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Why is Receiving a Dirty Word?

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Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Summary of Brenda’s December 28, 2013 free, 15-minute, channeled “Creation Energies” show at http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com/brenda-hoffman: It’s time to balance your giving and receiving equation. In new earth, you’ll love yourself as much as others. No longer will phrases like, “He’d give you the shirt off his back” be appropriate or even understandable.

The title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her free, weekly, channeled blog for  http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com: “Merry NEW Holidays to Us”

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” BlogTalkRadio.com show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

We wish to direct your attention to receiving for many of you are not comfortable with that aspect of your being. Perhaps you feel guilty for not giving more during the holiday season to family, friends or charities. As if by spending or giving more all that is not right in your life or someone else’s will be better.

But we venture to guess that few of you feel guilt about not receiving more. The thought of wanting more is what makes you feel guilty.

You have learned to give is divine.

There are few phrases encouraging you to receive. Oh once in awhile, you might read that being thankful for what someone gives you is appropriate. But asking for something is seldom correct in your society – the word selfish is most often used.

Asking for something and truly expecting it to materialize likely ended in childhood when you realized there was no Santa Claus other than yourself.

How many of you spend more than you intend for others during the holidays? Those same thought processes seldom apply to you. Even though you buy items you need or want, most often you do so with thoughts of your budget, if the item is really needed and/or similar filters.

Your media, friends, family and community constantly remind you how “right” giving is – even describing how wonderful you will feel when you do so. And perhaps you do. But receiving does not warrant a similar emphasis in your 3D world.

Giving to others – individuals or organizations – while denying yourself, is the 3D model.

Perhaps such a statement makes you angry for giving does make you joyful. If such is true, this channel is not addressed to you for you have found a source of joy.

But those who give because they should or because of guilt are neither giving nor receiving.

In new earth, all interactions are shared. You receive as well as give. Therefore, learning how to joyfully accept and expect receiving is an extremely important self-contained lesson.

As a child, did you think it was wrong for you to be fed and cared for? At what point in your earth life did receiving become wrong?

AH. Now you are understanding. Giving and not expecting anything in return is a care taker stance.

Did you not care take your children when they were young? But at the same time, did you not expect rewards such as watching your child take their first steps or those little arms wrapped around your neck in love and joy? You and your child experienced a sharing relationship.

But if that same child continues the need to be cared for as an adult despite responding to that care taking with little more than, “Is that all there is?” the relationship is not a sharing relationship. It has become a care taking/victim relationship.

Perhaps you believe you will receive in the future or it is a pay it forward type process. Such is well and good if it is true. But the reality most often is that you are giving or care taking with little expectation of receiving. And at some point, that care taking becomes victimization.

Now you are concerned that we are shifting your thoughts to a selfish mode. So we are.

Selfish is a bad word in your current vocabulary – and giving is a word that is so right. But right for whom? Right for you to give all you have to someone who could create what they need? Right for you to take away their innate powers by constantly showing them you are wiser and better?

Have you asked yourself similar questions before donating your time or money? How do you view the objects of your generosity? As poor them. Or as someone who just needs to be reminded of their powers?

Some of you have adult children or friends living in your home. Is it a sharing relationship or have they reverted to the childlike stance of, “I must be taken care of even if it means you are impoverished for I am the important person in this relationship.”

Please know that, if you have not already experienced it, an emotional shift is occurring.

Perhaps initially it was right for you to care take your adult child or friend. But some how that relationship deteriorated to the point that your life revolves around their needs.

The same has happened with charities and churches. You barely have enough to pay rent, yet you feel guilty when you do not share with those in need.

You are in need now – emotionally and physically.

For you are restructuring your inner-being including learning how to receive. And as you do so, it is likely you will be exposed to feelings of guilt for not giving enough – financial or emotional care taking.

As earth shifts to love, those who wish to remain enmeshed in fear will do whatever it takes to continue a fear-based world. The same is true for care taking. As you remove yourself from a care taking equation, those who were comfortable with or expected your care taking will attempt to return you to that life.

But as you transition to love and joy, you are removing your care taking elements. One of which is, “Giving is divine.”  Your new mantra is, “Sharing is divine.”

Sharing is a joyful win/win situation for all.

Yet those used to being taken care of will fight to maintain those 3D care taking beliefs. A bit like your toddler insisting he needs his bottle after he is capable of drinking from a glass. It is time for you to say, “No” to yourself and others.

Only with sharing will you experience the joy of your relationships. This is new earth. So be it. Amen.

