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The Freedom From Being Wrong is Lonely

Channeled for Life Tapestry by Brenda Hoffman

Dear Ones,

You are not alone. Of course, that is extremely difficult for you to comprehend as you move so slowly, in your time frames, through your issues.

Perhaps you feel as if you have been slugging through the mire for ages. In a sense you have. For indeed prior to this New Age transition, the format has been: create some karma, exit the earth, create a new earth life in which to work out your past karma and then create new karma. A never-ending cycle of work, or if you like, pain.

You have read over and over again how you must clear yourself of karma and that even as you do so, you are again creating new karma no matter how diligently you feel you are living a “good and appropriate” life. Do such thoughts indicate that you are bad, an ongoing sinner? Please place those thoughts in the power needs of the church of yesterday and you will understand the need for such thoughts until the church was ready to evolve.

Let us be more explicit. The church was designed on the mother, father, children model that you most often use to describe a family. Father or God had complete control. Mother or Mary was the tender-hearted mom who helped you even when God or father was angry at you. You have played the role of child for eons – to allow you to move through control and power issues.

You have completed those lessons. Your karma is no more. Never again will you return to earth to solve some dilemma that you set up in the Old Age. Those painful lessons and memories are over. By the same token, you no longer need or want an all-powerful father figure telling you how to live your life or having life and death control over you. You have graduated or more to the point for this discussion, you have left home.

Will you make “mistakes?” Of course, just as is true for any child leaving the nest. But will the ramifications for those mistakes be the same? No, for your perceptions and needs have evolved as  is indicated by your movement into the New Age.

You no longer want to learn your lessons in pain – that is of the Old Age. Therefore, you no longer need to have any group – whether that group be the government, the church or your family – outlining what is right or wrong for you and creating punishments that fit their needs.

Do you see how appropriate heaven and hell would be if the church wanted to control parishioners? Do you see how appropriate laws would be if government had a need to control the people? Do you see how right and wrong would be appropriate for any family setting in which the parents needed to maintain control?

Those controls, those needs are dissolving much more rapidly than even we expected. But the net result of that freedom from being wrong or doing wrong, is a loneliness that is difficult for you to describe.

You have maintained your religious, governmental and societal guidelines for eons. Even though you often did not like those guidelines, they did provide you with a sense of rightness. If you married the right person, you were given accolades. If you offered services to your church, you were given accolades. If you followed the laws, you were given accolades. The Old Age rules set you free at the same time that they were imprisoning you. For those rules were not designed for or by you, but rather by the institution that needed to perpetuate itself.

Now that you are an adult, you will create your own rules. But that brings us to our original thought. Leaving home, becoming an adult can be lonely. That is what you are currently experiencing. In essence, you are buying and furnishing your own home in the city of your choice and you would love to have your parents tell you what is right for them, so you would know what is right for you.

Such is no longer possible. The small piece that remains of the Old Age you is pinning for that direction – at the same time that the New Age you is screaming to be free.

Do you understand that you cannot have close friends telling you what to do, until you know enough about yourself to move forward without their input? This is a complicated concept that we wish for you to process slowly. You are looking for friends and relatives who will tell you that you are moving in the right direction – while at the same time, you do not want anyone telling you what to do. Even if someone were to pop into your life who was willing to create a life plan for you, you would soon toss that plan by the wayside.

The New Age is about freedom. A concept you are just starting to understand and accept. Freedom to cherish yourself. Freedom to make your own decisions. The freedom to be.

Freedom is an extremely difficult arena for you right now, because you have been trained for eons to listen to and follow whatever grouping, including friends, you construed to be of import to you. Never before have you created your own life, with your own policies. That special freedom has always been given to someone or something out there.

There is no longer anyone out there providing the answers you want. That is your loneliness. More to the point, that is your freedom. Friends and family will return. You are one after all. But they will return only after you have discovered your own freedoms and joy.

Are we telling you that you may be lonely for a time? Yes. Not because we or God are punishing you, but because you want to find out who you are without the comfortable restrictions your society has placed on you for eons. Does that mean you should negate the friends you have? Of course not. Merely that they will not feel as close as you would like them to feel until you have found yourself.

