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Stand Tall

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Summary of Brenda’s September 21, 2018, channeled 15-minute “Creation Energies” show at  Many energies are now pummeling earth, creating fear in those not yet of 5D, and AHAs within you. You wish someone would define your 5D role. Such is not possible for you create your joy steps. Steps that might be forward, sideways or even backward.

“Adding Not Subtracting” is the title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly channeled blog for

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

We urge you to reach for the stars. For indeed, you are the stars. You are both Universal Olympic stars and of the stars.  For the stars were created and inhabited by you more times than you can count.

So it is you feel peaceful and rested when you observe the stars. Not to gloat about your creation skills, but to remember how skilled you were and are.

It is time for you to “hitch your wagon to the stars” in remembrance of all you have achieved and are achieving. For many of you are frustrated and angry about this or that occurrence on earth not remembering that such anger is but a nanosecond in your overall reality.

If you are upset or angry about something, change it. And if you are joyous about anything, magnify it.

For you forgot how magnificent you truly are once you became part of the earth heaviness. Even though the earth is now of 5D, you continue to fight 3D battles that have little to do with you now – displaying your fondness for victimization.

There is no reason for you to feel like a victim. You have created worlds, planets, and stars and yet you allow a few humans to hold you in misery or fear.

Claim yourself! Claim your power to create and move beyond the 3D rules that dictate someone must tell you what to do.

You are bigger and better than 3D rules. Stand tall. You no longer need to hide your true self behind servitude and meekness. You have been playing the role of Clark Kent far too long. It is time for you to claim your Superman and Superwoman status. A status of being in which you can do anything you wish – for who is to stop you?

Many of you clamor that this boss, that parent or friend, or that politician is being mean to you or someone you care about. What are you going to do about that? Are you going to run to your corner crying in anger or fear? Or are you going to put on your big girl and big boy pants and declare your freedom?

You have followed earth messages of weakness, subservience, and victimization for eons. Erase those messages for you are not a servant, nor a prisoner. You are an extremely powerful Universal being who created the very soil you are standing on and yes, the fear element you are now eradicating.

You are a creator not a servant. Do you envision Jesus, Muhammad, Buddha or any you hold in your thought processes as great, victims? Or do you envision them as strong, powerful beings who lived in their society because they wanted to display possibilities?

You en masse are those possibilities. The above forerunners of this transition planted the seeds of love and joy. You are the flowers – strong, capable, flexible, and joyfully bright and colorful. You are the ones turning the gray scape that has been earth for eons into a colorful planet of joy. Much as happens every few years in earth deserts.

The difference is your flowers are not fading, but instead, are blooming and multiplying rapidly.

You are not a victim. No one is stronger or more powerful than you. Stop pretending you cannot do something, or that you must ask permission or wait until this terrible something passes.

You are the power and the glory and the light. So be it. Amen. If you would like to receive Brenda’s Blogs when posted, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her Blog & Subscribe page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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September 24, 2018 at 9:35 am 22 comments

Stop Denying the Power of Others

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Summary of Brenda’s February 5, 2016, channeled, 15-minute “Creation Energies” show at / brenda-hoffman:  Those of you revisiting an issue you thought completed, are now the audience and no longer on stage. Those of you who created your earth dream, please share your earth dream creation with others. And those of you finding a need for quiet time, please honor that need. All of you listening to this channel will fall into one of these three phases for you have climbed your 3D mountain of fear and rolled down your hill to joy.

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Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

Many of you are feeling scattered. You are likely addressing 3D issues you thought you completed – and you are angry that these issues seem to be in your way of future development.

Issues that are so ‘yesterday’ – and you wish to be of today or even tomorrow. Your fear, your angst is that these issues will never allow you to move forward. Before your transition, these issues frightened you. Now they make you angry, “Why me? Why now?”

For the pieces arriving now seem to be as inappropriate for you as would be true if you had graduated from high school, only to learn you must repeat a first-grade reading class before attending college. Most definitely, inappropriate and not conducive to your good humor!

So it is you are learning to look at an old issue with new eyes, new perspectives. How much, if at all, are you willing to sacrifice to readdress an issue you have addressed many times before? And if you are not willing to readdress the issue, how do you clear it completely from your being – never to address again?

That is your piece at the moment. For indeed, that piece, if you will, is the piece that is holding you in a place you never wished to be before and most certainly not now.

