Your Bartered Heart

June 6, 2022 at 10:12 am 18 comments

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for Life Tapestry

“You’ve Always Had Heart” is the title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly channeled blog for

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Dear Ones,

Even though you have always had heart, you have hidden your heart for earth eons because it seemed others would not or could not return the love you had to give.

Over the eons, you hardened your heart and the corresponding responses. Many of you became the consummate caretaker. But you did so to ensure someone would interact with you instead of a natural process.

You were not cold-hearted, instead you traded love for love – much as merchants trade for financial gain.

Perhaps you are upset for you believe you give with a complete and loving heart. And so you did when you were of 3D.

ThreeD love almost always has a purpose from “If I do this, God will love me” to “If I do this, my community or family will see what a wonderful person I am.” If that love was not reciprocated (rewarded), you left or harmed the individual or institution emotionally, physically, or spiritually with thoughts of “You’re not up to my love standards.”

ThreeD love was bartered just as is true for any earth merchandise.

The love you are evolving into is broader and more profound. Because you are rewarding yourself with self-love, outer-rewards are no longer required.

ThreeD love was about filling your empty love cup. A cup that was empty because you did not love yourself.

Once you allow yourself to fully love yourself, the antics of others will shift within you from “They hurt my feelings” or “Broke my heart” to “They must function like that for a reason.” Your choices then become encourage those actions, shift your interactions, or ignore the supposed slight and move on.

You no longer need to placate anyone. Instead, ask yourself if those interactions feed or reduce your self-love.

The new earth is not about interaction quantity but interaction quality

Self-love reigns.

You might question how self-love applies to children, relatives, or life-long friends. Do you ignore them, drop them, confront them, or create something new? That decision is your new being freedom. Should no longer applies.

Many of you question that freedom with thoughts of employers, relatives, friends, and others you gathered to fulfill your 3D needs.

Many of you respond that you can release friends, but you need the job, or you have to take care of family members. If such is so, it behooves you to readdress your needs and, therefore, your interactions with them.

Are you using the 3D love/friendship/employee applications you have for eons? Or do you believe you are important enough to declare freedom from those people and things that hold you captive?

ThreeD love was a barter or financial exchange. You felt your heart was filled – not from the inside out, but the outside in. As you fill your heart with self-love, that 3D exchange no longer exits. You do not feel the need or have the energy to appease others because so much is happening within you. So it is you can no longer act the supplicant nor function as the almighty king/queen.

New you does not have time or energy to make the lives of others better just so they will return the favor. As you fill with self-love, you will find yourself exploring relationships you once believed were lifelong, only to discover those relationships are no longer that interesting.

Do you wish to be with those people for something other than what they once gave you, or are you ready to flit to another interaction?

Perhaps you believe you need certain beings in your life for if you let them go, there will be no one to replace them. We, of the Universes, can only respond that your 3D emotional safety net no longer exists. Not because it was bad or wrong, but because you are a new being in a new age.

The most essential part of your new being is self-love. A love that does not require you to negotiate with anyone. Nor does it require you to retain a certain number of people or items in your world to feel complete.

Outer-directed indicates you cannot rule yourself without the aid of others. Inner-directed is the opposite.

Perhaps you are concerned you will be isolated.

Loving yourself sometimes is lonely – especially at the beginning. Not because of the final rewards, but because you realize how little you had in common with many you held close to your heart. Even though they never filled your heart, what they bartered with you allowed you to feel as if your heart MIGHT be whole.

You have required a whole heart since your inception light years ago – just as you now need oxygen to live on the earth. So be it. Amen. To receive Brenda’s Blog, subscribe via Or, click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her “Blog & Subscribe” website page ( and click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation. 

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18 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Delfina Gasoido  |  June 6, 2022 at 11:02 am

    Dear Brenda,
    that is how I have felt for months, if not years.
    I have cut off many of my social relationships “out of obligation”.
    I have learned to say no, without having to feel guilty or without having to make excuses.
    I enjoy it more and more of my life “inside”, without the need for empty social interactions, enjoying exquisitely chosen quality time. Amen

    Liked by 5 people

    • 2. LifeTapestryCreations  |  June 6, 2022 at 11:58 am

      Dear Cristina,
      Isn’t it amazing how much we’ve shifted in just a few years – despite being questioned by others and even questioning ourselves? Kudos to you and all who have dared to shift step-by-often seemingly illogical step!
      Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,

      Liked by 4 people

    • 3. elizabethfarwell  |  June 8, 2022 at 11:08 am

      Yes yes yes and yes. Love you! 💜💜💜🎉🎉🎉


  • 4. Maria  |  June 6, 2022 at 3:53 pm

    Thank you my fellow Angel Brenda,
    The Post resonates with me. I am enough for myself. Just working towards Unity Consciousness.