Do not fret. You have not been abandoned. You have been set free.

Like parents who have every confidence that their child can handle the world without them, we tell you from the depth of our being – you are fine, you are strong and you are capable. Go find yourself and you will find others that think and act as you do. Negate finding yourself and you will continue the relationships you have at this time.

Do not be frightened. You are fully capable. You are a complete, strong and wonderfully evolving human. Allow that thought to drape you in warmth and then allow yourself to set out on your journey of discovering yourself. What a wonderful time for you. What a wonderful time for the Universe. So be it. Amen.

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August 5, 2010 at 2:26 pm Leave a comment

Don’t Require Yourself to be “On” All Day Everyday

Dear Everyone,

I don’t know if you have had the similar feelings in the last week or so, but I seem to have reverted to Old Age problem solving techniques and I have had very little interest in channeling or connecting to the spiritual  realms. I suppose we will learn today what that was or is all about….but then again, maybe not. I’m learning to “Go “with the flow.” Now let’s see what my sources have to relay to us today.


Dear Ones,

Brenda has tapped an extremely important piece of information in her analysis of what has happened to her and through her in the last few days. Your movement into the New Age is not going to be a straight line. Please do not expect an observable movement from point A to point B. Your transition is not a mathematical equation, it is your life. And as is true for all life on earth, variables are a daily part of your known reality.

Some of you may berate yourself when you do not feel “in the flow,” or even care that there is a flow. Instead of berating yourself during such instances,  realize the worth of your observation.

You are in the process of  a major transition at the mid-point of your current life and yet you expect it to be as easy and clean as pulling out a new sheet of paper. Of course, there will be times when you are tired of the transition process. Of course, there will be times when others will try to encourage you to return to your Old Age activities. And of course, there will be times when you do not feel like doing anything in the spiritual realms.

Do you remember other major transition in your life – perhaps a death or divorce? Did you not allow yourself to experience grieving, anger and just plain apathy? Why do you suppose this transition is any different? You have lived your entire life with one set of expectations – expectations that are no longer valued. Of course, there is a grieving process. But more to the point for Brenda and many of you, sheer exhaustion.

You cannot expect your physical being to be “on” all day, everyday throughout this transition process. You will need rest stops, as did Brenda in these last few days.

Your Old Age behavior patterns are so deeply ingrained that you will often feel most comfortable reverting to Old Age behavior patterns during this transition. Let us explain. You have read many stories about men or women who marry an alcoholic only to divorce that alcoholic and marry another. Most often, a little research will indicate that such a difficult pattern was developed in early childhood as they observed the addictions of one or both of their parents. Even though marriage to an alcoholic is painful to them, it is familiar and therefore comfortable – in an uncomfortable fashion.

Allow yourself to revert to your familiar behavior patterns when it feels right to do so. That is the function of the phrase, “Go with the Flow.”

In the Old Age, you would have “worked” to combat any behaviors that did not fit the pattern you wished to create. The New Age is not about work, but rather a graceful and fun-loving acceptance of who you are, where you are emotionally and yes, physically.  That is your reality. You created that reality for a reason.

Perhaps you need an emotional rest. That is fine. Perhaps you do not wish to explore this New Age any further. That is fine. Maybe you need to circle back to the Old Age to comfort a family member or friend. Or maybe you just feel like it.

There are no rules in the New Age. And there are no correct behavior patterns.

For you to feel as if you should do or be something other than what you want to be at that very moment, is in fact to say that you do not wish to be part of the New Age.

The New Age is about freedom – for you and for everyone else. Just as you allow others to move in the direction that is correct for them, allow yourself the same. And by doing so, you will return to your New Age dreams, visions and actions much more rapidly than if you try to force yourself into the very same movements you have known throughout the Old Age. You are free, as is the person next to you and as is everyone on earth.

Allow that freedom to include moving at a pace and direction that is correct for your inner being, and you will discover and enter the New Age. Force yourself to be part of the New Age and you will remain in the Old Age.

Ah. What a fun thought – flow and you are free, force yourself and you are in a cage. So be it. Amen.

