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Stop Denying the Power of Others
Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com
Summary of Brenda’s February 5, 2016, channeled, 15-minute “Creation Energies” show at http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com / brenda-hoffman: Those of you revisiting an issue you thought completed, are now the audience and no longer on stage. Those of you who created your earth dream, please share your earth dream creation with others. And those of you finding a need for quiet time, please honor that need. All of you listening to this channel will fall into one of these three phases for you have climbed your 3D mountain of fear and rolled down your hill to joy.
“You’ve Added a New Sense to Your Repertoire” is the title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly, channeled blog for www.LifeTapestryCreations.com.
Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.
Dear Ones,
Many of you are feeling scattered. You are likely addressing 3D issues you thought you completed – and you are angry that these issues seem to be in your way of future development.
Issues that are so ‘yesterday’ – and you wish to be of today or even tomorrow. Your fear, your angst is that these issues will never allow you to move forward. Before your transition, these issues frightened you. Now they make you angry, “Why me? Why now?”
For the pieces arriving now seem to be as inappropriate for you as would be true if you had graduated from high school, only to learn you must repeat a first-grade reading class before attending college. Most definitely, inappropriate and not conducive to your good humor!
So it is you are learning to look at an old issue with new eyes, new perspectives. How much, if at all, are you willing to sacrifice to readdress an issue you have addressed many times before? And if you are not willing to readdress the issue, how do you clear it completely from your being – never to address again?
That is your piece at the moment. For indeed, that piece, if you will, is the piece that is holding you in a place you never wished to be before and most certainly not now.
So it is we suggest you look at that piece intently to realistically determine if you are able to do anything to shift or change that piece. Most likely, that piece involves other humans or human activities. Do the humans involved wish to change their roles? Do they wish to address their issues from a 5D perspective? If the answer is a resounding, “NO,” which more than likely will be the case, there is nothing you can do for them or that activity. You are in a different place with different perspectives and goals.
Perhaps an easier way of understanding the issue would be the example of your first-grade child having difficulties learning how to count money. You could be frightened along with your child that he or she will never accomplish that skill. Or you could know with every fiber of your being that your child will indeed achieve the goal of money counting before they became much older.
You have an overview of possibilities and certainties you did not have when you first encountered the fear piece you are now readdressing. It will be solved, shifted or negated without your angst or fears. For those issues, even though they might touch your heartstrings are not about you, but instead about the person or persons in question.
You cannot learn lessons for another including taking their pain away. It is something they must do for themselves – just as was true for you. Even though you might reduce their pain in this particular issue by rescuing them in some format – such as telling your child’s teacher that the counting money lesson is too difficult for any child and thereby forcing the removal of that lesson from the curriculum – that lesson will only return for them until they shift it themselves.
There is no longer any rescue possible. For that is a piece of the caretaker/victim stance that you addressed months or even years ago. Trying to remove someone’s pain only returns that pain to them in another format – until they address it themselves.
Many of you experienced the same. Perhaps you were addressing abuse issues. Until you focussed and refused to participate in abusive situations involving you and/or others, the issue popped up in many formats. So it will be for those you stop to rescue. Even if you solve a particular problem for them, their issue of abuse, lack of self-worth, abandonment and on and on continues until they decide to clear it. For it is their issue, not yours. You have more than enough to complete in this lifetime with your issues – and you have done so remarkably well.
You are not helping your children, friends or relatives by trying to clear their issues also. You are merely muddying their clearing phase and perpetuating their need to address the same issue in different venues.
Allow them the strength to find their way – if they wish to do so. You have found yours. It is not your place, nor do you have the energy to be a mother duckling to all humanity or even one other human. You have more than enough to accomplish in this lifetime – and so you are.
But stopping or slowing down to help another find their way when they are not necessarily looking, does not help them, nor does it help you. Doing so is from the 3D perspective that others are more important and valuable than you. Which, of course, is no longer part of your 5D repertoire.
For you know without a doubt where you are going even though you might not have the particulars quite yet. And you are beginning to understand that others are as powerful and capable as you – they merely need to remember that they are. This they cannot do if you are constantly rescuing them to their learning and your forward movement detriment.
It is time for you to let go of your need to rescue or direct others. Such is of 3D. This life is about you rescuing you and glorying in the ability to know that you are able to do so. And that the same is true for any entity who wishes to be part of this wondrous transition. So be it. Amen.