    Liked by 3 people

    • 5. LifeTapestryCreations  |  June 6, 2022 at 7:14 pm

      Dear Maria,
      YAY and kudos! “I am enough for myself.”
      Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,

      Liked by 1 person

  • 6. gratzite  |  June 6, 2022 at 8:50 pm

    As always two sides of the coin.
    Extreme selfishness is also in the hubris of “Self” Love.
    Without unselfish service to others it losing meaning.

    Liked by 1 person

    • 7. LifeTapestryCreations  |  June 7, 2022 at 10:10 am

      Dear Gratzite,
      I agree with you from the outer-directed model we’ve experienced for earth eons. In fact, there are several psychological models we’ve been dramatically exposed to the past few years including narcissism, sociopathic tendencies, etc. And despite the efforts of many, properly placing your oxygen mask on before helping your children or other loved ones still feels odd during an airplane disaster.

      But what if the filling your heart from the inside, as indicated in my channels and those of others, allows you to care more for others because you no longer need to be better or subservient to them?.

      I’ve found myself shifting my thoughts of he/she is a terrible person to more of a sadness that they seem so emotionally damaged. My shift isn’t 100% yet, but I’m shifting. Which indicates to me that as I let go of the need to be better than or control another, I’ll be more loving and accepting. Will that be true for everyone? We have no guarantees other than what we feel inside.

      And from my past channels, it seems that those few who wish to maintain their outer-directed lives will do so as a choice – maybe even a choice to help those of us who are shifting to dramatically display who we no longer wish to be.

      Are any of my thoughts regarding your question an absolute given? No, but shifts within me and others are happening – despite our questions, concerns, and fears that an inner-directed world is too good to be true. I’m choosing to believe that this is a new world where love reigns because we are complete enough within us to care for others without expectations of a reward. For there are many ways to love/care for others from helping someone find their strengths, to creating a work of art to inventing something that allows others to have a better life. Not necessarily a hand out but a hand up as I believe is a quote of Dr. Leon Sullivan of the Occupational Industrial Centers of America.

      Blessings, Lots of Love, andOngoing Creation Sparkles,

      Liked by 3 people

      • 8. gratzite  |  June 7, 2022 at 8:17 pm

        Thankyou for the response to my terse comment.


      • 9. LifeTapestryCreations  |  June 8, 2022 at 12:33 pm

        Dear Gratzite,
        You’re so welcome. I understood the question – it’s something I asked myself after first channeling about self-love years ago. Your question just forced me to try to articulate what I’ve noted since my first self-love channel.
        Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,


    • 10. elizabethfarwell  |  June 8, 2022 at 11:11 am

      Imagine a world of folks who love themselves and are filled with that love. And it spills over into giving that love to others. Because at that point the love feeds on itself and is infinite. 💜

      Liked by 1 person

  • 11. Inma  |  June 7, 2022 at 12:18 am

    Dear Brenda,

    What a perfect way to describe the process of shifting love from the outside in to the inside out to self-love
    Thank you so much for stating it that clear!! I am starting to realise how I am shifting my caretaker role towards loving myself first, second and third. I no longer feel selfish at all doing it. On the contrary, freedom predominates, goodbye controlling my beloved ones but feeling deep love for them all. I am too busy with getting to know my new me and loving myself, respecting everyone’s path.

    Lots of love,💕

    Liked by 5 people

    • 12. LifeTapestryCreations  |  June 7, 2022 at 10:15 am

      Dear Irma,
      As I relayed to Gratzite, I’m feeling the same kind of shift that you stated so beautifully. You don’t love others less, you just love yourself more – respecting everyone’s path including your own. And away we go!
      Blessings, Lots of Love, and Ongoing Creation Energies,

      Liked by 2 people

    • 14. LifeTapestryCreations  |  June 7, 2022 at 2:43 pm

      As always, thank you so for sharing my channel with your MENSAGENS e PENSAMENTOS readers.


  • 15. elizabethfarwell  |  June 8, 2022 at 11:07 am



    I’ve been on the self love path for years. My mantra for the last 10+ years has been “loving myself so that I can love ALL my neighbors”. I do a special loving kindness meditation for myself and the world every day.

    As I’ve often said “i don’t need to be around someone but I can send them love.” We ALL need love.

    The more I do me, the more connections I make. I have made several beautiful online friends that makes my heart sing.
    And especially you Miss Brenda! I love you!!!

    Cristina!!!!!! Yes yes yes!!!!

    LOVING US ALL 💜💜💜💜🎉🎉🎉🎉

    Liked by 1 person

    • 16. LifeTapestryCreations  |  June 8, 2022 at 12:36 pm

      Dear Sweetie,
      Maybe a new song title could be, “All We Have is Love” instead of “All We Need is Love.” Evolving, evolving, we’re constantly evolving into love. How cool is that?
      Lots of Love, Blessings, and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,

      Liked by 1 person

  • 17. elizabethfarwell  |  June 8, 2022 at 11:12 am

    PS. And I’m still working on letting go of caretaking. As an automatic response.




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