So it is we suggest you look at that piece intently to realistically determine if you are able to do anything to shift or change that piece. Most likely, that piece involves other humans or human activities. Do the humans involved wish to change their roles? Do they wish to address their issues from a 5D perspective? If the answer is a resounding, “NO,” which more than likely will be the case, there is nothing you can do for them or that activity. You are in a different place with different perspectives and goals.

Perhaps an easier way of understanding the issue would be the example of your first-grade child having difficulties learning how to count money. You could be frightened along with your child that he or she will never accomplish that skill. Or you could know with every fiber of your being that your child will indeed achieve the goal of money counting before they became much older.

You have an overview of possibilities and certainties you did not have when you first encountered the fear piece you are now readdressing. It will be solved, shifted or negated without your angst or fears. For those issues, even though they might touch your heartstrings are not about you, but instead about the person or persons in question.

You cannot learn lessons for another including taking their pain away. It is something they must do for themselves – just as was true for you. Even though you might reduce their pain in this particular issue by rescuing them in some format – such as telling your child’s teacher that the counting money lesson is too difficult for any child and thereby forcing the removal of that lesson from the curriculum – that lesson will only return for them until they shift it themselves.

There is no longer any rescue possible. For that is a piece of the caretaker/victim stance that you addressed months or even years ago. Trying to remove someone’s pain only returns that pain to them in another format – until they address it themselves.

Many of you experienced the same. Perhaps you were addressing abuse issues. Until you focussed and refused to participate in abusive situations involving you and/or others, the issue popped up in many formats. So it will be for those you stop to rescue. Even if you solve a particular problem for them, their issue of abuse, lack of self-worth, abandonment and on and on continues until they decide to clear it. For it is their issue, not yours. You have more than enough to complete in this lifetime with your issues – and you have done so remarkably well.

You are not helping your children, friends or relatives by trying to clear their issues also. You are merely muddying their clearing phase and perpetuating their need to address the same issue in different venues.

Allow them the strength to find their way – if they wish to do so. You have found yours. It is not your place, nor do you have the energy to be a mother duckling to all humanity or even one other human. You have more than enough to accomplish in this lifetime – and so you are.

But stopping or slowing down to help another find their way when they are not necessarily looking, does not help them, nor does it help you. Doing so is from the 3D perspective that others are more important and valuable than you. Which, of course, is no longer part of your 5D repertoire.

For you know without a doubt where you are going even though you might not have the particulars quite yet. And you are beginning to understand that others are as powerful and capable as you – they merely need to remember that they are. This they cannot do if you are constantly rescuing them to their learning and your forward movement detriment.

It is time for you to let go of your need to rescue or direct others. Such is of 3D. This life is about you rescuing you and glorying in the ability to know that you are able to do so. And that the same is true for any entity who wishes to be part of this wondrous transition. So be it. Amen. If you would like to receive Brenda’s blogs when posted, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her Blog and Subscribe page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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February 8, 2016 at 10:59 am 48 comments

Those Awakening Might Frustrate You

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Summary of Brenda’s March 22, 2014 free, 15-minute, channeled “Creation Energies” show at Many are now awakening. It is not your role to slow your growth so you can carry them in any way. You may be tempted to have them follow your path and pace. Such merely continues 3D victim/care taker roles. Allow yourself to know all are fully capable of transitioning in a time and way that is right for them – just as is true for you.

The title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her free, weekly, channeled blog for “Those Awakening Fear Their Heart Flickers”

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,
Those now awakening will project images and thoughts that are not necessarily what you expect – a bit like watching an infant learn to drink from a sippy cup. You know a cup must be grasped securely and placed to your mouth before drinking. Your infant, with unskilled hands and very little practice, might put the cup to his or her lips, eyes, hair or just throw it on the floor in fun.

Those of you who have reviewed your new earth thoughts and actions for some time will watch in wonder as those newly awakened race around in ‘helter-skelter’ fashion. One day they will be immersed in astrology and the next deny the validity of anything related to astrology. Or extremely excited about THE guru or book that will change all earth beings’ for the better.

Perhaps it is difficult to remember that you started your new earth quest in a similar fashion. Jumping from one thought or guru to another until you realized you had the knowledge within you. Your self-love, self-respect did not happen overnight. For many of you, it has been decades.

Those newly awakening do not need years of study – merely weeks or months.