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December 30, 2013 at 11:54 am 30 comments

Accept Your Inner-Power – or Not

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Summary of this week’s free, 15-minute, channeled “Creation Energies” show on http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com: Your world is shifting more and more rapidly. Compare  the rate of your personal world shift to receiving mail in the 1800’s versus today’s almost instant worldwide transmission of information via the Internet. 

 

Dear Ones,

You are transitioning at a much more rapid pace than we expected. But you have adjusted with each new shift so you do not understand how fast you have shifted.

Perhaps you are not part of the protests popping up throughout the world. Perhaps you remain in the life you had before you started this wondrous transition. Your internal shifts have forced and encouraged you to move quickly into your role.

Perhaps some people who were important to you are no longer. Not because they are different, but because you are. You no longer wish to care take them or be a victim of their antics. You have claimed your inner-power.

Only those of you who do not believe you are strong enough to be both a unique individual AND a valued member of society will accept victimization or care taking. Both roles place you in a personal prison.

You accepted victimization by your governments and expected care taking in return. You accepted victimization by your employers and expected financial rewards for doing so. You accepted victimization by your children and expected them to love and care for you in exchange.  Or, you were the care taker and expected those you cared for to reward you as you deemed appropriate.

Sometimes such hopes, beliefs and sacrifices worked – sometimes they did not. But none were generated by your inner-being. All were created by society to fit a particular need. Only a generation ago, most expected to work for one company their entire working lives and receive a generous pension for doing so. Less than one hundred years ago, most benefits you now expect from your governments were created. The concept of a teen-ager was not understood two or three generations ago.

As your structures shifted, so did your sacrifices and expectations. All of which was appropriate in the Old Age of fear. You no longer live in the Old Age. And so your expectations are shifting.

You do not work long hours in the hopes that you will receive a pension at the end of your work life. You no longer believe such pensions exist. You no longer feel the need to care for your adult children at the expense of your life, just because they are not willing to care for themselves. You do not feel the need to support a government that does not care about you.

That is how you are shifting. You are not waking up one day with a protest sign in your hands. But slowly, in your mind, you are awakening to your personal power and needs. Both of which circumvent victimization and care taking.

What is the result of your awakening? You will find yourself in a life that is joyful and fun. End of story. But your transition from fear, victimization and care taking to claiming your personal power is amazing to behold.

You do not necessarily understand your progress – but we do. Compare your transition to learning to read. First you learned your alphabet. You put those letters together to form words. Then you put the words together to create a story. And once you mastered the “See Jane run” stories, you moved on to more advanced books until you were comfortable reading college level materials. You never noted the steps required to read college materials – you just expected to know how to do so once you entered college. The same is true now. You are not fully aware of your progress.

We have told you that you must decide now if you wish to continue with your transition.  You can no longer be upset with your government and pleased that your adult children need care taking. They are the same.

Some of you hope that your transition will shift only certain segments of your life. That is not possible. Once you acknowledge your care taking and victimization roles – whether in the corporate world or your family – you will no longer accept either. That is, unless the fear of losing that piece of your life is more important than claiming your inner-power.

That is what we were speaking of last week. It is time to decide if you wish to stay stuck to the bottom of the vegetable soup pot or to swirl around to find your new world.

You cannot shift one segment of your life and expect other segments to continue as has been true in the past. This is a personal revolution of the greatest magnitude. Just as you are either pregnant or not pregnant, you cannot be of the New Age in one segment of your life. You accept your inner-power or you do not. That is your decision.

Even though you may be concerned about others, it is now at a different level. Instead of feeling the need to care take or be a victim of their actions, you wonder why they continue to live the life they have chosen – one of victimization and care taking. So too is it true for your work world, governments and all structures.

You have moved beyond learning your alphabet to understanding college materials. And you have done so in a matter of months. Phenomenal.

Some of you are fearful of letting go of the need to be a victim or a care taker. That is fine. You are swirling in the pot of vegetable soup if you are questioning your motives and needs. It is those of you who firmly believe you do not need to let go of care taking or victimization in ALL areas of your life who are becoming stuck to the bottom of the pot.

You are moving. You are transitioning. You are swirling. Celebrate your wondrous new thoughts and directions. You are moving into your life of joy. So be it. Amen.

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October 10, 2011 at 4:34 pm 5 comments

Free at Last!

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Special Event: Carl O. Helvie, PhD, “Holistic Health Show” on BBSRadio.com Saturday August 20, 2011 at 3 pm Eastern Time – noon Pacific Time. Dee Wallace (actress in 130 movies including the role of mother in the movie, ET) and Brenda are Dr. Helvie’s guests this week. Brenda channels the last thirty minutes of this one-hour ascension show. 

