution means change. But then, all of existence is ongoing change. The difference is that the revolution you are now experiencing is happening at a faster rate than you or anyone anticipated. Reading or listening to concepts is easier than moving through the pieces necessary to actualize a revolution.

But again, you are not alone, nor are you forced to let go of the something or someone you are now mourning.

This is not a physical revolution. It is an inner-directed revolution. So if you find the pain too deep to let go – do not do so. But if you find through your tears that you now understand that the relationship was never quite as you envisioned it to be – that you had created something loving that the other persons, communities or entities did not reciprocate, you will find that after your tears dry you will not wish to return – at least at the same depth as was true before the trauma of the past few days.

You are a unique person with unique needs and directions. You do not have to continue the thought processes that you are now feeling. You can return to the relationship, your community, your job or replace the object. That is and always has been your choice. But we will venture to guess that you will either not do so or will do so on a much different level than was true before you started this mourning process.

Some of you are upset for you want us to tell you that what you let go in the past few days is either gone forever or will return as it was before. Neither is an accurate projection of your new life.

First, we cannot tell you what is correct for you – only you know. That information is stored in your inner-being and can be accessed when you are in a quandary such as you are now. Secondly, you are evolving so rapidly that what was lovely yesterday may not even warrant a second glance today.

So do not feel as if you have given up all of your loving relationships and memories to move into the New Age. But then again, do not necessarily expect that the life that was a great joy to you a few years ago is reality for who you are now.

Listen to your heart, you inner-being and you will know what is correct for you. And as you are doing so, allow yourself to fully mourn what was and may no longer be.

But know that whatever your future holds, it will be based on the love and joy you are feeling more and more within your being. And then know that whatever you let go of recently needed to be shifted, removed or altered in order for you to be the New Age being you are becoming. 

Mourn as you did when you put your favorite doll in storage because you were too old to play with dolls. Perhaps you still have that doll and when you find her in her special box, you smile with the fond memories you have of the times you played with her. But you have no need to play with her. And so it is now with the persons or objects you are mourning. So be it. Amen.

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August 25, 2011 at 1:05 pm 4 comments


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