In the meantime, you may be frustrated or overwhelmed by what they require of you. “Tell me about this.” “Show me that.” “You don’t know what you’re talking about.” “I have the answers.” “My traumas are so much worse than were yours” will be a large part of your interaction with the newly awakened – if you so choose.

Your newly awakened friends and relatives will seem more new earth infant than adult in the next few months. You wish to fly and the basics enthrall them.

Slow your pace to care for them if you want. But the Universes do not require you to do so, nor is it likely your role. You only need do so if doing so feels right for you.

Perhaps  such a seeming lack of concern bothers you for are you not a beacon for those following? You are indeed. But new earth is much different from the Old Age. It is no longer about believing that all or most are less wise than you. That all or most must be taught what to think and do. You are not parents of those newly awakened. Nor are you their caretakers.

Of course, if it feels right to help those just awakening to better understand what new earth is about, do so. But most of you will feel frustrated by their questions and concerns. You are in graduate school and they are just beginning to read.

To assume that your role is to care take them in any way is to revert to what was not what is. All are capable of learning what they wish to learn at the pace they wish to learn. Who held your hand as you moved through the many layers that is the new you? Perhaps a friend or a teacher here or there. But overall, it was an individual journey that you managed to do without books, handholding or a great deal of support.

Your new earth thoughts and actions are becoming part of mainstream – albeit in trickles for now – so those following have more support than was true for you. You were courageous enough to ‘go it alone’ in so many ways. Those following have access to your Internet messages, books and videos – your trail blazing paths.

You will be extremely frustrated if you attempt to maintain a guru status for them. Such a role will not feel right within your new earth being. And for your newly awakened friend, the victim role will not allow them to move beyond the familiar, Old Age victim/caretaker roles. Care taking others as they move through their ‘dark night of the soul’ reduces their capacity to clear and clean what they must to ramp up their new earth being.

Nothing that was is. And nothing that is was – including care taking those souls you feel somewhat superior to now. Do not fret. They will catch up – perhaps even surpass you at some point. As is true for the infant learning to drink from a sippy cup. Eventually that infant becomes your adult child who instructs you about finances and other areas as they increase their knowledge and your earth knowledge becomes static.

And so it is that you need not worry or slow your pace to help those just awakening.

The most appropriate assistance is expanding as it feels right and joyful for you – knowing others will do the same.

New earth is not one group pulling up the other. But instead, one group shining their light so others can follow – if they choose. So be it. Amen. If you would like to receive Brenda’s free blogs when posted, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her subscribe and blog page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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March 25, 2014 at 11:23 am 39 comments

Grab Your Emotional Star Power

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Summary of Brenda’s December 8, 2013 free, 15-minute, channeled “Creation Energies” show at You’re discovering those emotions created by society may be shifting for you. Somewhat like wearing the color red for eons and suddenly discovering that gray looks lovely on you also. You’re melting your box of emotional shoulds and experimenting with new feelings. Feelings society often indicates shouldn’t be in your repertoire.

The title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her free, weekly, channeled blog for “Deep Within, We Want it All”

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

Even though you portray that which you think you should in the role of god/goddess/Lightworker/star being – you do not feel that role within you.

You have tested your resolve. You have created your perfect world in your mind. Yet, you feel you are a follower – despite all messages that you are a leader.

And as you throw off the new earth titles many bestow on you, you feel less and less worthy of anything other than your 3D life.

You know others are interacting with something outside their 3D beings. But they are the “golden” ones – the exception to the rule. The rest of you are somewhere in the middle of a Bell Curve of mediocrity.

How is it possible you are a god or goddess and do not have money to pay the rent?

You merely feel a continuation of your 3D life with a few new earth sparkles of joy here and there. You wait for the latest channel or workshop to get that joy upper only to lose that sensation the minute you arrive at work or your child breaks something special to you.

Joy is fleeting. 3D is your reality.

We beg to differ. You are shifting. One of the greatest indicators of your shift is your disillusionment with new earth.You believe enough to strive for something even though it seems to elude you.

You are all Lightworkers. But you have heard that so many times that it means little to you as you count your pennies at the grocery store.

Please know that your shift into Lightworker knowingness is happening in the next few days.

It will start with a few renegade emotions. An “I’m mad as hell and I’m not going to take it anymore” moment(s) that will present itself in so many ways from, “No,” to “That’s your responsibility,” to “I’m more valuable than that.”

