Pretending Your Life is What it is Not

November 25, 2019 at 9:08 am 25 comments

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for

Summary of Brenda’s November 22, 2019, channeled “Creation Energies” show at  Perhaps you’re fearful of interactions or reactions during this United States Thanksgiving holiday week. As with all holidays that focus on love, love will permeate the air. More importantly, what was once fearful will no longer affect you the same way. You’ve passed the mid-point between fear and joy. So it is your fears won’t materialize, or you’ll react differently.

You’re Now Learning to Expect Joy is the title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly channeled blog for

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

This is a difficult time for many. Not necessarily because of the energies now pummeling the earth, but because of 3D expectations.

So it is many are discovering what once was important is no more. As if you have turned a corner from what you wished would be to what is. Those years of hoping this would be the year of a “Leave to Beaver” holiday season no longer haunt you.

In truth, past holiday seasons were more likely about anxiety than a loving reality. Finding the right gift. Preparing the right food. Saying the right words, so no one was upset.

Such discourse is not to negate those loving encounters throughout some or all of your holidays. But instead, to point out, you no longer need to pretend that life is what it is not.

Perhaps you spent more than expected to ensure those receiving the gift believed you were wealthier than your reality. Or your food preparation cut into your personal time far beyond what you wished. But given 3D expectations, you accepted that discomfort, to ‘properly’ celebrate the holiday.

Most of your past holidays have likely been a charade. You move this way, and I will move that way. Neither party willing to acknowledge that the gift or food portion of the holidays was as important as a loving connection.

Some of you believe our comments are jaded. Such is true to a certain extent. But then, watch as the media, your family, and friends hype the importance of two or three days beyond all other days of the year. As if those two or three days represent all you mean to one another.

Lovingly being with others is not what we are addressing. Instead, we are pointing out the falsehoods your society has perpetrated holiday season after holiday season. Until those without a family or friend group to celebrate with – most commonly with gifts and food – are somehow less than.

So it is that many of you visit with those you are not terribly enamored of or gift those you do not care about just so you have something to report to others in terms of social acceptance.

Many of you deny such statements. Not because such is not true, but because such is peeling a band-aid off a wound, you are not quite ready to heal.

New you does not need to do something because you should. Yet, many of your holiday traditions have less and less to do with who you have become. Such a thought is frightening for that means all you have come to expect, all you have declared right may no longer be.

So it is we are addressing issues you are afraid to address. Are you completing your holiday preparations in joy and laughter? Or as a ‘should’ that curtails your joy activities? A question you may not have contemplated. For to do so is to turn your world upside down – as well as that of those with whom you celebrate.

The love projected during the holiday season does increase your inner spark. But only if that love is true. You cannot manufacture love as most have attempted to do for decades – pretending that the holidays were as reported in the media and social circles.

How often have you listened to others – and your inner voice – fighting the need to shop for gifts, prepare food, send holiday cards, and generally spend six weeks or so in a tizzy just so you can celebrate a few hours? That is not to say love is never shared, but that the preparations required do not equate to the results. Why must you wear certain clothes, eat certain foods, exchange gifts, and all the other preparations during this season just to pretend love is the key element?

Yes, love might be, but why do you need to complete all of the aforementioned preparations to experience that love?

Many of you love the Thanksgiving gathering, holiday lights, cards, smells, or gift exchange. But are you doing all of that in hopes of someone rewarding you with love or acceptance; or because you wish to?

Such is the crux of this channel. Which preparations are completed with love for yourself and others? And which are you doing despite your exhaustion for acceptance from others? Who are you? What is right for you? Not your relatives, neighbors, or friends. What is right for you?

If your holiday preparations are truly a loving effort that makes your heart sing, spend as much time and energy as you can completing those preparations. But if those preparations are exhausting and overwhelming, STOP!!! That is not who you are.

Two or three days a year are not your security blanket. Your security blanket is you. If you are in joy, you are in the right place. If you are exhausted, angry, frustrated, or feeling financially drained, you are merely doing what others think you should.

As a 5D forerunner, any activity attempted because you should will be exhausting this holiday season and forever.

You are no longer a follower, you are a leader. And 5D leaders decide what is best for them. That is not to say 5D leaders are selfish, but instead that they honor their inner-being.

Believing in and following your inner voice is your holiday gift to yourself.

The energies you incorporate the next few weeks will cause you to limit your actions and activities. So it is, you will not have the energy to please others at the expense of yourself.

If you had had surgery this holiday season, no one would expect you to perform as you have in the past. Just because your major shift is internal will not make a difference for you. Allow yourself to perform those tasks that seem joyful and ignore the rest. Knowing that the significant changes you undergo the next few weeks will not be visible to others.

You have a choice. Pretend that all is well in an attempt to walk the 3D/5D tightrope, and you will likely fall into an illness or anxiety that prohibits you from performing as you have. Or honor yourself and perform that which provides joy, and is within your energy limits.

This is not going to be an easy time for many.

You are of 5D and becoming more so daily. Allow that to be. And allow your physical being to adjust without adding the holiday fever of activity you have experienced for decades. So be it. Amen. To receive Brenda’s Blog, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her “Blog & Subscribe” page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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You’re Now Learning to Expect Joy Doth Thou Protest Too Much?

25 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Eliza Ayres  |  November 25, 2019 at 9:15 am

    Reblogged this on Blue Dragon Journal.