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January 28, 2010 at 6:55 pm Leave a comment

Your Support Base Will Likely Change in the Next Few Months

Dear Ones,

As you evolve with the energy bursts that are occurring with greater and greater frequency, you are afraid that the ones you love will not shift in the same manner as you. This is a valid concern. The New Age is about freedom. Your need to dictate that others process these energy bursts in the same fashion and time frame as you is to state your interest in the New Age, but to live the rules and policies of the Old Age.

Even though freedom is delightful in a philosophical sense, the logic of complete freedom dictates that your support base will likely change in the next few months.  That thought terrifies you. You started this New Age revolution knowing that your outer and inner worlds might change, but you anticipated that those changes would occur in unison with those you cared for. Such is not necessarily reality.

As you shift, so will your attachment interests. Please take a moment in your sadness to understand what is happening to you and others. Do you remember how you intended to remain close to those people you graduated with in high school? On graduation day, did you look over the sea of graduates and think that you may never again see the majority of those people because you would meet new people who would tug at your heartstrings more?

So it is now. You have graduated to the New Age. Some of those in your Old Age class will move in patterns similar to yours, but many will not. Will such different directions negatively affect your being? No more than is true for those you no longer interact with from your high school class. Will you meet new people who will enhance your being? Most definitely. That is the center point of the New Age. You are moving into a new life with new people and new events – as was true when you graduated from high school.

The difference is that you are older, wiser and have stronger creative skills than was true 40 or 50 years ago. When you were 18, many of your connections were haphazard – you liked someone because they smiled at you, they were in the same college class or they rode the same subway. You did not necessarily actively decide who you wished to interact with – other than using the broad parameters of perhaps age, gender, race, religion or similar interests.

Take a moment to describe what type of person you now wish to interact with in an intimate fashion. We are suggesting that your old parameters have less to do with your selection process and that your new parameters are more concise in terms of beliefs, directions and joy. When you were 18, it is unlikely that a 60-year-old would have become a good friend. Yet now does age matter?

This revolution, unlike your first revolution of the 1960s and 1970s, is about inclusion rather than exclusion – it is about freedom rather than roles and behavior expectations.

For those of you who remain terrified that those you love will disappear, please review what it is that you love about them. Is it the role they play or is it their being? Is it their status or the status they provide you or their being? Is it their income or their being?

What about those people who have loved you before you were born, such as your parents or your siblings? Can you live without them?

Of course. You are a complete entity – you do not need anyone to survive or thrive. But it is so much more fun to live – or in our thought processes – play with someone of similar intent, than to play alone. And so you shall.

Stop worrying about being isolated in a sea of people – none of which interest you or meet your emotional interests. You are shifting as is everyone else. That is a given. Another given is that those who have shifted in a similar fashion will find each other easily and effortlessly. Your inner being is your compass of selection. Perhaps someone speaks of interests similar to yours, but just doesn’t feel right to you. And yet another person is enmeshed in a religion or some other structure that you are not that interested in has “vibes” that feel like cotton candy to you. Those cotton candy people are your playmates. And we will tell you that you will surprise yourself over and over again by the people who feel right.

There is one more issue we wish to discuss before we close. You are not going to run away from those you love or did love in the not very distant past. You merely are going to be less interested in spending time with them or discussing topics that speak to your heart. This revolution is peaceful and gentle – as are you. Allow yourself to be all that you want to be and do so by surrounding yourself with playmates who help you glow and grow.

Those who try to return you to a box of “shoulds” and “have tos” will remain in your life for a bit of time – but each day they will hold less interest for you, until there is a time when you will not remember why they were important to you.

Continue to remember your creative powers. And then use those powers in the fashion you planned before birth. Create those friends, relatives and lovers by putting out a “call” much as you would if you were a director of an award-winning play – “I need a lover stage left and a friend stage right.” You are the director of your play and the theme of your New Age play – a play that could be titled “Play,Joy and Laughter.” Go find those people who are perfect for your New Age play, just as the people who are less interesting to you now than was true just a few months ago, were perfect in your Old Age play. So be it. Amen.

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January 7, 2010 at 7:03 pm Leave a comment



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