Those thoughts and feelings will squeeze out of your pores in ways you cannot yet conceive of.

We said that you would feel different emotions this holiday season – as if you are outside looking in. The next few days will produce another emotional element that will move you beyond feelings of new earth inadequacies.

Like the first day of a job when you are certain you cannot perform your assigned task and never will – only to realize a few months later that you are completely at ease with tasks that had you in a tailspin your first day.

You have had months and years of your first day new earth emotions. The emotions you explore the next few days are about knowing what you are capable of.

Perhaps you take care of someone emotionally to the extent that you ignore your needs – whether 3D or new earth. You might wake up and say, “You’re capable of taking care of yourself.”

Or you might allow yourself to know your capabilities in both your 3D world and new earth.

For you must feel confident in your 3D world before you discover your true new earth being.

If you feel ‘less than’ in your 3D world, even though you explore other dimensions, you will maintain that inadequacy in your new earth life. Much as someone abused at six years of age needs to review those feelings so powerlessness does not dominate his 3D world.

Feelings of inadequacy – in whatever dimension – reduce your new earth power.

Perhaps you are throwing up your hands in disgust for most Lightworkers have experienced 3D lives – especially this lifetime – that are horrendous in the remembrance. Things you almost do not dare tell others for who would believe you experienced that and now hope for new earth joy.

Please do not panic. You have cleared almost all those memories. It is just that in the next few days you will display related emotions you did not realize were deep within you.

Such is part of this year’s holiday shift – removing the shoulds of society AND knowing the reality of your being.

Your memories of being less than have prevented you from knowing your true being. A bit like Marilyn Monroe, the Hollywood movie star, who never accepted her stardom because of her unresolved childhood pain.

The energies of the next few days give you the freedom to dissolve all that keeps you in 3D even though you have moved beyond 3D in terms of your Lightworker role.

Allow those energies to do their work. Allow unusual or frightening night dreams. Allow yourself to explore relationships knowing that everyone is powerful enough to move in directions correct for them – most specifically, you. Cut the ties of those dependent on you.

Move forward as a bright star, instead of the heavy dust you have tried to be.

The next few days, you will feel emotions you did not know were part of you. And you will relay those feelings to others as you clear your emotional slate. Care taking and victimization will be the first to go.

Allow yourself to be in the next few days and you will sparkle as does a star.

Now you are worried you will offend or lose someone dear to you. If that someone or something is part of your feeling less than a shining star, it is time to let go – emotionally, even physically if that is appropriate.

Does that mean you will leave your job, spouse or community?  Perhaps. But this is an emotional shift, so it is more likely you will speak your truth – and if those you address do not wish to honor that truth, your relationship will change.

You will begin acting like a star even in your 3D world. For you will know deep within you that you have finally kissed the Prince, you, and your new role is beckoning – that of a new earth star. So be it. Amen. If you would like to receive Brenda’s free blogs when posted, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her subscribe and blog page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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December 10, 2013 at 3:16 pm 59 comments

You’re Don’t Need to Return to Battle Trenches

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Summary of Brenda’s April 26, 2013 free, 15-minute, channeled “Creation Energies” show at Perhaps new Lightworkers are requesting information from you. If you provide such despite feeling it burdensome to do so, you return to Old Age care taking or victim roles. You’re a trailblazer who most likely wishes to explore new dimensions and processes.

The title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her free, weekly, channeled blog for “First Salvos of the New Astrology”

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled materials.


Dear Ones,
Perhaps you started your New Age/new earth journey filled with blissful innocence. You expected your transition to be completed with ease in a few days or months.

Instead, it is a process consuming more time and energy than you thought possible when you first decided to transition from fear to love. “How difficult can it be?” Indeed.

You are now bemoaning your advancement or lack thereof. At this stage of completion, neither seems exciting.

An apt analogy is that you are a World War I soldier in the trenches of France and your unit has claimed a few feet of mud – at the cost of friends and your peace of mind. Fighting for your country seemed exciting before you arrived. Now you cannot wait until the war is over. The ups and downs, the physical discomfort, and the lack of anything you wish to talk about merely test your soul. You no longer care who wins as long as you can go home.

Such is not true for all of you in the transition ‘trenches,’ but it is true for enough to provide this overview – and a bit of hope.  Know that millions have joined you in your movement to joy.

Many of you can now only see a short distance in front of you. You have no idea how many, if any, are behind you.