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Communications are Now Internal Contracts With Others
Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com
Overview of 8/8/11 channeled, 15-minute http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com “Creation Energies” show: We are shifting internally this week to help with the unveiling of our 12-strand DNA. Those who choose not to transition in this lifetime will notice a glow about us. Those transitioning will not necessarily see the glow, but will sense it.
Special Event: Saturday August 20, 2011 at 3 pm to 4 pm Eastern time; noon to 1 pm Pacific time, Brenda and Dee Wallace (actress in 125 movies including the role of mother in the movie, “ET”) will be the guests of radio show host Carl Helvie, Ph.D., on BBSRadio.com “The Holistic Health Show”. Please join us.
Dear Ones,
Communication sharing is the piece you are opening this week. Will you be able to communicate with others without words? Yes and no. Even though you will continue to rely on your words for the present, you now have a method of communications that is more reliable than has been true in the past.
All interactions are an exchange – whether physical, emotional or spiritual.
In the past, fear blocked most of your need for an equal or any type of exchange. Perhaps you have attended functions in which you initiated conversations that ended as soon as you stopped asking questions or as soon as your companion felt the need to find the buffet.
Such interactions will take on more meaning. You will no longer be that interested in interacting with others who do not wish to complete an internal contract with you. If you no longer have the need to be a victim or a caretaker, why would you feel the need to spend time with another human who does not feel the need to give you anything in return?
Perhaps you are confused for your society has encouraged such interactions by creating terms such as “small talk”, “little white lies” and “chit chat”. If such conversations feel complete, a sharing has occurred. But if you are bored – one of the best words to describe an non-interaction – you will know your communication partner is not internally involved.
If you were speaking to someone who was not engaged, you most likely felt that there was something wrong with your conversation (victim), instead of that your inner-being was informing you that your partner was not engaged.
Perhaps your conversation partner said all the correct words, but their words did not match their body expressions or you did not know how to “bounce off” them in conversation. You said something and they did not respond. Or you said something and their response was flat leaving you with nothing to attach to. Communication is more than words.
After this week, many of you will begin to notice that you no longer feel the need to communicate with those who do not share their heart/being with you. Are those who do not share your interests bad? Not at all. Merely that communicating because you should, not because it feels right is no longer something you will necessarily care to do.
Societal niceties are falling by the wayside as you move into your true being. Why would you wish to spend time talking with someone because you feel you should, even though they are not reciprocating with feelings or are draining your emotional/physical/spiritual being?
Perhaps they wish to remain in the third dimension. Or perhaps they are pre-occupied with an issue that has nothing to do with you. It does not matter. You will no longer wish to “carry them” just because you should.
Does that mean you will interact with fewer people? No. Merely that you will demand internally to communicate with those who wish to share feelings – to truly communicate with you. Even if that communication is a smile and a nod, you will feel an inner interaction. Small talk for the sake of small talk is no longer part of you easy repertoire. You will demand substance and therefore, will receive it.
Substance is sharing. Chit chat with no meaning is no longer worth your effort no matter how well you have perfected the art. Let us describe what will happen after this week. Your communication partner may say, “I am so happy.” You will sense through your inner-being that their statement is false. It is then your responsibility to either respond with, “Are you happy?”- or to exit the conversation. For those who wish to remain in the third dimension will not appreciate you sensing their being. Another example is that someone continues to pursue a relationship with you via conversations that leave you drained. That is not a sharing or loving conversation – it is a caretaker interaction.
You might respond that you must continue to interact with certain people because you work for or with them or they are relatives. Continuing to interact with those people despite your feelings of discomfort is as much a victim stance as any other you can envision.
Allow yourself to be in all of your inner honesty. Protect your being from those who wish to continue in the victim/caretaker roles they are so comfortable with. All you have to do is to question the validity of their statement, end the conversation or exit situations that force you to be someone you are not.
Many of you are feeling pressured by this information. You thought this shift would be mean moving into a joyous new life with few, if any, changes. That is not a shift, it is merely a look at the new earth/New Age and jumping back to your old life of fear.
For those of you who have already established a community of joy and love – whether or not that community verbalizes new earth concepts – this transition into open communication will not be that noticeable. But those of you who have continued to hope that your life will not change as you move into the New Age, may be surprised at how difficult your communications will be after this week.
Allow yourself to be and you will move into the joy you have long hoped for. Allow yourself to remain in the Old Age, in whatever format that takes, and you will remain in the Old Age despite your hopes to the contrary. So be it. Amen.
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Care Taking Remains Deeply Embedded in Your Belief System
Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for Life Tapestry Creations.com
5/9/11 “Creation Energies” 15-minute radio show highlights: Yesterday, the Universes provided a buffer that will greatly enhance our ability to move into and expect joy and love. The complete channel is available at http://www.lifetapestrycreations.com or blogtalkradio.com.