  • 3. Delfina Gasoido  |  November 25, 2019 at 9:16 am


    Liked by 1 person

    • 4. LifeTapestryCreations  |  November 25, 2019 at 6:53 pm

      Hey Cristina,
      You’re so welcome!
      Lots of Love, Blessings, and Those Ongoing Creation Sparkles,


  • 5. Becky Reed  |  November 25, 2019 at 10:16 am

    Thank you for this! Early on this year I decided that my gift to myself this season was skipping the holidays! What freedom! If my son invites me over maybe I’ll bring some store-bought cookies. Other than that, it’s just me and the birds.

    Liked by 4 people

    • 6. LifeTapestryCreations  |  November 25, 2019 at 6:55 pm

      Hi Becky,
      YES! What an example of freedom to be for all of us!
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,


  • 7. elizabethsadhu  |  November 25, 2019 at 10:31 am

    Love! I don’t do holidays with any family except my kids on Thanksgiving. We do non traditional foods. Unless you count tofurkey. 😉😉😉☺️☺️☺️ We haven’t done gifts in years. Just hanging out, eating, playing with the dogs, playing games. Joy Joy Joy!!!

    Thanks dearest Brenda.

    Loving us all!

    PS. Thanksgiving is the only day I don’t want to feel grateful. Ha! My every day catch phrase is: “wallowing in gratitude”. ♥️♥️♥️♥️🎉🎉🎉🎉

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    • 8. LifeTapestryCreations  |  November 25, 2019 at 6:57 pm

      Dear Sweetie,
      Yet another shining example of self-care and love sharing. Isn’t it amazing that we’re even discussing shifting from holiday frazzle and shoulds to love?
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,


  • 9. Stefan  |  November 25, 2019 at 2:44 pm

    In other words the energy of December will be out of this world.
    Thanks for the heads up Brenda.
    Back to hibernation-mode.

    Liked by 1 person

    • 10. LifeTapestryCreations  |  November 25, 2019 at 7:02 pm

      Hi Stefan,
      Yup. December is definitely going to be a month filled with energies and shifts. My past few BlogTalkRadio shows and Brenda’s Blog have highlighted lots of energy bursts arriving since early November. I’ve read other channels indicating the same. Soooo any holiday preps might be better sooner rather than later in December — or not at all???
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,

      Liked by 1 person

  • 11. B W  |  November 25, 2019 at 2:57 pm

    The law seems to stay very 3d with a decietful form of entrapment. How best to cast down that old energy from the powers that were:.



  • 12. Ana Daksina  |  November 25, 2019 at 3:23 pm

    Adding this link to the reference index at the Foundation for Poetic Justice


    • 13. LifeTapestryCreations  |  November 25, 2019 at 7:04 pm

      Thank you so much, Ana, for adding a link of my channels to the Foundation for Poetic Justice


      • 14. Ana Daksina  |  November 25, 2019 at 8:55 pm

        Are you kidding? Every time I get finished reading your priceless contributions (every single little word of every single one, and with respectful attention at that) I think to myself what a beyond right on, like, micro targeted, in detail, not one word astray, with the quality of insight, motivation and comfort for the likes of I me myself which I we seldom find.

        You go, gurl!

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      • 15. LifeTapestryCreations  |  November 26, 2019 at 3:03 pm

        Dear Ana,
        Thank you from me and my sources!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My channeling intent is always to discover more transition information for all of us. To know that others find the information helpful warms my heart!
        Blessings, Lots of Love and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,


      • 16. Ana Daksina  |  November 26, 2019 at 4:43 pm

        Helpful on a very high level, yes. Bright blessings back, sister


  • 17. Rowie  |  November 25, 2019 at 7:49 pm

    Wonderful thanks Brenda!💜💜
    Spot on time as always and I’m grateful for your truth. It’ll be nice to chill on the sidelines as people spin madly in the vortex, trying to achieve superhuman feats, only to collapse into a chair afterwards spent with exhaustion. 😁🎶
    My aim now is to just be, relax, enjoy the company and prepare for the next stage.
    Love & Light beautiful soul 💗🙏You are a blessing and I soo look forward to seeing your emails pop up in my inbox. 😘
    Keep 🌟S H I N I N G🌟 Rowena xx


    • 18. LifeTapestryCreations  |  November 26, 2019 at 3:01 pm

      Dear Rowena,
      Isn’t it a great place to be when we can encourage others, as well as ourselves, to Keep Shining!!!

      Kudos and more kudos for your ability to listen to your inner voice and chill on the sidelines during the holiday “hustle” and bustle.
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,

      Liked by 1 person

  • 19. Maria  |  November 26, 2019 at 5:29 am

    Thanks Brenda, just got me : l am already struggling with it and am winning and happy about it. I used to make everyone feel better and I will not feel good myself.

    Liked by 1 person

    • 20. LifeTapestryCreations  |  November 26, 2019 at 3:05 pm

      Dear Maria,
      Join the 3D transitioning to the 5D club that all or most of us have belonged to. Kudos for allowing yourself to love yourself!!
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,


  • 21. janis´¯`·.¸ʚįɞ  |  November 26, 2019 at 12:52 pm

    Yes! ♥️


  • 22.  |  November 26, 2019 at 4:23 pm

    Thank you as always!


  • 24. TeresaE  |  November 27, 2019 at 3:49 pm

    A mile wide, and an inch deep, that is what we became.
    Looking for validation everywhere except inside and with Source.
    I’m thankful it only took 52 years to see outside the matrix!
    And I’m thankful for this validation!



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