Overview of this week’s Creation Energies, Brenda’s 15-minute, free, channeled program on http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com: Many just shifted from the THOUGHT that victimization and care taking are not appropriate, to the BELIEF that victimization and care taking are no longer appropriate.  

 

Dear Ones,

Let us begin by acknowledging that many of you are exhausted. These past few weeks have been almost more than you could process physically, but not as much as you would like to process.

You want to know who, what, where and when regarding the ascension/New Age/new earth NOW. But your physical being must process for a few days before the next piece is introduced. So we will review what has occurred on earth to date and then we will project what will happen as soon as you are rested physically.

You have altered your DNA to allow more energy into your being. You have started to “glow” a bit. Not so much that most will notice, but enough so those who have not seen you for a while will wonder why you look so attractive – much like a pregnant woman excited about the new life growing within her. This glow will deepen and expand, as we have noted before, but not today or tomorrow because it is time for you to rest your physical being.

You have also accepted your new earth/New Age tool kit even though most of you have not yet downloaded it. So your wondrous tool kit of surprises continues to be on hold for a bit.

Finally, you are moving through your need for victimization and care taking. When we first introduced you to those topics, you pondered and meditated – but did not necessarily change your behavior. You have since accepted the need to move beyond victimization and care taking in all the forms they have taken in your life.

Perhaps what you have achieved beyond accepting the New Age/new earth as a reality does not seem like much change when you read our words. But we will tell you that you have achieved much more than we – and you before this life on earth – thought possible.

In the next few months, you will move into communities physically, emotionally or mentally that support your new being. You will wish to be around those entities – in whatever form – who have similar belief patterns and interests. As we stated earlier, you will find less need or interest in surrounding yourself with those entities who do not.

How can you separate from your family, friends or co-workers who do not meet your soon-to-be needs for compatibility? Just as you have always done in this lifetime on earth. Many of you started a college degree and found it was not correct for you so you changed life plans. Others  of you moved to homes or communities that were not quite right so you found the opportunities necessary to move. Still others discovered that your mate was not correct so you divorced or left that person. This will be no different. Other than you will now know that you can draw the circumstances to you that will help you create your new community without the fear and pain that was so much a part of your Old Age life.

Those people who do not fit into your new worldview are not bad or evil people. They merely wish to remain in fear and pain longer than you do – or in a different community. Some will return to your community – some will not. There is nothing you can do or say that will shift their decision, just as we could not force you into accepting the New Age/new earth/ascension process.

In the Old Age, free will was discussed but not applied. Your governments, schools, churches, parents and communities told you who and what was a “good” person in their system of control. Because those rules were a group consensus for what was necessary to grow and maintain the institution that created the rules, the rules often changed a bit each generation.

Those of you who were previously enmeshed in the Old Age did not notice that the rules changed to meet the institution’s needs – only that they felt a bit more up-to-date. The changes were accepted as progress, rather than another set of rules you needed to follow in order to be considered a “good and worthwhile” person.

Free will has truly entered your world. It is no longer about what an institution needs, but what you need. How that need is derived has shifted dramatically from thoughts of, “How do I get mine, before everyone takes theirs?” to, “What is my heart, my inner-being directing me to do?”

Listening to your inner-being will direct you to your community. Just as the inner-beings of others will direct those who will be most comfortable in your community to you. Bullying, cajoling, begging, nagging, forcing and threatening will no longer alter the thoughts or directions of anyone who has started their internal New Age/new earth process.

You can only be you. Just as all other entities moving into the New Age internally can only be who they are.

What does such insolence, if you will, mean for your institutions? You are already seeing what will happen to institutions who continue to force you into a little box. No box is now large enough to contain you – or anyone who is listening and acting from their internal messages.

Institutions will begin to project their philosophies and those who feel the need to be part of their philosophy will find them. No longer will institutions force you into roles and activities. Instead you will drive the institutions.

“Free at Last” is such an apt phrase for what is happening to you and your world. So be it. Amen.

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August 15, 2011 at 2:15 pm 6 comments

You Whine and Protest as You Give Away Your Power

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for http://www.LifeTapestryCreations.com

Dear Everyone – Somehow the paragraph breaks for this blog were removed despite numerous efforts to correct. I apologize for any confusion. Brenda

Overview of 8/1/11 my “Creation Energies” 15-minute, channeled, http://www.BlogTalkRadio.com show: Even though you are combining the slivers of who you are throughout the Universes and your cellular structure is changing, you will continue to be the physical being you are now.