Dear Ones,
Care taking others is so deeply embedded in your belief system that you continue to have difficulties understanding your true role in this New Age/new earth transition.
You have been taught for eons to give is proper, but to receive is selfish or somehow wrong. Granted, you allow yourself to receive token birthday and holiday gifts, but you continue to feel it is your duty to protect others while denying yourself.
That perception needs to shift during this transition period. If you continue to put others before yourself, you will not hear that soft inner voice that directs you to your role. For indeed, is it not true that when you move to a place that is comfortable for you, someone asks you to move over so they receive the same benefits or more?
Taking care of others means denying your self-worth. Both parties are victims. You are a victim for moving away from your dream to help others fulfill theirs. And they are a victim in that they do not believe they can create for themselves. You are not teaching them to fish – you are giving them the fish.
Many parents understand this principle – it is more difficult to encourage your child pick up their blocks than to pick up those blocks for them. Just as it is easier to smooth out any wrinkles in the life of another than to teach them how to care for themselves.
This New Age does not reward victims or care takers. Everyone will know they are strong enough to create what they want when they want it.
We have used that last line over and over in our blogs and books. It remains a difficult concept for you to accept. Once you accept the concept, you will know without a doubt there is no longer a need to take care of others. And you will also understand how care taking forces you into the victim role.
Are we indicating that you should not give to others? No. What we are saying is that it is time that you consider yourself an equal in the equation. Does it feel warm and loving to help others, does it radiate from within you? Or is it merely something you think you should do?
Doing what you think you should do will give you less and less pleasure during this transition, until there is a point that you become angry with yourself and with the person who feels incapable of directing their life without your help.
In the Old Age, victims and care takers were wonderful and demanding roles that allowed many to create outer-directed power bases.
In this New Age, both roles are not only unnecessary, they are physically harmful. For the anger and rage you develop over time as you again and again help someone who refuses to learn how to take care of themselves will be internalized by you because you will know that you are allowing them to use you.
Let us explain. In the past, care taking and victim hood were honored roles. People bragged about what wonderful friends and neighbors they were as they put off their lives to care for someone else. A role that was eventually re-labeled “enabling” in your self-help dialogues. Both roles will be further degraded until no will wish to admit they are participating. “My life was on hold to put him through college.” “I gave up my dream because she needed me.” “I work 70 hours just about every week because my boss needs my specific skills and doesn’t have the money to hire another person.”
Why would anyone need to put their life on hold if everyone has the power and skill to direct their life? That is a difficult concept to absorb is it not? Do you see how deeply entrenched those care taker/victim modes are?
Yesterday, in our radio show we discussed how a buffer has been provided that will more easily allow you to move into joy and out of fear. Care taking and victim hood are not part of joy – both are offshoots of fear.
Ask yourself why you wish to take care of someone. Is it because your heart sings when you do so? Then it is right for you.
Or is it because you feel you should? If it is the latter, you are moving both yourself and the person you are care taking off the path of joy. For the person you are care taking must reciprocate with feelings of gratitude, even if their heart tells them that they wish to do this piece on their own. Who among you has the courage to tell a loving care taker to take a “flying leap?” And so it has been for ages.
The net result is that even if you feel strong enough to do it on your own, pushing the caretaker aside seems cruel. So the two of you continue a dance that neither wants to be part of. And if one partner wishes to continue in that dance and the other does not, it merely means that one has moved into the New Age and other wishes to live in the Old Age.
What are you to do if your child, parent or friend begs for help and you do not feel as if it is something you wish to do? Yes, what are you to do? Do you follow your heart or follow the dictates of society? Do you do what you need to do to move into the New Age or do you stay stuck in the Old Age because of guilt and fear?
Do you see how enmeshed you are in some of the Old Age belief patterns? It is time – actually far beyond time – for you to stop believing you can make anyone stronger, better or healthier than they can themselves. They have access to the same tool kit that you do and always have. You are not stronger or better – just different, with a different role to play.
Your society has used both care taker and victim roles to control the masses. If someone “out there” can make whatever is bothering you all better, why would you spend time trying to work out your issues, pain or fears?
Let us return to an example with which all parents are familiar. Is it not easier to pick up your child’s blocks than to encourage them to pick up their blocks? Some parents do not have the strength to wait as the child picks up one toy, looks at it, whines and then asks why they must pick up their other toys – over and over again. Are not those parents the ongoing care takers of their adult children?
