Friendship Loss?

December 21, 2020 at 9:36 am 18 comments

Channeled by Brenda Hoffman for LifeTapestry

Summary of Brenda’s December 18, 2020, channeled “Creation Energies” show at During this holiday season, do what you need to do, even if that means performing that which no longer interests you. For this is the last year, you’ll need to perform according to the expectations of others. Some of you moved beyond those expectations, but not all. Allow yourself to function in ways most peaceful for you. You don’t have the energy to fight yourself and/or the world now. 

“Rest” is the title of last week’s “Brenda’s Blog” – her weekly channeled blog for LifeTapestry

Brenda’s “Creation Energies” show and “Brenda’s Blog” contain different channeled information.

Dear Ones,

You are discovering you do not react as you have in the past. Another difference you have perhaps yet to note is you are becoming more self-sufficient and courageous. 

Perhaps you are saying, “No,” as others try to have you meet their needs. Perhaps you are not bothering with former niceties. Or perhaps you are no longer interested in areas that used to interest you. It does not matter how you display your independence and courage, for the end-product is the same for all – the freedom to be.

This first holiday season of freedom is likely confusing. For many of you are questioning your former and current actions, as well as the actions of others. You are deciding which, if any, of your holiday traditions hold enough interest for you to continue. At the same time, others are pressuring you to be who you used to be. 

Even though this is not an easy time, you have prepared for years, perhaps decades. Part of you is fighting with yourself, and another part is fighting against the traditions that now mean little to you. So it continues with the December energies encouraging you to be you in all your glory. 

Maybe you are concerned that your friendship pool has become so small you are not completely comfortable with new you. Even though you have become an independent human angel, you maintain the human trait of wishing to interact with others lovingly. Such is not necessarily true for all human angels. But for many of you, friendship has become a concern. 

You will create new interactions with those of like mind and discover new friends in the most unlikely places. But such information does not appease your current feelings of loneliness, of having to start over in the friendship realm. 

We assure you that your friendship or relationship concerns will be circumvented in the coming months. For 2020 was about discovering yourself outside the social milieu. But then, not everyone self-isolated. By continuing their life as it was, those individuals missed some of the freedoms you developed.

That is not to say those not self-isolating are terrible people, merely that they were given a “get-out-of-jail-free” card they opted not to use. Does such a statement mean they are less spiritual than you? No, merely that they have opted for a more difficult road. Even though they helped create the en masse stop that was 2020, they did not take advantage of that stop. 

So it is some of your friends, or former friends are at a different place than those of you utilizing this year of solitude. And because they are at a different place, you likely do not have as much in common. Which is neither good nor bad, just different. A difference that might be difficult for some time as you flit from one interest to another. A bit like deciding at age 12 you are not interested in playing with an 8-year-old. Once you and the 8-year-old are both in your 30s. that age difference will mean little. And so it might be for those who opted not to utilize this year of solitude. They will need to double-task for a bit to catch-up to your freedom base. 

Those who did not take advantage of 2020 will expect you to be who you were, for they are mostly who they were when the year began. Such is neither good nor bad, just how they followed their path. For some of those who did not embrace this year of solitude, it was a badge of honor that they did not. Just as was true for those of you who did. So for much of 2021, it is unlikely you will have much in common. 

That last statement is not written in stone, but instead an observation of probabilities. So it is you will likely mourn what was – just as you might have when you left your childhood interests behind. At the same time, you will look forward to the possibilities of your new life and forge new friendships.

That is not to say you will never interact with those friends who did not use this year of solitude to go within, but instead that it might take a bit of time for those friends to catch-up to you. Or you may never interact with them again, for, by the time they are at a similar place as you, you might have such different interests that your interactions are never the same.

That last thought might seem depressing to many of you, for you value your friendships. But just as you are different, so are your interests and interactions. You are more confident in your being and your direction. So even if friends used this year of solitude similar to what was true for you, you still may be on such different paths as not to intersect again.

Which is no different than many of those persons with whom you attended grammar school. In all likelihood, you now have little in common with them, for your 3D adult path was different than theirs. You have the commonality of your school, but not enough other commonalities to maintain more than a passing relationship. Such did not affect your 3D life, nor your transition. So it will be for you as you move through 2021 and beyond. 

You have evolved beyond expectations – what was and who you were are no longer. So those who are not interested in similar areas or on a different time track may not hold great interest for you. But there will be others who help you sparkle with joy and laughter. You are entering a dramatic new phase of your being. A phase that has never happened en masse on the earth before.

You are new. The earth is new. And your friendships will likely shift as a result. Allow that to be. And allow yourself to know that you will not be alone – if you flow into your new being, instead of stalling the inevitable to maintain friendships that no longer – and may never again – sparkle for you. So be it. Amen. To receive Brenda’s Blog, please click the Subscribe Button on the upper part of her “Blog & Subscribe” page and then click the – Subscribe to Brenda’s Blog by E-mail – line. Complete your subscription by entering your e-mail address and accepting the e-mail confirmation.