As of last week, the numbers transitioning into the New Age/new earth expanded by millions. You are no longer alone or one of the few. Will you sense these new ‘troops’ immediately? No – you are so battle weary that you merely put one foot in front of the other.
Perhaps our thoughts are too dramatic for your current reality.

What we are speaking of is similar to a commander receiving new, untested troops for a military drive and deciding to use battle weary troops instead. It is possible – but why?

Why would a commander force exhausted, but trained troops to continue when there are millions waiting impatiently for their turn to glorify themselves and their country? The battle weary troops know there is little glorification in the process – merely one step in front of the other until the end/ light is visible.

You are the battle weary troops. You have fought, yes fought to find your place in this wondrous New Age transition. Even though you had no idea where you would end up other than a vague promise of joy, you gathered your courage and continued to move forward despite questions, concerns and yes, fears. You felt isolated, sometimes odd and yet slugged through many physical or emotional traumas.

All of this sounds quite depressing, does it not? But that has been your reality for some time. You moved forward with the promise of joy and an inner sense that you must.

This, in your earth historical perspective, is not much different from enlisting in the military believing that your country is worth the effort and the pain.

Perhaps you are horrified that we use a military analogy to describe your New Age/new earth transition. You have joined this transition movement to find peace and love. Is that thought any different that than that of soldiers who fought for the same when earth was in 3D realms? You have ‘fought’ many similar battles in the past, merely in the physical realms.

It is time for you to give up your military analogies. This transition is no longer a group activity. It is a solitary movement into what feels best for you. You are not needed to train new troops or to fight their battles. Your only role is to continue to move into joy and love.

We have made dramatic statements because many are now joining the Lightworker ‘bandwagon’. And they fully expect you to care for them during their traumas, fears and yes, battles. For you are the ‘good guys’ who will take their hand and lead them through the worst – at your exhausted expense.

You do not have the energy to care take. Nor do you have the need to be a victim. Stopping your nearly complete transition to help those along the way sounds noble, but you do not have the energy to do so. Nor do those who follow need someone to rescue them from themselves. For that is what you would be doing. They need to discover their own beings. That is not your role. Of equal importance, you do not have the energy to train or care take anyone now.

You advance Lightworkers are exhausted. You need to experience joy – not the pains of others as they evolve through their deepest fears.

Some of you may wish to train or teach newly minted Lightworkers. If it feels joyful to do so, by all means do it.

The majority of you have other pieces you wish to explore. You have no need to further explore your own pain, fear, anger – or that of someone you love. You are tired. And rightly so. You have moved through your fears and you need a rest before you decide to move to your next realm of exploration. Such does not include moving to the back of the line as friends and loved ones beg for your assistance so they do not have experience all that you did.

They will not move into the New Age/new earth until they explore their fears, but you know that. They fully expect you to give them the shortcut – to care take them.

Your role as an advance Lightworker is to move ever forward – perhaps leaving a trail of wisdom and energy in your wake, but certainly not to return to the front to fight the new Lightworkers’ battles for them.

Your trail of wisdom and light might include written materials or just allowing others to be in fear as they move through their ‘dark night of the soul’. You cannot do it for anyone – anymore than you can learn to read for someone.

It is time for you to move into joy without concern that your brother, mother, friend or lover will not make it through their transition. That is their concern – not yours.

We will close for now with words of love and healing for you Lightworkers who have fought the brave fight. Allow yourself to rest knowing that those who follow have a great deal more information – and yes, many more role models than you did. Rest a bit before your next big adventure knowing that you do not need to return to the trenches ever. So be it. Amen. If you would like to receive Brenda’s free blogs when posted, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her subscribe and blog page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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April 28, 2013 at 4:43 pm 69 comments

Communications are Now Internal Contracts With Others

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Overview of 8/8/11 channeled, 15-minute “Creation Energies” show: We are shifting internally this week to help with the unveiling of our 12-strand DNA. Those who choose not to transition in this lifetime will notice a glow about us. Those transitioning will not necessarily see the glow, but will sense it.

Special Event: Saturday August 20, 2011 at 3 pm to 4 pm Eastern time; noon to 1 pm Pacific time, Brenda and Dee Wallace (actress in 125 movies including the role of mother in the movie, “ET”) will be the guests of radio show host Carl Helvie, Ph.D., on “The Holistic Health Show”. Please join us.


