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Learning to be Sovereign

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Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Summary of Brenda’s June 10, 2016, channeled, 15-minute “Creation Energies” show at  http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com/brenda-hoffman:  You’re moving away from various entities, plants, animals, etc. because they’re not reciprocating your love. And you’re discovering you aren’t a supreme being with the right to declare someone or something bad for everyone. Just as you’re learning to accept, even love, those of different races, philosophies and religions, so too are you understanding the need to share love with plants, animals and any entity you can imagine.

“Enough of Fear Clearing Already!” is the title of this week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly, channeled blog for www.LifeTapestryCreations.com.

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

Perhaps some of you recently released others with thoughts of, “Did I say the right words? Did they misunderstand me?”

Yet, you feel a freedom you have not felt for some time. The freedom of self-love. The freedom of releasing those no longer of your frequency or in 3D terms, interested in the same direction as you.

The thought of losing anyone has been a difficult sensation for most of you throughout this transition. Much like being in a marriage that is not right for you, “If I capitulate on this piece maybe he/she will return physically or emotionally.” Thoughts encouraging someone to return to or remain in your life – but not directed to what you need or deserve.

So it is, during the past few days, you have dared to declare yourself a sovereign being no matter the consequences. A stance that has many of you in a quandary for it is so new. You feel as if you have become a desert island with no one to interact with.

In truth, your actions and words are forays into a self-love, self-worth that is so different from your eons of trying to fit in that you play the interactions over and over in your head to ensure you were right in declaring your sovereignty.

For eons, you had no difficulty dumbing down to fit within your family or culture. Anything was acceptable as long as they remained in your life – that is acceptable to them, for they demanded specific actions and words that were neither for you or by you.

You have come to a joy crossroads that you did not envision when you first decided to love yourself – the crossroads of self-worth. “Do I dare be me knowing that the consequences might be loneliness? Or do I continue the charade of fitting in by denying who I am?”

Many of you have decided to do both. Such is perfectly fine – just as an infant often crawls and walks in the same time period. Do not berate yourself for not walking the minute you decide to do so. But instead, observe yourself and yes, reward yourself for even daring to stand up in whatever fashion.

Do you remember the smiles of joy your infant displayed the first time they stood up on their wobbly little legs? They did not berate themselves for not being able to walk, much less run. They were merely filled with joy that they could stand.

So it is for you now. Much of your self-worth has been divided between pleasing others and berating yourself for not doing more – whatever more is to you.

Neither is a joyful stance. It is time to reward yourself within yourself for every step forward. For you are now performing your wobbly first stand. Allow that to be. Instead of berating yourself for not doing more. Reward yourself for daring to stand.

And so it is you will begin to value yourself.

Some of you are telling yourselves that it is too difficult to take that first step into joy, that you cannot tell others how you truly feel for you have done so in your previous earth lives to very unpleasant results. So it is your memories return you to being what others need and want, but denying yourself.

What you perhaps have not yet internalized is that those persons, those actions have been placed before you by you to encourage you to step into joy despite past thoughts and current fears.

They are your allies in self-love even though they feel and act opposite. You acknowledge that your life is a drama or comedy you create. And that you bring certain players into your drama or comedy to hone your skills. As was true with your family in this lifetime. For many of you had very unpleasant childhoods – not because you had to, but because you wanted to clear certain elements before transitioning into 5D. And so you have.

Now it is time to extend that shift to those you no longer resonate with in your current being. Perhaps they will return at a later date, perhaps not. But that hope is not part of stepping into joy.

This is a selfish time for you – just as is true for an infant. An infant does not thank his or her parents for allowing him to learn to walk or talk. That infant merely focusses on doing so. So it is for you now. Your focus is self-love.

You are reviewing interactions with others to actualize that focus. Are they filled with love and fun – a direct route to joy? Or are they filled with compromise, capitulation, and fear of being wrong?

It does not matter what others are thinking or feeling. Demonstrating self-love is all that matters now.

For you have gone so far astray from self-love that you need to focus on it – just as is true for an infant learning to stand or walk. Have you observed how an infant practices the various stages of learning to stand from rolling on his or her blanket until it can easily turn over, to crawling, to that first adventuress stand without you holding his or her fingers? It is not an overnight accomplishment even though it appears to be for those who have not observed the various stages.

So it is for you now. Allow yourself to move through the stages of returning to self-love without angst, self-anger or fear. You will act when it is right for you to act. And you will know when that time arrives by the same little inner voice that encouraged you to stand and walk years ago.

Love yourself enough to know you are moving into love at the pace right for you. Infants do not select a standing up or walking day – each infant declares themselves ready when they do so. It just so happens that most infants are ready at a similar time – give or take a few weeks. And so it is for you.