Special Events:

  • Sunday August 7, 2011 at 11 am Brenda will be the guest presenter/channeler for A Class Act; 127 Cleveland Street; Greenville, SC 29601. Call 864.233.3033 for more information. 
  • Saturday August 20, 2011 noon to 1 Pacific Time; 3 pm to 4 pm Eastern Time, Brenda and Dee Wallace (actress in 125 movies including the role of mother in the movie “ET”) will be the guests of radio show host Dr. Carl Helvie on BBS Radio.com “The Holistic Health Show.” 
Dear Ones,

Many of you experienced unexpected feelings, interactions and behaviors in the last few days – maybe even the last two weeks. That is expected. For the energy shifts of July were greater than has been true for shifts of the past.

Previous shifts arrived in batches, but never to the extent you just experienced, nor in such a condensed period. With each shift, your physical being becomes stronger which allows you to accept more incoming energy. And so it happened for many of you last month.

You shifted physically and spiritually. In turn, those shifts affected you emotionally. Perhaps you lashed out at a friend or relative. Perhaps you were angry at the Universe, your employer or politicians. It does not matter. You needed to vent to stabilize your being. Were you not shocked by your rage – something you were certain you had by-passed long ago?

We have told you that fear and pain would not disappear – they would merely be painted with smaller and brighter pots of paint. And so it is. Your anger dissipated and you returned to what you think is your normal behavior. And we laugh.

For indeed, as you add slivers of your totality, as you shift and as you become more spiritual, you will also be more real.

Does that thought send a shiver of fear through you? There is no need for such fear. For indeed, more real also means more loving. The caveat is that you will love yourself more. Ah. Now you are beginning to grasp what we mean.

If you truly love yourself, you can no longer play victim or care taker roles. You will also be less interested, if not totally disinterested, in enabling others to play those roles. And if those close to you continue to play those roles or enable others to do so, do not be surprised if you remove them from your circle of special people.

This does not mean you will hide in your home. Rather, you will no longer tolerate those roles in whatever form they take. Observing others continuing those roles or enabling others to do so, will become so painful you will need to remove yourself. For as you continue to grow in loving yourself, you will feel more and more uncomfortable around those who do not.

Perhaps the analogy of someone who decides to stop smoking and finds smoky restaurants unacceptable would be an apt analogy. Even though some who have stopped smoking insist that others follow in their new-found health path, most merely stop attending those events that are in smoke filled environments.

And so shall it be for you. You will not have a need to preach the rightness of your new-found self-love, you merely will not wish to be around those who continue to take part in victim/care taker activities.

Will such new thoughts change your relationships? Most definitely for most relationships you developed in this lifetime – and for eons – have included elements of both care taking and victimization. Even your recent United States congressional anger demonstrated victimhood. “Those bad, mean congress people are taking away our rights.” – or – “Giving rights away.” You whine and you protest – all the while forgetting that you gave them their power and continue to do so every time you vote or do not vote.

Of course, you do not need to start a revolution. But at the same time, all your victim whining will not change the structure of any government. You elected or support them. Take responsibility for your actions. Which is no different from taking responsibility for smoking or not smoking. You cannot claim to have moved from the care taker/victim roles if you continue to allow your governments, churches and corporations to tell you who you are and what you need to do. You placed yourself in those prisons, it is time to release yourself.

Many of you are clamouring, “How am I supposed to change the structures that rule my life?” How indeed? We have long told you that your structures would evolve to meet your new needs. As you shift, allow, encourage and EXPECT your structures to shift also. If those structures are of the people, by the people – which they are – what type of structures best fit the new you, your new society?

Allow those structures to be created. The only way such deeply engrained structures will shift is if you, and everyone who wishes to, decide that care taking and victimhood are no longer part of your repertoire. Many of you are now thinking, “How can I possibly do that?” (victimhood) “But what about those people over there, how can I take care of them?” (care taking).

You have long proclaimed that you create your reality, that you can heal yourself and that you are the creator of your world. Expand those thoughts to realize that you are one of the millions of cells joining together to not only shift your thinking, but that of the earth and all the other entities on the earth who wish to shift. It started with you. Now expand your thoughts and your acceptance of your power to include everything and everyone you interact with daily. That is your right. That is your power. Most importantly, that is your role.

Do such thoughts seem cruel or insurmountable? They are if you are a care taker or a victim. They are not if you fully claim your inner power, inner creativity, inner skills and expect everyone else to do the same. That is the New Age/new earth – the ascension. So be it. Amen.
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August 3, 2011 at 1:52 pm 4 comments


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