Dear Ones,

Communication sharing is the piece you are opening this week. Will you be able to communicate with others without words? Yes and no. Even though you will continue to rely on your words for the present, you now have a method of communications that is more reliable than has been true in the past.

All interactions are an exchange – whether physical, emotional or spiritual.

In the past, fear blocked most of your need for an equal or any type of exchange. Perhaps you have attended functions in which you initiated conversations that ended as soon as you stopped asking questions or as soon as your companion felt the need to find the buffet.

Such interactions will take on more meaning. You will no longer be that interested in interacting with others who do not wish to complete an internal contract with you. If you no longer have the need to be a victim or a caretaker, why would you feel the need to spend time with another human who does not feel the need to give you anything in return?

Perhaps you are confused for your society has encouraged such interactions by creating terms such as “small talk”, “little white lies” and “chit chat”. If such conversations feel complete, a sharing has occurred. But if you are bored – one of the best words to describe an non-interaction – you will know your communication partner is not internally involved.

If you were speaking to someone who was not engaged, you most likely felt that there was something wrong with your conversation (victim), instead of that your inner-being was informing you that your partner was not engaged.

Perhaps your conversation partner said all the correct words, but their words did not match their body expressions or you did not know how to “bounce off” them in conversation. You said something and they did not respond. Or you said  something and their response was flat leaving you with nothing to attach to. Communication is more than words.

After this week, many of you will begin to notice that you no longer feel the need to communicate with those who do not share their heart/being with you. Are those who do not share your interests bad? Not at all. Merely that communicating because you should, not because it feels right is no longer something you will necessarily care to do.

Societal niceties are falling by the wayside as you move into your true being. Why would you wish to spend time talking with someone because you feel you should, even though they are not reciprocating with feelings or are draining your emotional/physical/spiritual being?

Perhaps they wish to remain in the third dimension. Or perhaps they are pre-occupied with an issue that has nothing to do with you. It does not matter. You will no longer wish to “carry them” just because you should.

Does that mean you will interact with fewer people? No. Merely that you will demand internally to communicate with those who wish to share feelings – to truly communicate with you. Even if that communication is a smile and a nod, you will feel an inner interaction. Small talk for the sake of small talk is no longer part of you easy repertoire. You will demand substance and therefore, will receive it.

Substance is sharing. Chit chat with no meaning is no longer worth your effort no matter how well you have perfected the art. Let us describe what will happen after this week. Your communication partner may say, “I am so happy.” You will sense through your inner-being that their statement is false. It is then your responsibility to either respond with, “Are you happy?”-  or to exit the conversation. For those who wish to remain in the third dimension will not appreciate you sensing their being. Another example is that someone continues to pursue a relationship with you via conversations that leave you drained. That is not a sharing or loving conversation – it is a caretaker interaction.

You might respond that you must continue to interact with certain people because you work for or with them or they are relatives. Continuing to interact with those people despite your feelings of discomfort is as much a victim stance as any other you can envision.

Allow yourself to be in all of your inner honesty. Protect your being from those who wish to continue in the victim/caretaker roles they are so comfortable with. All you have to do is to question the validity of their statement, end the conversation or exit situations that force you to be someone you are not.

Many of you are feeling pressured by this information. You thought this shift would be mean moving into a joyous new life with few, if any, changes. That is not a shift, it is merely a look at the new earth/New Age and jumping back to your old life of fear.

For those of you who have already established a community of joy and love – whether or not that community verbalizes new earth concepts – this transition into open communication will not be that noticeable. But those of you who have continued to hope that your life will not change as you move into the New Age, may be surprised at how difficult your communications will be after this week.

Allow yourself to be and you will move into the joy you have long hoped for. Allow yourself to remain in the Old Age, in whatever format that takes,  and you will remain in the Old Age despite your hopes to the contrary. So be it. Amen.        If you would like to receive my free blogs as they are posted, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of my subscription page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

August 9, 2011 at 12:25 pm 4 comments

Care Taking Remains Deeply Embedded in Your Belief System

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for Life Tapestry

5/9/11 “Creation Energies” 15-minute radio show highlights: Yesterday, the Universes provided a buffer that will greatly enhance our ability to move into and expect joy and love. The complete channel is available at or

Dear Ones,

Care taking others is so deeply embedded in your belief system that you continue to have difficulties understanding your true role in this New Age/new earth transition.

