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Summary of Brenda’s June 7, 2019, channeled “Creation Energies” show at As a young 5D adult, you’re likely fearful of selecting the wrong path. Such isn’t possible because you’re living in joy. All paths are correct until they’re not. And your current need to be alone or to not be ‘the life of the party’ will pass as you discover who you are in this new vehicle that is you.

“Enough With Martyrdom is the title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly channeled blog for

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

Perhaps you are concerned about your future direction – or not. It does not matter for as you evolve your direction is changing daily.

Some of you have difficulties believing that anything in your life or understanding is shifting. Yet, you catch yourself laughing at a silly object or becoming unusually angry at something that has happened many times before.

Both your internal being and your outer world are evolving more rapidly than you comprehend. Perhaps some of you experienced past global upheavals as your 3D personal life was changing. In all likelihood, your life was of greater importance to you at that time than world events. So it is now.

You question your judgment, actions, and friends, allowing little interest in global events. Even though you likely know a smattering of what is being reported, your main interest is your immediate world. Do those world events affect your life or your worldview? If so, you are interested. If not, you merely add the information to the unimportant knowledge collection.

Your world, your being is shifting from macro to micro. So it is, you are now more interested in your life than that of others. LIkely, you contend such is not true and never has been. We beg to differ. Your world was once more global than is now true. Not because you are an uncaring being, but because you are learning to love yourself.

Perhaps you once marveled at that special person who gave his or her life to save another. And while you might still do the same given your 3D training, you will not do so without questioning the wisdom of that action. For your new being is learning and accepting the importance of you.

Past measures were to save women, children, and infirm – anyone defined by society as weak. Your safety was not part of the equation – especially if you were a male. Now that loving yourself is becoming the new ‘law of the land’ more are questioning saving others before themselves.

Such statements make you cringe for you were taught for eons that others were more important than you. That you should deny yourself before you deny others. That you can always take care of yourself, but those poor others do not have the capacity to do so.

Is that true? Such are your new frightening thoughts. Not because you are a terrible person, but because the logic of loving yourself informs you that you are as capable as anyone and the same is true for those who were once considered weak.

Likely, you continue to believe the model that you are stronger than anyone, that others can never care for themselves as well as you do, that you are superior to others. At the same time, you worry that you are not enough, not as good as others. Do you see how you have tortured yourself for eons? Knowing internally that you were an earth savior and yet, believing you were not acceptable as you were. A dichotomy that created such pain within you that you no longer valued yourself.

You and your neighbor are equally valuable. This transition that you initiated cannot be completed without your global friends and neighbors. You are an earth angel in the correct earth place.

Others who follow will soon begin to feel more compatible with you for they, too, will learn to love themselves.

But until then, do not pressure yourself by attempting to determine who is more valuable or weaker or whatever sets you apart from others. Your only role now is to learn to love yourself. And you will do so by finding and following your joy. As will those who follow.

Those who follow are not weaker or less than you, they are merely playing a different role in this transition drama. Even though their stage entrance is after yours, without their input the drama would fall flat – your entrance would end the play for there would be no middle or end.

So it is you need to remember that you are not more or less important than those who follow. Just as you need to remember that you are strong, and so are they. Different roles in an extremely dramatic play that require the full attention and input from all actors, no matter how small their role appears to be.

It is also time to realize that your infant or the infant down the street is entering earth in this lifetime to add a role to this amazing play. There are no bit players. For without the entirety of the actors, this transition could not be.

Your inner voice is telling you how important this new stage of learning and accepting self-love is. There is no we as you do so for you have given your life and many others to that concept. The 3D we is no longer the stronger entity – that which made you feel wrong for you believed those who created the 3D we were more important than you.

Even though your heart perhaps continues to go out to children and the elderly, please remember that they too have an essential role to enact. For if you feel you must control them because you are so much wiser or more important, you lose your sense of self-love.

You and others of the earth are equals. Something you have never felt before while of the earth. For your personal history is of others being better and you being odd or somehow not quite complete. That thought process is now fading, which concerns you. For you feel you ‘should’ be more loving, more of a caretaker, more of the giver you have been for eons.

This is a new world and a new time. You are a new being in a new play. Allow yourself to learn how to love yourself before you feel the need to care for others. In this new world, there are no entities more or less important than you. Something you, even now, find difficult to understand.

The love you share is now equal, whereas you once gave hoping for something in return.

You have a right to say, “No” or “Yes.” Something you have denied yourself for eons as you filtered the needs of others and your need to be loved through both actions.

You are finally allowing yourself to be. As you do, your actions might not be as you expect, but all are to help you understand that you are not more or less important than others. And others are learning the same. So be it. Amen. If you would like to receive Brenda’s Blogs when posted, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her Blog & Subscribe page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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Summary of Brenda’s May 20, 2016, channeled, 15-minute “Creation Energies” show at The next few days are about declaring who you are without regret or fear. Perhaps that means job reassignments, new friends, new actions. It doesn’t matter for you’re finally at the point where your declarations of self are loud and clear – without shame, guilt or angst. 