You are all moving in a similar direction in a similar time – but not the same time. Allow yourself to grow at your pace – no one else’s. For if you try to be like someone else, you are again shifting from self-love to societal control. So be it. Amen.

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June 13, 2016 at 10:40 am 40 comments

Get Over Yourself – Accept Joy

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Summary of Brenda’s July 18, 2014 channeled, free, 15-minute, channeled “Creation Energies” show at  http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com/brenda-hoffman: Those of you who cleared your core fear in the past few days will discover that your next big piece is expecting and accepting joy. A seemingly easy task until you attempt to do so.

The title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her free, weekly, channeled blog for  www.LifeTapestryCreations.com: “What’ and ‘Why’ – New Earth Clearing Tools”

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

Many fear outcomes despite moving beyond the need to do so. You expect the same result true for this lifetime – before your transition – and many, if not all, previous lifetimes. It is as if someone has gifted you millions of dollars and you wonder when it will be taken away. Or you gamble with your winnings believing it does not matter, as all will be gone soon.

Then, there are those who will relish and enjoy the gifted millions – without embarrassment or apologies.

And so it is that you are at a belief crossroads. Do you truly believe in this transition? Or have you merely been voicing your belief in joy, but maintaining fears deep within you?

Perhaps you feel such is unfair for you have suffered for eons for the core belief embedded deep within you and just learned a few days ago what that core belief was – so you need more processing time.

In the 3D world you are most familiar with, you indeed would require and be allowed more time, But this is now, this is new earth. It is time to get ‘over yourself’ You have a beacon of light within you that you promised the Universes to shine. 

That last statement appears to be yet another care taking role and so it is. Only this time, you are care taking yourself. Quite different from past eons when you were at the end of the care taking line. Everyone – parents, children, spouses, friends, community, country – came first. Do you understand that few wars would have been possible if self interests were culturally acceptable?

Perhaps you are thinking we are advising you to be selfish. We are. For once in this life and many others, determine who you are and what you need. 

In the Old Age, lines were drawn. Take care of women, children, country, anyone deemed less powerful than you – and finally you.

Who determined what groups were less powerful or more needy?

Is it not true that only in the past 100 years or so in modern history, women were allowed to experience similar risks, jobs and activities as men? In past centuries were not seven-year-old children – both male and female – considered adults? Have not several female dominated cultures been discovered by archaeologists? Are there not countries who refuse participate in wars?

And yet, you continue believe that current culturally accepted and dominant behavior patterns are cast in stone.

When did those aforementioned cultural patterns change and why? What did those patterns represent that do not require representation in your current life? If changes occurred throughout earth history and were accepted and followed, why can you not believe that you can easily now live in joy?

You do not need to live in joy if you would rather not – but why not? The Universes – and you – are gifting you with love and abundance. It is time to accept and believe. Believing means knowing without a doubt that the pain of yesterday is no more. 

You can fight and argue to live your pain/Old Age beliefs, but joy is here. Maintaining your pain belief is no different from continuing to believe horses are the most important means of transportation even though automobiles, airplanes and trains are readily available.

Shift you thinking process from that of pain to pleasure. Not because you have to – but why would you not want to? 

Perhaps you feel you must accept pleasure. Such is the case for different reasons than you now perhaps imagine.

In past eons, you were forced to accept the beliefs best for society – at any cost to your person hood.

You are now accepting joy because of your person hood. Perhaps it will help you to think of this as a reading or math lesson you might not be particularly like, but something you must complete before progressing to more advanced studies.

For indeed, if you do not accept joy/pleasure/self-love; and the same is true for the next person and the next and the next – your life will remain in a fear mode. Earth and all other earth entities are shifting – whether or not you appreciate that. And it is time for human entities to fully accept their role in this amazing transition.

Even though you do not have to accept your new life of joy, you will be truly out-of-step with your world if you do not. And you will live in fear and pain far beyond the time you need to.

You have completed your fear lessons. You have cleansed – and exited your cocoon. Now allow yourself to accept and yes, enjoy the fruits of your labor.

Accept the Universal gifts being showered upon you. Accept joy, despite old indicators that you need to fear something.

Allow yourself to move beyond first grade. You no longer need to read those painfully boring Dick and Jane books. You can read whatever genre is of interest to you – as long as it is not frightening or painful. Those chapters of your life are long gone.

Accept and allow yourself to grow in the joy of your being. That is your Universal beacon of love and light – closely observed by those pondering whether to follow you.

Allow yourself to be in this new earth.

Accept that you are as powerful as you sometimes now imagine. Your new roles are in joyful drama and comedies. Your in-depth frightening and depressing dramas have successfully been completed. So be it. Amen 

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July 22, 2014 at 1:57 pm 47 comments

Why is Receiving a Dirty Word?