Teach them to fish and they will swim on their own. Teach them to depend on you or anyone else and they will never leave their small pool of comfort. So be it. Amen.
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Are You Wary of Full Moons or Mercury Retrogrades?
Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for Life Tapestry Creations.com
Dear Ones,
Today, as has been true for many days these past few months, is remarkable in terms of your future life on earth for a number of reasons – one of which is the full moon in Virgo with a Pisces moon.
Perhaps this day does not appear that unusual for many of you – that is, until you review your feelings and thoughts. Is it not true that those who follow astrological happenings most often anticipate at least one negative occurrence during a full moon, and many negative occurrences during eclipses and other more eventful astrological happenings such as a Grand Cross?
Are your astrological notations not most often based on negative results? Granted, the words to describe those events may not be based in pain, but the expectations most often are. Do you not anticipate upheaval and odd behaviors during a full moon? Are you not wary whenever an eclipse occurs, even though you may ponder the possibilities with a shiver of excitement – like the excitement you reserve for a plane crash or natural disaster? Eclipses, full moons, equinoxes feed into your stream of delight based on “how awful it will be.”
Perhaps you deny your thrill at the possibility of disaster – your need for excitement based in pain. We beg to differ. How many of you can ignore a disaster in the making? Are your eyes and ears not glued to your television or computer screen wondering how bad it can be? And do you not delight in a media star’s comeuppance? You may deny your culpability in disasters – but by delighting in such agendas, you are inviting them into and onto the earth.
Now are we chiding you for such behavior? No. We are merely pointing out that until you refuse to be part of the problem, you are the problem. We are addressing the law of attraction in this channel.
You attract what you give your attention to. If that happens to be an oil spill, an earthquake, a hurricane or a mass murder, that is what you, as a society, will produce. Perhaps you feel that your news channels are responsible for promoting such dramatic and negative events…and so they are. But they do so because that is what you give your attention to. You create your world…including what your news channels discuss, what your television programs promote and what your media stars produce. You do indeed create your own reality on every level of life on earth as you know it.
Of course, you alone are not responsible for the news. Many of your negative assumptions have been created and maintained by your society for a variety of reasons – most notably in the last few centuries, all of the aspects of the Old Age that allowed you to play both the victim and the controller or bully.
Even though the Old Age no longer exists, you continue to promote many aspects of that Age with your thoughts and expectations – not the least of which is that astrological events, such as a full moon, are something to be wary of. Old Age thinking. Old Age reactions. Old Age beliefs.
How is it possible for you to shift your thinking and beliefs when you are inundated by negative, Old Age beliefs via the media and even some of your New Age teachers? For those of you gasping in disbelief, review the words of those people who are predicting gloom and doom in 2012 or are warning you about this or that event with words something like, “I hope this full moon is not too terrible for you.”
Those of you who have crossed over to the New Age, will find this full moon glorious. Let us explain. Many of you woke up this morning assuming that something uncomfortable would happen to you because it is a full moon day, only to discover that this day is not that unusual or uncomfortable. Instead, as Brenda has found even though her sun is in Pisces and her moon in Virgo, today is quite joyful and fun.
If the New Age is about joy, would it not follow that major astrological occurrences would emphasize that feature, just as pain and victimhood were emphasized in the Old Age?
Are you not tired of trauma, hate and rage that seems to be a daily function of your legislative representatives? Each and every day, are you not feeling more and more the need for harmony and consensus? Are you not finding corporate politics petty and boring? Are you not finding the need to beg for a life of peace and joy abhorrent rather than expected. Are you not finding that you are no longer willing to “turn the other cheek,” and that you no longer wish to be in a position to have to do so? A bit like watching two-year-olds fighting over a ball. As an adult, you watch their actions and think how silly. As a person of the New Age, more and more you are feeling something similar about those contemporaries who insist on fighting over a ball or a concept.
How will all of this shift your current information stream? The media will discover that those programs that promote positive rather than negative thoughts will be more successful – just as is true currently for the Oprah show vs other talk shows that promote fear and anger.
As for your astrological materials, many are being rewritten by those who feel the need to address positive issues, rather than the fear and pain that most Old Age astrological materials favored.
The New Age is about joy. Perhaps you cannot yet see that in your private life. Maybe you have lost your job or your loved one has died. But we will tell you, if you have not done so already, you will soon wish to jump on the joy bandwagon – as many have. A bandwagon delivering you to joy and laughter.
The life you have long pined for is here for your taking. So be it. Amen.
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