“You’re Not the Parent of a Sick Child” is the title of this week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly, channeled blog for

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

You are clarifying your being and direction – not always an easy task for you are used to pleasing others, doing a tap dance of society rightness, despite misgivings about how that society rightness might affect you. You are discovering it is too uncomfortable not to be you – no matter the consequences.

Until now, most of you tip-toed around your feelings and how you wished to function.

The past few days, many of you discovered personal cover-ups are no longer possible. That if you betray your inner being, you physical or emotional body creates a discomfort informing you that you have gone astray.

A discomfort you once easily hid from yourself.

You used to function within the parameters of rightness created by others with few after effects other than boredom or gossiping with others how uncomfortable you were.

Such is no longer true. You cannot tolerate moving off your path to care for others more than yourself. You are discovering the angst of doing what others expect is deeper than any angst you once felt for not being what others wanted.

New you is a transformation far beyond what you imagined. You assumed you would transition bit by bit with none other than you being the wiser. Such is no longer true.

And those who assume you are the you they were comfortable with or that you will do what they request because you always have, are as surprised as you at your new positions.

You no longer find the need to appease others at your expense. Something you were so comfortable with in 3D – yet another form of caretaking.

You are you, and others are who they are becoming. Delineations as surprising to you as much as anyone.

Perhaps you are concerned that few, if any, will wish to be with you as you continue your new path. Even though we would like to report that thousands will be enamored of your new being, you are in uncharted territory.

You are learning to love yourself despite what others think or feel. Something you have never attempted while of the earth without earning the label of egocentric.

So it is you are not pleasing to those who wish to continue the dynamics established before new you emerged. And so it is most of you are doing so which does not allow for much interweaving of group rightness at this moment.

The best description is of two pre-schoolers wanting the same sand pail. Each child is focused on the sand pail with little concern whether the other child likes them before, during or after. It is only the observing parent who attempts to negotiate a compromise between the two pre-schoolers.

Right now, you are one of those two pre-schoolers not that interested in compromise as you discover what gives you joy.

Many of you do not like that image for was it not just days ago that you were labeled new you adults? And so you are. But you are an adult in training – overcoming negotiations that you are, “to be nice, be part of the group, do what you are told.”

No longer an easy task as you divest yourself of one belief after another. Beliefs you do not necessarily realize you have until you are forced to make a decision about who you are, instead of what others need or want.

You are cutting to the core of your new you being. And as you do so, you are discovering elements of your totality that just need to say, “NO.” You are also discovering new interests and roles that did not interest you before.

You are a new being in your physical shell. The only piece that remains of 3D you is your appearance – and even that is shifting a bit.

You are a new being within causing, sometimes even forcing, you to move in directions you did not think possible or wanted to think possible a mere few months ago.

You are claiming you – just as predicted, but not necessarily as you expected. New you is much more clearly defined than was true of 3D you – or throughout this transition until now.

Not only are you uncomfortable now not being who you are, you can no longer do so. Something that both amazes and frightens you. For there is no parent to negotiate for you. There are not others patting you on your back confirming how right you are – for they are too busy discovering themselves. There is only you following inner directions not always comfortable in terms of what you have come to expect of yourself, but always true to who you have become.

That trueness to yourself is your beacon of light for those who follow.

No longer are there those hazy lines that 3D you was so comfortable with, “I will do this, so my friend will reciprocate when I need something from him.”

Your life is no longer a compromise. It is, “This is who I am. I would love to have you in my life, but I cannot be who you want me to be to remain in your life.”

Now you are perhaps frightened. Does such a change mean you will be more isolated than you have been? Not in the long-term, but perhaps in the immediate future. For some of your decisions will not please those who continue to be of 3D or even those discovering themselves.

It is not your responsibility to make others comfortable at your expense. You have done so for eons out of fear.

Now that you are learning to love yourself, you are moving to your drummer without concerns of the outcome – just as is true for pre-schoolers fighting over a sand pail before an adult intervenes. In a sense, you are now moving through the “terrible twos” of your new being as you claim what you have given away emotionally, physically and spiritually for eons to be of the earth.

You are you in all your glory. Allow that to be. And allow the same for others. You cannot live someone’s life for them, nor can they do so for you.

And if you discover that others want to tame you, shift you, change you, apologize for you or any other aspect that tells you are not the glorious being that you are, you will most likely move on with or without an explanation of why. For many explanations are merely 3D you trying to fit in.

You have shifted beyond that and it is time for you to acknowledge that for yourself and others. So be it. Amen. If you would like to receive Brenda’s blogs when posted, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her Blog and Subscribe page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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