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Summary of Brenda’s December 28, 2013 free, 15-minute, channeled “Creation Energies” show at http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com/brenda-hoffman: It’s time to balance your giving and receiving equation. In new earth, you’ll love yourself as much as others. No longer will phrases like, “He’d give you the shirt off his back” be appropriate or even understandable.

The title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her free, weekly, channeled blog for  http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com: “Merry NEW Holidays to Us”

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” BlogTalkRadio.com show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

We wish to direct your attention to receiving for many of you are not comfortable with that aspect of your being. Perhaps you feel guilty for not giving more during the holiday season to family, friends or charities. As if by spending or giving more all that is not right in your life or someone else’s will be better.

But we venture to guess that few of you feel guilt about not receiving more. The thought of wanting more is what makes you feel guilty.

You have learned to give is divine.

There are few phrases encouraging you to receive. Oh once in awhile, you might read that being thankful for what someone gives you is appropriate. But asking for something is seldom correct in your society – the word selfish is most often used.

Asking for something and truly expecting it to materialize likely ended in childhood when you realized there was no Santa Claus other than yourself.

How many of you spend more than you intend for others during the holidays? Those same thought processes seldom apply to you. Even though you buy items you need or want, most often you do so with thoughts of your budget, if the item is really needed and/or similar filters.

Your media, friends, family and community constantly remind you how “right” giving is – even describing how wonderful you will feel when you do so. And perhaps you do. But receiving does not warrant a similar emphasis in your 3D world.

Giving to others – individuals or organizations – while denying yourself, is the 3D model.

Perhaps such a statement makes you angry for giving does make you joyful. If such is true, this channel is not addressed to you for you have found a source of joy.

But those who give because they should or because of guilt are neither giving nor receiving.

In new earth, all interactions are shared. You receive as well as give. Therefore, learning how to joyfully accept and expect receiving is an extremely important self-contained lesson.

As a child, did you think it was wrong for you to be fed and cared for? At what point in your earth life did receiving become wrong?

AH. Now you are understanding. Giving and not expecting anything in return is a care taker stance.

Did you not care take your children when they were young? But at the same time, did you not expect rewards such as watching your child take their first steps or those little arms wrapped around your neck in love and joy? You and your child experienced a sharing relationship.

But if that same child continues the need to be cared for as an adult despite responding to that care taking with little more than, “Is that all there is?” the relationship is not a sharing relationship. It has become a care taking/victim relationship.

Perhaps you believe you will receive in the future or it is a pay it forward type process. Such is well and good if it is true. But the reality most often is that you are giving or care taking with little expectation of receiving. And at some point, that care taking becomes victimization.

Now you are concerned that we are shifting your thoughts to a selfish mode. So we are.

Selfish is a bad word in your current vocabulary – and giving is a word that is so right. But right for whom? Right for you to give all you have to someone who could create what they need? Right for you to take away their innate powers by constantly showing them you are wiser and better?

Have you asked yourself similar questions before donating your time or money? How do you view the objects of your generosity? As poor them. Or as someone who just needs to be reminded of their powers?

Some of you have adult children or friends living in your home. Is it a sharing relationship or have they reverted to the childlike stance of, “I must be taken care of even if it means you are impoverished for I am the important person in this relationship.”

Please know that, if you have not already experienced it, an emotional shift is occurring.

Perhaps initially it was right for you to care take your adult child or friend. But some how that relationship deteriorated to the point that your life revolves around their needs.

The same has happened with charities and churches. You barely have enough to pay rent, yet you feel guilty when you do not share with those in need.

You are in need now – emotionally and physically.

For you are restructuring your inner-being including learning how to receive. And as you do so, it is likely you will be exposed to feelings of guilt for not giving enough – financial or emotional care taking.

As earth shifts to love, those who wish to remain enmeshed in fear will do whatever it takes to continue a fear-based world. The same is true for care taking. As you remove yourself from a care taking equation, those who were comfortable with or expected your care taking will attempt to return you to that life.

But as you transition to love and joy, you are removing your care taking elements. One of which is, “Giving is divine.”  Your new mantra is, “Sharing is divine.”

Sharing is a joyful win/win situation for all.

Yet those used to being taken care of will fight to maintain those 3D care taking beliefs. A bit like your toddler insisting he needs his bottle after he is capable of drinking from a glass. It is time for you to say, “No” to yourself and others.

Only with sharing will you experience the joy of your relationships. This is new earth. So be it. Amen.