You have been taught for eons to give is proper, but to receive is selfish or somehow wrong. Granted, you allow yourself to receive token birthday and holiday gifts, but you continue to feel it is your duty to protect others while denying yourself.

That perception needs to shift during this transition period. If you continue to put others before yourself, you will not hear that soft inner voice that directs you to your role. For indeed, is it not true that when you move to a place that is comfortable for you, someone asks you to move over so they receive the same benefits or more?

Taking care of others means denying your self-worth. Both parties are victims. You are a victim for moving away from your dream to help others fulfill theirs. And they are a victim in that they do not believe they can create for themselves. You are not teaching them to fish – you are giving them the fish.

Many parents understand this principle – it is more difficult to encourage your child pick up their blocks than to pick up those blocks for them. Just as it is easier to smooth out any wrinkles in the life of another than to teach them how to care for themselves.

This New Age does not reward victims or care takers. Everyone will know they are strong enough to create what they want when they want it.

We have used that last line over and over in our blogs and books. It remains a difficult concept for you to accept. Once you accept the concept, you will know without a doubt there is no longer a need to take care of others. And you will also understand how care taking forces you into the victim role.

Are we indicating that you should not give to others? No. What we are saying is that it is time that you consider yourself an equal in the equation. Does it feel warm and loving to help others, does it radiate from within you? Or is it merely something you think you should do?

Doing what you think you should do will give you less and less pleasure during this transition, until there is a point that you become angry with yourself and with the person who feels incapable of directing their life without your help.

In the Old Age, victims and care takers were wonderful and demanding roles that allowed many to create outer-directed power bases.

In this New Age, both roles are not only unnecessary, they are physically harmful. For the anger and rage you develop over time as you again and again help someone who refuses to learn how to take care of themselves will be internalized by you because you will know that you are allowing them to use you.

Let us explain. In the past, care taking and victim hood were honored roles. People bragged about what wonderful friends and neighbors they were as they put off their lives to care for someone else. A role that was eventually re-labeled “enabling” in your self-help dialogues. Both roles will be further degraded until no will wish to admit they are participating. “My life was on hold to put him through college.” “I gave up my dream because she needed me.” “I work 70 hours just about every week because my boss needs my specific skills and doesn’t have the money to hire another person.”

Why would anyone need to put their life on hold if everyone has the power and skill to direct their life? That is a difficult concept to absorb is it not? Do you see how deeply entrenched those care taker/victim modes are?

Yesterday, in our radio show we discussed how a buffer has been provided that will more easily allow you to move into joy and out of fear. Care taking and victim hood are not part of joy – both are offshoots of fear.

Ask yourself why you wish to take care of someone. Is it because your heart sings when you do so? Then it is right for you.

Or is it because you feel you should? If it is the latter, you are moving both yourself and the person you are care taking off the path of joy. For the person you are care taking must reciprocate with feelings of gratitude, even if their heart tells them that they wish to do this piece on their own. Who among you has the courage to tell a loving care taker to take a “flying leap?” And so it has been for ages.

The net result is that even if you feel strong enough to do it on your own, pushing the caretaker aside seems cruel. So the two of you continue a dance that neither wants to be part of. And if one partner wishes to continue in that dance and the other does not, it merely means that one has moved into the New Age and other wishes to live in the Old Age.

What are you to do if your child, parent or friend begs for help and you do not feel as if it is something you wish to do? Yes, what are you to do? Do you follow your heart or follow the dictates of society? Do you do what you need to do to move into the New Age or do you stay stuck in the Old Age because of guilt and fear?

Do you see how enmeshed you are in some of  the Old Age belief patterns? It is time – actually far beyond time – for you to stop believing you can make anyone stronger, better or healthier than they can themselves. They have access to the same tool kit that you do and always have. You are not stronger or better – just different, with a different role to play.

Your society has used both care taker and victim roles to control the masses. If someone “out there” can make whatever is bothering you all better, why would you spend time trying to work out your issues, pain or fears?

Let us return to an example with which all parents are familiar. Is it not easier to pick up your child’s blocks than to encourage them to pick up their blocks? Some parents do not have the strength to wait as the child picks up one toy, looks at it, whines and then asks why they must pick up their other toys – over and over again. Are not those parents the ongoing care takers of their adult children?

Teach them to fish and they will swim on their own. Teach them to depend on you or anyone else and they will never leave their small pool of comfort. So be it. Amen.