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  • 1. Delfina Gasoido  |  December 21, 2020 at 10:01 am

    Dear Brenda,
    I honestly do not worry about maintaining my friendships, with none of them I can speak freely as I do here.
    So I just hope that 2021 brings me everything new, fresh, and shiny that I’ve been looking for for so long.

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    • 2. janis´¯`·.¸ʚįɞ  |  December 21, 2020 at 10:43 am


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    • 3. LifeTapestryCreations  |  December 21, 2020 at 1:33 pm

      Dear Cristina,
      I miss friends I no longer interact with as closely or at all at times. I’m waiting for the new, shiny, and fresh too – most days. But somedays, I wish for this isolation, this cocooning stage to last forever. Discovering new us it is.
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,

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  • 4. Eliza Ayres  |  December 21, 2020 at 10:03 am

    Reblogged this on Blue Dragon Journal and commented:
    Started early on this trajectory!

    Liked by 1 person

    • 5. LifeTapestryCreations  |  December 21, 2020 at 1:35 pm

      As always, Eliza, thank you for reblogging my channel on Blue Dragon Journal And YAY for you!

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      • 6. Eliza Ayres  |  December 21, 2020 at 1:48 pm

        Relishing these high vibe energies as we re-member what glorious Creator Beings we are! Enjoy the Solstice and Christmas this week!

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      • 7. LifeTapestryCreations  |  December 21, 2020 at 3:56 pm

        YES to that, Eliza, and any other holidays celebrated in December for all.

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  • 8. janis´¯`·.¸ʚįɞ  |  December 21, 2020 at 11:05 am

    Thank you, Brenda ♥️
    I’m hoping I can allow a friend separation to stick. I keep returning to this relationship I’ve mentioned here before so that hopefully we might separate as friends instead of enemies. I do so much care for his wellbeing. I’ve never experienced this extreme kind of relationship before. Some say that if you don’t let go of ways you don’t prefer by this solstice time that you’ll still remain stuck there…that sounds a bit legalistic to me…I hope it’s not true or that I misunderstood. I so want to move on but I want a respectful version, a loving version…ha! I guess that’s the irony…if it could be a respectful separation, then it’d be a whole different relationship to begin with!
    As always, Bren, thank you for sharing…

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    • 9. LifeTapestryCreations  |  December 21, 2020 at 1:41 pm

      Dear Janice,
      My heart goes out to you. It appears as if this relationship is one of those bug-a-boos. I’ve been there – done that. My hope for you is that you’re comfortably able to move forward in the ways best for you. Determining and implementing that direction will be the greatest service for you both.
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,

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    • 11. Debbie  |  December 21, 2020 at 2:19 pm

      Janis, just set the intention and turn it over to the universe. Don’t question your intention or the timing and it will happen for sure when the time is right!

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      • 12. janis´¯`·.¸ʚįɞ  |  December 21, 2020 at 4:16 pm

        Thank you, Debbie…that means so much…a meaningful way for me to look at it…

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  • 13. elizabethsadhu  |  December 21, 2020 at 11:47 am

    So so true. One of my lovely longtime friends I have barely seen. And a lot of that is because I have given myself lovely boundaries. Pre-COVID I was very tried of her lateness and I did a lot for her and her grown daughters with not much, if any, gratitude. So another COVID blessing. Done with that. She is one of the busiest humans I know. And it always felt like I had to fit into her schedule and I was always waiting for her. And arranging my schedule for her. Done.

    We will see what happens.

    I’ve loved this year in many ways. The quiet. The peace. The staying at home. Ahhhhhh…… My life is full. And full of love and joy.

    Thanks dearest Brenda!!! I love you very much!!


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    • 14. LifeTapestryCreations  |  December 21, 2020 at 4:01 pm

      Dear Sweetie,
      My life feels full also – although there are still some days I miss friendships or activities that used to be so dear to me. But like you, when I review those friendships I ended or seem to have ended, I realize I jumped through hoops to maintain them. Hoop jumping no longer feels comfortable. This is who I am or am becoming – take me or leave me – thank you, 2020.
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Ongoing Creation sparkles,

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  • 15. angelesdecrystal  |  December 21, 2020 at 1:18 pm

    Reblogged this on Mensajes Galácticos.

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    • 16. LifeTapestryCreations  |  December 21, 2020 at 4:02 pm

      As always, Angelsdecrystal, thank you so much for reblogging my channel on Mensajes Galácticos mensajesgalá

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  • 17. Debbie  |  December 21, 2020 at 2:23 pm

    Thanks Brenda. I personally can use a few more months of isolation. It took a long time for me to “shut down” fully. I can feel the magic of untangling my energy from all of the people in my life (all of who I love) in order to re-weave my relationships in the New Earth. Some will be there and some won’t.

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    • 18. LifeTapestryCreations  |  December 21, 2020 at 4:05 pm

      Dear Debbie,
      Your statement says it all. “I can feel the magic of untangling my energy from all of the people in my life (all of who I love) in order to re-weave my relationships in the New Earth. Some will be there and some won’t.” Thank you for phrasing your thoughts so beautifully.
      Blessings, Lots of Love and Ongoing Creation Sparkles,

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