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December 30, 2013 at 11:54 am 30 comments

Create Your New Paradigm of Financial Resources

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Summary of Brenda’s December 12, 15-minute, free, channeled “Creation Energies” show on www.BlogTalkRadio.com:   Many of you are experiencing or have experienced the depths of pain in the shedding of your Old Age beliefs. If you are or have experienced such trauma, you are one of the wayshowers/scout masters/lightworkers advance team members.

Title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” her free, channeled blog at http://www.Life Tapestry Creations.com: “Which Dimension is Your Comfort Zone?”

 

Dear Ones,

We will address an issue that many of you are struggling with – particularly during this holiday season.

For eons, you were taught that it is better to give than receive. That a good person does not accept more than they can use, nor should they wish for more. Even though someone barely has enough to pay his house payments, he continuously hears the voices of his community, his church and anyone else he cares to listen to telling him that he should be grateful for what he has.

At the same time, perhaps his employer has the resources to spend the holidays with her family in a foreign country exploring new worlds and ideas. And then there is someone starving in Africa who would survive if only the employer or employee would donate to an African cause.

Which of the three is most loved by the Universes?

Now you are reviewing your beliefs – for as wayshowers/lightworkers/scout masters you have tried to assimilate the belief that all are of equal worth and strength. So it is true.

In the Old Age, you accepted what was given to you in terms of income, housing, shelter and all you felt you could achieve with the restriction established by you and your society. Even though it was always possible, few of you have expected to have more money than was necessary to live comfortably. Just as you accepted that there were “lucky” people who amassed billions of dollars and as a result lived a life you could only dream of. And just as you accepted that certain humans had to be taken care of in whatever fashion was required. Perhaps that tier lived in a trash heap in India or a ghetto-like environment in the United States – it does not matter. The three layers of possibility were established with complete “knowingness” that it was nearly impossible to jump from one level to another.

Of course, some of you are having difficulties paying your house payments and so you are using a food shelf temporarily. You do not expect it to be a lifelong situation. Just as those living within government welfare systems do not necessarily expect to live any other way. And just as multi-millionaires do not find the need to limit their purchases.

The three layers we outlined are generalizations. Your reactions to those layers are the same.

Does everyone in the middle class reach out to help those less fortunate? Does everyone in the upper classes ignore those in need? And is everyone in the lower-income bracket using the system or unable to take care of themselves?

What if those three layers are in those income levels because they accept what their society has taught them to expect? What if the slate were wiped clean and economic divisions were eliminated? What if everyone had a home, clothing, food and a comfortable source of income? Would the three economic layers return? Or is that a belief pattern so deeply ingrained via your Old Age training that you assume it to be true?

Why does the United have so many millionaires? Could it be that United States society believes that with hard work it is possible for anyone to become financially successful no matter their background? And so it is.

As wayshowers and scout masters, we are asking you to envision and create a life in which you thrive. Create a new paradigm of financial stability knowing that others can do the same. Give others the strength to change their financial beliefs as you are shifting yours.

You no longer need to give what you have to others to be a good person. Nor do you have to create an organization to help others if you do not feel the need to do so. Selfish is no longer a word that needs to be in your vocabulary. For the word selfish indicates that you and you alone are strong enough to help others.

If everyone were provided with a clean slate, would you not expect some to work in the fields, some to write books, some to be instructors, some to design mechanical implements, some to be artists and on and on? And would not such a society be well-rounded enough to share and spread love? For that is your only responsibility.

If you win ten million dollars, is it your responsibility to give your church that money? Or to create a new company that provides jobs for others? Or to build a new home that allows you to live and love in joy? Contrary to your Old Age beliefs, all and none of the answers are correct.

Your only responsibility is to follow your inner-being, to listen to your heart – not out of guilt or shoulds – but in joy. If that means you buy your dog a diamond encrusted collar. So be it. Or if you start a school to help others understand the New Age. So be it. There are no rules. Everyone has equal creating abilities. You must believe that such is so. And by acting on that belief you will demonstrate to yourself and others that such is so.

Each of you has a specific role in this transition. It is more difficult for you to play that role if you are merely surviving. How can you encourage others to move into their light if they see you suffering emotionally, physically or spiritually? That is not to say you must be perfect. But rather, to be a lightworker you must believe that thriving is your end goal and surviving is an outdated word that no longer applies to you or the New Age.

Teachers lead by example. You are a teacher, a wayshower, a scout master. Accept that role including your ability to thrive in the fashion that springs from your heart. The New Age is here. It is time to thrive. So be it. Amen.

Brenda’s classic, channeled book A Glimpse of Your Future provides an overview of how and why your current economic and political worlds will transition.  A Glimpse of Your Future is available for purchase at www.Amazon.com or http://www.Barnes & Noble.com.

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December 13, 2011 at 4:14 pm 6 comments


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