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May 10, 2011 at 4:20 pm 10 comments

Are You Wary of Full Moons or Mercury Retrogrades?

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for Life Tapestry

Dear Ones,

Today, as has been true for many days these past few months, is remarkable in terms of your future life on earth for a number of reasons – one of which is the full moon in Virgo with a Pisces moon.

Perhaps this day does not appear that unusual for many of you – that is, until you review your feelings and thoughts. Is it not true that those who follow astrological happenings most often anticipate at least one negative occurrence during a full moon, and many negative occurrences during eclipses and other more eventful astrological happenings such as a Grand Cross?

Are your astrological notations not most often based on negative results? Granted, the words to describe those events may not be based in pain, but the expectations most often are. Do you not anticipate upheaval and odd behaviors during a full moon? Are you not wary whenever an eclipse occurs, even though you may ponder the possibilities with a shiver of excitement – like the excitement you reserve for a plane crash or natural disaster? Eclipses, full moons, equinoxes feed into your stream of delight based on “how awful it will be.”

Perhaps you deny your thrill at the possibility of disaster – your need for excitement based in pain. We beg to differ. How many of you can ignore a disaster in the making? Are your eyes and ears not glued to your television or computer screen wondering how bad it can be? And do you not delight in a media star’s comeuppance? You may deny your culpability in disasters – but by delighting in such agendas, you are inviting them into and onto the earth.

Now are we chiding you for such behavior? No. We are merely pointing out that until you refuse to be part of the problem, you are the problem. We are addressing the law of attraction in this channel.

You attract what you give your attention to. If that happens to be an oil spill, an earthquake, a hurricane or a mass murder, that is what you, as a society, will produce. Perhaps you feel that your news channels are responsible for promoting such dramatic and negative events…and so they are. But they do so because that is what you give your attention to. You create your world…including what your news channels discuss, what your television programs promote and what your media stars produce. You do indeed create your own reality on every level of life on earth as you know it.

Of course, you alone are not responsible for the news. Many of your negative assumptions have been created and maintained by your society for a variety of reasons – most notably in the last few centuries, all of the aspects of the Old Age that allowed you to play both the victim and the controller or bully.

Even though the Old Age no longer exists, you continue to promote many aspects of that Age with your thoughts and expectations – not the least of which is that astrological events, such as a full moon, are something to be wary of. Old Age thinking. Old Age reactions. Old Age beliefs.

How is it possible for you to shift your thinking and beliefs when you are inundated by negative, Old Age beliefs via the media and even some of your New Age teachers? For those of you gasping in disbelief, review the words of those people who are predicting gloom and doom in 2012 or are warning you about this or that event with words something like, “I hope this full moon is not too terrible for you.”

Those of you who have crossed over to the New Age, will find this full moon glorious. Let us explain. Many of you woke up this morning assuming that something uncomfortable would happen to you because it is a full moon day, only to discover that this day is not that unusual or uncomfortable. Instead, as Brenda has found even though her sun is in Pisces and her moon in Virgo, today is quite joyful and fun.

If the New Age is about joy, would it not follow that major astrological occurrences would emphasize that feature, just as pain and victimhood were emphasized in the Old Age?

Are you not tired of trauma, hate and rage that seems to be a daily function of your legislative representatives? Each and every day, are you not feeling more and more the need for harmony and consensus? Are you not finding corporate politics petty and boring? Are you not finding the need to beg for a life of peace and joy abhorrent rather than expected. Are you not finding that you are no longer willing to “turn the other cheek,” and that you no longer wish to be in a position to have to do so? A bit like watching two-year-olds fighting over a ball. As an adult, you watch their actions and think how silly. As a person of the New Age, more and more you are feeling something similar about those contemporaries who insist on fighting over a ball or a concept.

How will all of this shift your current information stream? The media will discover that those programs that promote positive rather than negative thoughts will be more successful – just as is true currently for the Oprah show vs other talk shows that promote fear and anger.

As for your astrological materials, many are being rewritten by those who feel the need to address positive issues, rather than the fear and pain that most Old Age astrological materials favored.

The New Age is about joy. Perhaps you cannot yet see that in your private life. Maybe you have lost your job or your loved one has died. But we will tell you, if you have not done so already, you will soon wish to jump on the joy bandwagon – as many have. A bandwagon delivering you to joy and laughter.

The life you have long pined for is here for your taking. So be it. Amen.

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